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Guy I'm dating making jokes about threesome

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Stupidjokehhh · 12/05/2024 19:08

Started dating this guy 6 months ago. Initially I wasn't certain if it was just a casual thing as we hadn't clarified our intentions. I was very upset when he joked about a threesome making me question if our relationship was solely about sex. However a few weeks later we had a serious conversation where we both expressed our feelings and agreed it was more than just physical. I mentioned how the threesome comment had deeply upset me, and he apologised sincerely promising not to make such jokes again. He reassured me of his commitment expressing distress at having upset me. Fast forward three months and he's made another inappropriate threesome joke today. He was very apologic when I got upset and said that he had forgetten our conversation. I'm thinking about ending things over this. Would I be overreacting?
I know the jokes are not in a malicious way and he would be heartbroken if I ended things

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Lovemusic82 · 12/05/2024 19:17

BirthdayRainbow · 12/05/2024 19:11

What's funny about a threesome? Exactly. So it's not a joke he's conditioning you to think it is so he can keep banging on about it then backtrack when you understandably are not interested.

I think many men do think it’s funny, often because it’s a fantasy that will likely never happen.

I dated a guy once that mentioned it a few times, I said “yeah ok as long as the 3rd person is a man” he then got really upset and never mentioned it again.

He is obviously a total sleaze, you told him not to mention it again because it upset you but he too no notice. He has no respect for you.

XiCi · 12/05/2024 19:15

What exactly is he saying? Is he suggesting you have a threesome?

ClairemacL · 12/05/2024 19:13

Lol he’s testing the water…

BirthdayRainbow · 12/05/2024 19:11

What's funny about a threesome? Exactly. So it's not a joke he's conditioning you to think it is so he can keep banging on about it then backtrack when you understandably are not interested.

WatermelonLou · 12/05/2024 19:10

In the kindest possible way, you seem triggered by the aspect or mention of a threesome? Whether it was a flippant or meaning comment is it that you're sensitive about it?

Vistada · 12/05/2024 19:09

He knows it upsets you, he doesn't care.

Six months in should still be honeymoon.

Leave him.

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