Please tell me the joys you have of living alone

Just the peace and quiet would be blissful. I’ve just watched an hour long TV drama (The Responder) with my DH. He spoke 38 times. Yes I counted. Chatting about the tv show, saying his ankle is itching, talking about the windows needing cleaning. I just politely replied with the odd ‘yeah’ ‘Mmm’. But fuck me, shut the fuck up. If I’m honest living alone was the happiest time of my life. True freedom.

I am doing lots and lots of running around after my 17 year old who lives 2 hours away so it involves a lot of my time and is perhaps me being over the top. I don't care and I can do literally whatever i want as there is no one to tell me it's ridiculous.

I think its mostly been covered and whilst technically not ‘alone’ as I live with my teenage son I can agree with…

Never having to compromise, you can have everything just the way you want it.

Being able to do what you want when you want without having to run it past someone else.

Not having to clean up after someone else (I don’t fully get this one because of said teenager but I can imagine its lovely things staying tidy).

Its quiet and peaceful. No arguments or treading on eggshells.

Not having to share a bed and being able to sprawl out and going to bed on my timetable not someone elses. Can also nap when I want.

I think for a long time I worried about being alone but now I honestly don’t think I could live with someone again. I cherish my peace and solitude and the fact I don’t have to compromise.

I can do whatever I bloody well want...

Unless the cat is sat on me, of course.

I think it's very different living completely on your own to living as the only adult in the house. I've done both and it can be lonely being on your own but very very liberating.

I found it took a bit of getting used to. However, I love it now. Quiet, peaceful, restful, interesting as a new phase in your life, a sense of freedom. You get to choose on all decisions. I really hope you enjoy it. I had to be alone to find myself. All the very best for your new chapter.

I just got into bed and theres no one to post on mumsnet about whether its too early and why do i sleep so much

OP- I'm currently lying naked on top of my bed with a face mask on

Listening to the torrential rain

Watching BGT

No one to wobble my belly
Ask wtf am I doing and why do I watch that shit

Bliss

Freedom for all snoozers and non snoozers... bliss 😊

Or being the person who snoozes their alarm millions of times before getting up! 😊

No judgement. I can do whatever I like, whenever I want to and no one has any say in the matter.

Inviting your pals over for a cuppa and gossip

Decorating how your like

Watching what you want

Peace and quiet when you want it

Long baths

As tidy (or u tidy) as suits you

More wardrobe space

Less clutter

Every single bloody thing.

Technically I don't live alone, I have 2 kids and a dog. But there isn't a chance in hell I'm living with another bloke again.

I love it. I thought I'd be lonely, but honestly the more time I spend by myself the less I want others in my space. It's my sanctuary and I'm keeping it that way!

I love it! I have a beautiful home that is 100% my taste. I can invite who I want, when I want. I can watch whatever I want on tv. I had a start of summer party yesterday - and today I have had the house entirely to myself. I sat in my beautiful Garden and read a book and am now watching loot on Apple TV!

I lived house hunting alone - no compromises!

I have have a dressing room and my own home office!

My house was owned by a solo woman before me and you could tell! The dressing room is perfection😍.

my niece is threatening to move into the spare room - but she is ten so I have a few years yet😂

Oh yes a very important one! Not being a man’s wank sock. Never, ever having sex unless I want to. Not feeling that horrible pressure when you haven’t ‘given’ him sex in a few days. Not having to put up with crap sex with men who cum in 30 seconds, and faking it so they don’t feel bad.

For me its not having to deal with a drunk idiot who is then trying to start an argument....not feeling guilty if i sit down and scroll on my phone.
Just general contentment and peace.
I have a partner but will never ever live witj him.

For me the moments when I feel the most appreciative that I am living alone after a 20+ year marriage is when I go to bed and when I wake up. He was a massive snorer and it’s blissful knowing that you will get a quiet nights sleep.

i also really appreciate not having to listen to Match of the fucking day on a weekend morning or spend an afternoon hearing F1 cars from the TV for hours and hours. Now I don’t turn the TV on until the evening if at all.

You know what, and I'm gonna sound like a bit of shitty person perhaps..

Being alone means I don't have to have my life revolve around some other someone's issues.
I see so many women's lives overtaken by their Husbands Alcoholism, porn addiction, affair, coercions and, here's where I don the flame shield, their husbands depression or anxiety etc.

I couldn't imagine living my life managing someone else's issues... I spend my life managing my own.

I don't imagine handing the TV remote to some other fucker either tbh.

Plus, and the biggest barrier to me having a partner .. I fucking hate people. Being a misanthrope is much easier when you're also an isolationist with schizoid personality disorder

🤣🤣

This is my life!
Lived with someone years ago, who when living by himself could do all housework, the minute I moved in he lost that ability: bloody infuriating! I did almost everything but refused to wash his clothes (everything else was shared stuff).
Anyway fast forward: live by myself and sometimes the place is smart, sometimes it's a tip, but it is entirely my choice and I cannot imagine living any other way now

Oh... not listening to someone snooze thier alam 8 times waking the whole house who don't need to wake up for another 2 hours.

And why not. I hope you enjoy every minute too xxx

Rest and sleep when you like. Not feel obliged to have sex. Not having the mood of the home/family being dominated by one person.
Not being constantly watched and critised.
Not resenting the lack of help.
Cleaner home.
Cleaner toilet.
Safety. Calm. My children being raised in a safe calm home.

This is a wonderful description and clearly shows someone who has come through the shit times and is now relishing the good times. Solidarity from a fellow living-aloner!

I love this thank you - I’m not the slightest bit soft but I may have welled up a little reading that as it really resonates x

You can change your plans to suit your mood. I went to bed before 9pm yesterday because I was exhausted. Got up early today and did some gardening, out to pub gig at 5pm with no planning at all.

The explanations and negotiation for a change of routine when I was married would have been ridiculous.