Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Do you post pic of your children's faces online / judge people who do / don't and why ?

159 replies

sicklye · 12/05/2024 08:48

I occasionally post pics of my kids on FB and instagram.

Maybe once or twice a year. I occasionally do stories too. Maybe 3 to 4 times a year.

I decided that if it wasn't too often, it would be fine.

Some people never post at all or some blur out the faces.

Others post daily.

What's your stance on this and what are you reasons for posting / not posting / blurring out faces ?

OP posts:
sicklye · 12/05/2024 09:13

DaisyChain505 · 12/05/2024 09:10

Children shouldn’t be put online. They can’t tell you what photos or posts they like or approve of. What information they don’t mind you sharing with the world. Imagine if every detail of your childhood was online for the world to see? Would you be happy that your friends and work colleagues had seen a video of your first wee on the potty? Or a video of you having a tantrum over something that your mum thought was funny at the time?

leave kids offline.

I don't think my children are going to mind a pic of them with their birthday cake... it's not a big deal to post a pic with a birthday cake. I doubt they're going to lose out on jobs when they're older because of their 2nd birthday pic online 🤦🏻‍♀️

OP posts:
TeenLifeMum · 12/05/2024 09:13

I happily post pics on fb (dc are happy for me too - I checked when they were old enough and now they’re 12-16). They also often feature in the local newspaper as they perform multiple times a year.

Most dc have permission to feature in the school social media channels too. just a small number (around 5) in each year group who can’t be in the school pics.

DramaLlamaBangBang · 12/05/2024 09:12

Deliberationdivinationdesperation · 12/05/2024 09:06

I post photos of mine on my private Instagram but that's it. And I would never post a photo of her in the bath, or if she's not fully clothed, etc etc.

I don't judge parents who post on their private social media unless it's a photo in the bath or something.

One thing I hate is our local paper publishes (both in print and online/on their social media pages) photos of newborn babies that month and kids on their first day of school. All with their full names, where they live, what class they're in, full uniform etc. I fully 100% judge the parents who send their photos in to that. The paper also publish reception class photos and I have no idea why they're allowed to do that or how to make sure my child doesn't feature when the time comes.

You have to sign permission forms to allow your child's picture to be used for publicity when they start school. If you don't want them in any public photos, make sure you read all the documents you need to sign and make sure you don't tick the permissions box.

DaisyChain505 · 12/05/2024 09:10

Children shouldn’t be put online. They can’t tell you what photos or posts they like or approve of. What information they don’t mind you sharing with the world. Imagine if every detail of your childhood was online for the world to see? Would you be happy that your friends and work colleagues had seen a video of your first wee on the potty? Or a video of you having a tantrum over something that your mum thought was funny at the time?

leave kids offline.

Hoardasurass · 12/05/2024 09:06

I don't post pictures of myself let alone my dc.
I've always been of the opinion that it should be up to the individual to decide what images of them posted online.
My dd (now an adult) is endlessly grateful for this as when employers Google her they only get her linked in, rather than dodgy pictures from way back when, unlike many of her friends who have lost job opportunities because of images posted by friends and family

Deliberationdivinationdesperation · 12/05/2024 09:06

I post photos of mine on my private Instagram but that's it. And I would never post a photo of her in the bath, or if she's not fully clothed, etc etc.

I don't judge parents who post on their private social media unless it's a photo in the bath or something.

One thing I hate is our local paper publishes (both in print and online/on their social media pages) photos of newborn babies that month and kids on their first day of school. All with their full names, where they live, what class they're in, full uniform etc. I fully 100% judge the parents who send their photos in to that. The paper also publish reception class photos and I have no idea why they're allowed to do that or how to make sure my child doesn't feature when the time comes.

lljkk · 12/05/2024 09:03

I post pics of my kids.
One of my cousins posted lots of themselves before child was born & since (6 years ago?) they post nothing of selves or child.
I am curious how that turns out.
I can't muster further interest, except that people have always LOOKED and WATCHED each other. I can't see how watching & looking is different online.

Scooby2024 · 12/05/2024 09:01

I don't post my DS face if I do post with him in. Tbh I don't post often and it's usually a special reason to why I have posted. All my friends and family know his face is not allowed on social media. This is just something me and my fiancé wanted. I don't judge others for posting however I do dislike seeing photos of kids in the bath, half naked etc as I think they could get into the wrong hands.

Sammysquiz · 12/05/2024 08:58

I don’t post any pictures of my DC. I work for the police dealing with child exploitation though, so I am much more alert to the misuse of pictures than others are. I would also hate it if someone put pictures of me up without my consent, and that is in effect what someone is doing whenever they post a photo of a child.