To think some regressed memories be made up?

This happened in my extended family also. Following therapy for something completely separate in later life, the family member had repressed memories come back of 3 male family members abusing her at differing times through her life. This also tore the whole family apart. She believes them to be the truth. She never reported it but told everyone in the family what she remembered to have happened she then felt on this information they should cut them off. I think in our families case because it came out all at once it was too hard to comprehend ie ‘this happened to me as a child, then 5 years later this happened to me by another person, then in my late teens this happened to me by another person, no one said to her it didn’t happened as they knew she believed it had but just didn’t know what to think . It resulted in her cutting herself off from everyone. We still don’t know to this day if it is true or not

This situation is not the same as these are not bad memories but I have a few memories that I can visual, smell where I was and even feel the natural area around one

I was never where I remember it was not possible to be there as a child but it is real to me

There's a good podcast called "you're wrong about" and they cover the Satanic panic in the 80s I think it was. The long and short of it is that people can have lives destroyed by accounts of things that didn't happen.
on the other hand, People also have traumatic events happen to them and may have blocked out painful memories and these may have distorted slightly over time. So she may have been abused but not by this man or not at the time she said.
It's not clear from the post what, if anything, she intends to do about it. Is she accusing the man? If she's not intending to go to the police, you may want to suggest that she considers carefully the fact that she may be accused of defamation herself if she is just going around telling people this. Otherwise personally I'd stay out of it, she sounds quite troubled

Something similar has happened in my extended family. Someone who has been 'troubled' for much of his life has apparently uncovered repressed memories about family members who are all dead and can't defend themselves. Other family members are certain it didn't happen the way he thinks it did, which casts doubt on any of it being true. Sadly it's torn the family apart.

If the circumstances she alleges couldn’t have happened as the people involved didn’t know each other and the other person she says is a victim says it didn’t happen then it’s most likely it didn’t happened.

Oh my god I’m so sorry, my auto correct corrected it….sorry, not sure where I said I was judging anyone, just trying to get some advice on what to do!

The judgement you are making is that it did not happen.

From what I’ve read repressed memories were all the rage in the 80s with all these kids ‘remembering’ satanic rituals and stuff. It’s very easy to plant false memories in someone’s head. If anything, traumatic events tend to be relived over and over rather than forgotten.

my husbands son made similar claims that someone abused him based on repressed memories. It all started around the same time he started smoking weed heavily. I think it’s all drug induced.

I’m puzzled as to why you appear to feel qualified to judge on this matter. You can’t possibly know this abuse didn’t take place.

I can't comment on the specifics of your post OP, however, to answer the question in your thread title, yes, I think that sometimes memories can be made up (though of course not always maliciously or intentionally) and that some people will come to believe a memory is real when it is not as this study seemed to indicate.

https://www.washington.edu/news/2001/06/11/i-tawt-i-taw-a-bunny-wabbit-at-disneyland-new-evidence-shows-false-memories-can-be-created/#:~:text=About%20one%2Dthird%20of%20the,Bunny%20is%20a%20Warner%20Bros.

@atticstage oh sorry i missed that bit

She didn't say ruining a man's life

If you're going to make judgments about this, at least get the terminology correct - it's 'repressed memories', not regressed.

It's a really complex area. Memory of traumatic events can be repressed, but false memories can also feel real.

psychcentral.com/ptsd/repressed-trauma

Repressed memories are a Freudian concept that aren't really supported by modern psychology. If people have been abused or experienced trauma then they generally remember it (although they may have forgotten details that will come out again in therapy).

Narcissists accuse others of being narcissists. If you are sure her accusations are false, she is a very dangerous individual unless she changes her ways.

I also got the impression that my sister in law was quite perverted sexually, and her accusations were projections of her own mind. Her head was really in the gutter.
Perhaps your friend feels shame over something and is now pointing fingers.

That's terrible!

Could your friend be a narcissist? My sister in law was also very me, me, me, and had zero empathy towards those she made false allegations about. No shame afterwards either.

If you're sure she is imagining this, you must stick up for this innocent man. You can threaten her with slander if she keeps entertaining the notion.

Many aspects of therapy make their clients worse than better.