Do you post pic of your children's faces online / judge people who do / don't and why ?

There's peados everywhere, stop posting pics of your kids online for gods sake

I used to post quite a lot - on Instagram and Facebook both set to private. I don’t mean daily, but fairly regularly. DD was born in lockdown, I wanted to share her with friends and family who couldn’t meet her in person - I do only have friends and family on there and actually had a big cull just before she was born to ensure I only had people I’d be happy to see any pictures on there.

I never posted anything potentially embarrassing like tantrums etc, and always fully clothed.

I’ve been posting less and less as she’s got older - nothing for a while and I’m not sure if I will again really. I feel a bit differently about it now somehow. I’ve realised it’s purely for me,
for my benefit (and I guess so those who genuinely are interested get to see what she’s up to) but actually none of that is for her benefit.

I do agree with a PP that these threads are always full of people who don’t post any pictures of their children, but in real life I don’t know anyone who doesn’t share at least the occasional photo and in my years of teaching it was only ever one or two parents per year group who opted out of any photos being shared online.

Some people really do over share - I do judge one mum I know who posts constant medical info about her son and pictures of him in hospital etc - I think it’s awful.

Thats your opinion. And yes it is. Nothing wrong putting a photo on too. Most people post in real life. Just not people on mumsnet

I don't post pictures of my children online. I don't feel strongly about it, but I'd like it to be their decision as much as possible what their online footprint looks like.

I don't judge people who do. I can be a bit judgy about people who post embarrassing photos - I think anything that would mortify your child if their future teenage friends saw it isn't a great idea. But just general photos of kids - fine, I can think of good reasons why you might.

So it's not for support then.

I don’t post my DC’s face or if it’s in the pic I cover/ blur it. I don’t judge people who post once in awhile; however I do judge adults who make their living from content that includes their child(ren) regularly- it’s not right to me to use their children this way as they don’t understand/ can’t consent.

I have never posted photos of me or any member of my family on a public forum and can't think of any reason why I would do so.

Yes but she isn't posting in particular groups... she's updating her status say "X has had another appt with the geneticist to see if she's small or a dwarf". On her FB page to over 1k people.

It's bizzare and wrong to be posting her 5 year olds medical information all over FB, especially when its paired with her schooling and photo updates every day. I knew when this child started potty training. Its wrong.

Up until DS was 6 I did not post him online. If he was in a group photo at a school event or something like that was the only exception. What changed was just before his 6th birthday he asked why I didn’t put photos of him on Facebook like his friends are (it was also a week before we went into lock down).

Now I do post him but always show him the photo before hand and get him to check he is happy with it. I also go through my facebook one a month and remove old photos so there is not a backlog of his image online. He is 10 now and this works well for us. I am very aware that his image is not mine and we have drilled it into him that once it’s our there you can’t get it back so to be sure what you share.

Because my friends and family like to see her.

Why do you need to post her photo?

Surely you can protect her privacy and still get support?

I sometimes post a pic on my dd’s birthday and that’s it. I also dont have any pics of her on my page

My daughter has an allergy and its been so hard and I post for support

The other thing is that social media is quite a good way to know your information is there for you to look at. It’s a highlights real that can be as private as you want, with as few followers as you want. I never trust that iCloud etc won’t fuck up and delete everything and it feels a bit safer somehow knowing some key moments are logged somewhere for me to look back at.

Not in a million years.

Happy to share DDs photo with family/friends, with strict understanding it will not find it's way to SM under any circumstances.

I don't post any photos of DS.

Would you not have those memories in any case?

@entiawest thats fair enough! Trying to think of the occasions I have.. two were for competitions (one for WBD costume and one holding up a picture they’d drawn). I am in the habit of asking them anytime I do! Think that’s just common courtesy to do for anyone.

Photos of children crying 😩 just why would that be a parent’s first thought to not only take a photo, but post it? It’s so strange.

But there is no support? A couple of likes isn't worth her daughters privacy.

@FarmCFer yes, children in hospital, or hurt, or just upset about something and crying - that's particularly bizarre. But I disagree with posting any pictures of young children who can't consent, and blurring their faces or putting a heart over is pointless. Just let children spend their formative years offline!

I post pics of my kids. I hid lots of my early FB albums as they went to secondary school so they can only now be seen by me just in case of any unintended embarrassment (although no naked/bath pics or anything like that).

I don't judge people who don't post their kids, I barely notice, but I sort of do judge people who people who post obscure pics/only hands/back of head etc as it's kind of boring so I think why bother.

It isn't with everyone. I don't post for the likes

When my children were babies and toddlers I would put up a lot of photos and videos of them on Instagram, and a little bit on Facebook (private accounts with only close friends and family as followers). However, when my dd got to school age, simultaneously I started feeling uncomfortable about what I was putting up about her (mainly photos/videos of her saying or doing funny things) and she started saying she didn't want to have her photo on instagram. So I started limiting it to rare photos of her posing with the family at occasions/events rather than more personal photos. I did the same with my ds. I got rid of Facebook and Instagram last year so it's no longer an issue now anyway. Dh never posts anything on social media, and none of our close family or friends really use social media for posting anymore so my dc (10 and 6) have barely appeared on social media for years now.

I don’t have Facebook or instagram.
only twitter - the few I post, I blur their faces out.
I work closely with Safeguarding so have become lots stricter as a result.
judgemental? Hmm. I don’t really understand the need to post photos of children to be honest. Any photos I want to share would be with family, and I do that via WhatsApp.
What I really do judge is posting photos of children who are injured/in hospital etc. Really bizarre behaviour.

My settings are private only friends can see (and that's about 40). I always ask my kids if I can post a pic before I do.