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Won’t you be hot in that? Aibu to think don’t ask someone this?

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beenoutontheopenroad · 12/05/2024 09:27

I’m overweight (I’m doing something about it but regardless) and I hate showing parts of my body which is difficult when the suns out.

Yesterday I met up with friends and had a t-shirt on that was a 3 quarter length sleeve. Straight away I got asked “won’t you be hot in that”.

If you’re that person please just don’t comment this, it personally makes me feel shit as it’s taken me ages to get ready and I already feel so far out of my comfort zone . It’s also irrelevant to you if I’m hot as I’m the one who has to deal with it.

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WolfFoxHare · 12/05/2024 09:37

Tbh I don’t think people should say anything about people’s clothes choices unless it’s ’wow that’s pretty/cool/looks lovely’. Clothes are such a personal thing and lots of people have poor body image that their clothes choices might be due to.

CharlotteRumpling · 12/05/2024 09:36

I think you are overreacting. It's normal conversation. Nobody cares if you are overweight.

Havesome2024 · 12/05/2024 09:36

I would only comment if it was my child who was dressed inappropriately not another adult.

soupfiend · 12/05/2024 09:34

Its a comment about your choice of clothing and the weather.

Jesus, normal conversational points are completely dead when you cant even talk about the weather!!!

MinistryOfTragic · 12/05/2024 09:33

I'm overweight too. I wouldn't bat an eyelid at this.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 12/05/2024 09:33

I totally agree, I have extensive self harm scars (and sometimes fresher cuts if I’m going through a relapse/ bad time) so often tend to stick to long sleeves and I get asked this all the time in the hotter months. It makes me uncomfortable because I don’t know how to respond, yes a lot of the time I am hot and uncomfortable in what I’m wearing but less uncomfortable than it would be to have people stare at my arms all day!

There are lots of reasons people might not want to dress in short sleeves or other summer clothes and I completely agree other people shouldn’t be commenting.

ComtesseDeSpair · 12/05/2024 09:32

It’s a perfectly reasonable remark really, much the same as if a friend showed up in a light T-shirt on a chilly January day, most people would ask “are you sure you’re going to be warm enough?”

Most people aren’t focusing on your weight as much as you are. They’re just not wanting to have to put up with you moaning about being too hot later on I suspect.

RichardsGear · 12/05/2024 09:30

'No, I'm fine.'

If they start banging on about it then yes, that would be irritating, but an initial comment? Shut it down and move on.

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