Why are you married?

I met him on a night out. I was dating a man I met on tinder (turned out to be an idiot) and they knew each other. Then I would see him around, he added me on Facebook and then he asked me out after tinder man was long gone.

I'm guessing of course, but I get the impression that people have given you a hard time about being unmarried at some point. If that's the case, it's their issue not yours.

We all have different set ups and what is right for some won't be right for others. If you do decide you want to marry later, that doesn't mean you were wrong to be unmarried earlier. The most important thing is to do whatever suits you. I hope that worrying about what people think (whether that's when you're unmarried or married) doesn't impact any decision you make.

I am happy to be married, however I regret allowing my family and in laws bully me into a large cringeworthy wedding to impress their friends. That was definitely a mistake!

It isn't pointless though. If something happens to either of you, by being married you are next of kin. Also in the event of death, you may not receive any share of pension unless you are married.

It was important for both of us regarding future family (dh adopted my ds). We liked the idea of marriage, both sets of our parents were married 50+ yrs.
Not once did we do it for financial/security,never ever gave it a moment's thought until I read the reasons on here.
Def dont think we are superior to non married long term couples. We have a friend who isn't married but has been with her Dp nearly 30yrs. I think its great because at that time it would probably have been socially expected but they chose not to and did what they wanted.

This is a strange thing to say. What is there to be embarrassed about?

Judging from this and your other posts, I think you protest too much. If you are so content with being unmarried, why would you want to know why other people get married, or think they were looking down on you for being single? You seem quite resentful of married people. Why?

I realise that a lot (not all) singles would like to be married, but it doesn't happen for them, especially if they find themselves in a long-term relationship with someone who doesn't want to marry them. They cover their hurt and disappointment by pretending to themselves and others that they don't want to be married, or some nonsense about feeling embarrassed about being married.

Are you one of those singles OP?

1. We wanted to make a promise to each other in front of our relatives, closest friends, and God, that we would be together.
2. I would not have children with someone who is unwilling to make that promise with me.
3. Once we had children, the dreaded Gender Pay Gap became very real. Even though our children are now teenagers, I am still miles behind with salary, career progression, and pension. If the worst happens, as a spouse, I have rights to compensate for what I missed out on career-wise during my childbearing years.

For me, it definitely wasn't about "taking his name." Not for me, personally. Ditto to title change.

Because he's the love of my life. He's my person.

He needed a visa to move to my home country and the easiest way to get one was to get married.

I loved him and wanted the legal protection marriage provides before we had children. My sibling has been with their partner far longer than I have and I forgot they aren't married, I don't go around thinking about others Relationship status.

Getting married isn't compulsory. Do it, don't do it. You're the only one bringing judgement to the table. I got married because I wanted to marry dh. It was nothing to do with anyone else's relationships.

I got married as it was what people expected of me and I had already spent thousands on a wedding and said as much to my Dad when he asked me on my wedding day if I was sure I wanted to go through with it.

Worst mistake of my life. Definitely didn't feel superior.

Why?

I'd almost feel embarrassed to get married now. I'd have to do it in secret if it ever was to happen

Have you been wandering around for years telling married people they are 'sheeple' for getting married ? Because that would be a daft excuse, you are with someone you love, you trust them enough to enter into a legal contract, regardless of the reasons, you can both choose the type of celebration you have if any.

Haven’t RTFT but I did it for my parents/grabdparents. Me and DH were the only serious couple in our family, with kids, a house etc. We had no reason not to, I adore him, but it wasn’t a financial priority for us. Mum offered me the money for a wedding and my grandad was very old and frail at the time, if I was going to get married I’d want him there, so we did. Both him and my mum died very suddenly shortly after so me and DH are very glad we did it, although it hasn’t changed our lives in any massive way it really brought a lot of joy to important people in our lives

Why? I got married at 42 and we had a great day, it was small with less than 25 of us but it was lovely!

Why? Plenty of people get married later on. Unless you've been banging on about how rubbish marriage is?

I knew my husband since we were thirteen so there was some joint history there - our fathers worked together. When he asked me to marry him he said what's his is ours and what is your you keep (he earned a lot more than me then). He wanted a big family and a partner that he loved. I stopped working with our first born and went back to school fitted in and around raising the kids.

We have grown together rather than apart and supported each other through ups and downs. I am very lucky, he is a wonderful husband and father and I love him to bits - as do all our children.

But I still wanted the security of marriage before I committed to having a child.

Because I love him
Because I wanted to take his name
Just because!

Dh was about to start earning the top end of 6 figures, being married saves thousands in tax, the proposal was me saying to him, let's get married, think of the money we'll save, (he's self employed) and we have 2 DC so also for legal protection.

Because we loved each other and couldn't imagine live without one another. 25 years married and still devoted to one another.

I certainly don't feel superior to people who have chosen not, but I do worry about some people who I see as being very financially vulnerable because they aren't married.