To Be Bored With My Life?

I just want to say thank you for your title "Bored with.... rather than "Bored of ......"

I just want to know how a business runs itself!

Think you're getting some pointless comments - you've admitted you've a lovely life but are asking for advice on not being bored.

I've done a lot of travelling and confirm that although it is fun a few times a year it does get to the point you want to be in your own house and not having stress of travel and finding your feet in a new area. I do think planning one or two lovely exploring holidays can be fun to do and take you out of yourself, if you like that? I'd try to throw in a challenge (hiking or whatever) and make it a "bucket list" type thing.

I also always want to write a book or learn an instrument (I don't have the sticking power at the moment for starters). I'm usually renovating my house in some way which is fun and can take as long as you like.

Alongside these volunteering is great for MH and sense of purpose. I want to walk dogs for Cinnamon Trust or help out somewhere similar. I also want to look at specific women's charities and see what I can do on that front. I think finding something you enjoy and feels worthwhile is key, although manning a shop might be good if you like a chat?

I've got older Dd's now and they aren't home as much which can give a sense of the empty nest to come. It is daunting and I don't think you are alone on finding that at all.

You built a business that runs itself, that’s amazing. How about a starting a charity? Or building a new business that brings something lacking to your community? It sounds like you need a new challenge.

Thank you OP. You can’t help feeling how you do, I understand that. I’ve not read all replies but I will say if you know your life is ‘nice’ example you have no worry money worries, you like your job, kids and relationships are fine etc then I would suggest going to doctors as there could be a chemical imbalance that medication could help with.

I feel shit most of the time because of the stress of worry for my DC. If so someone had to say to me that DC would be married and happy in 10 years, working etc. my outlook would be so different that I’d be over the moon. My sadness isn’t due to a chemical imbalance, it’s due to circumstances.

OP your situation sounds like you can acknowledge you have a good life but you feel unfulfilled…. I think speak to your GP as medication seems to help in these situations.

Good luck x

Gratitude. You've completely ignored @Itsmeeeeee 's valid post.

I get what you are saying and that it is really hard to have a real life conversation with someone about it.

You have obviously set up a successful business to the extent that it now runs largely without you. Why not embrace the challenge of setting another one up. Look for another opportunity. If you don’t need/want the money consider a social enterprise. Or lend your skills to a local organisation.

You are trapped by school-aged children but largely free during the school day. So find things to fill those hours. Try lots of things until a couple stick. Courses - crafts, languages, see what is available locally. Or a project. Like a long walk (eg Hadrians Wall or Cotswold Way) broken up into weekly school-day-sized chunks. You go to the gym - why not train for a specific event (triathlon or bodybuilding).

Ennui is a symptom of being stuck. The only cure is to start making motions. The less you do, the less you want to do.

What lights you up OP?

When was the last time you felt truly alive?

What frightens but also calls you?

What are the whispers in your head?

No offence OP but you come across a bit woe is me, when you have time and money to live a lovely life! Make memories. Find a meaningful way to give back. Travel! Jeez.

Let’s bring some perspective here…. I have a child who is ND. Can barely read or write and my life is full of worry and stress as to how they will cope in secondary and in adulthood. They have an EHCP and it’s unlikely they will ever be independent.

No one wants that stress about their children. Everyone wants their children to go off and make a decent life for themselves.

What you find boring, I would give my kidneys to be in that situation with my DC. You are so lucky and I’d swap wit you in a heartbeat.

To add my dad was abusive and we have no relationship and my man died when I was 21. I feel angry that I had a shit childhood then I have the worry of my DC that will never go.

My point is be thankful for your blessings. People would give their arms and legs to be in your situation.

Thank you. Apols for not being clear re possibly "affair." By this, I've seen and met people who started out border as their DH often worked long hours and often at least 6 days a week.

A polite point and not aimed at you but what I've heard from others and been told be others where people do have an affair. They often say they were "border," hence my post.

Finally, again, good luck and I hope you are able to feel more useful etc

Fair enough. But you've already framed going away in a negative way.

OK. So where do you want to go for a week?

OP

No offence and I'm sure you are not like this. Please, heads-up, don't fall for the charms of a sweet talker.

As you said, you are lucky and its easy to get bored, I do. We don't run a business never have done but me and my OH left work at just over the age of 50, now early 60's - I get bored - FRI, we have our own place, its a nice, lovely place and a couple of rentals/houses all paid off and what many see as nice cars.

We have lovely GC living on the same road - we help them out but love that - we got laptops, tv's, don't do many hols abroad due to sky high travel insurance as now many medical conditions but thankfully we can do what most able people can do but less off - I get very bored and being bored and meeting someone with sweet talk can catch one off guard

Just look at it like this and as you said, you are lucky and everyone gets bored. However, get a hobby as others have stated or do a holiday that you never though of, possibly asking, mountain cliblemins, sailing, etc etc or something more simple close to home, like painting, or helping some charity etc - but never forget you are lucky and you have a lovely family inc DH