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To think Meghan should have chosen a Nigerian stylist

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LateAF · 12/05/2024 07:33

For her Nigerian tour. Whoever put the outfits together for her has no clue on culturally appropriate attire. When I was a child it was drummed into me to cover my shoulders- especially in formal settings. So far all her dresses have been strappy or shoulder less (even backless!), while all the women in the photos with her have their shoulders covered as is the norm.

Also the relentless neutrals are uninspiring in a country where colourful clothing is standard. There are many amazing Nigerian or west African designers she could have highlighted on this tour (one of the images is from Lagos fashion week).

Please this is NOT a Meghan bashing thread so take your nasty comments to the Royal Family board (hence why I didn’t post on there). I think she looks stunning and her hair and makeup have been spot on. I also like how welcoming the Nigerian community have been- and I know they will give her a pass for her outfits since she’s an outsider. Just wondering what the consensus is.

YABU- she’s a foreigner so can dress how she likes
YANBU- clothing on a “royal” tour should be culturally appropriate and tailored to that region

To think Meghan should have chosen a Nigerian stylist
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To think Meghan should have chosen a Nigerian stylist
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Arraminta · 12/05/2024 16:19

Now this latest yellow dress is a definite improvement, the colour is excellent on her but again it's much too long. The hem is dragging in the dirt and she's having to hitch up the skirt. And she is very much wearing the wrong bra again.

You'd assume she'd do a prior try on of all these dress and choose suitable underwear and get the hems tailored.

TheKeatingFive · 12/05/2024 15:54

FaeryRing · 12/05/2024 14:48

She doesn’t want to be left alone. That’s literally the last thing she wants. She’s literally on a publicity tour. Lol

If no one was interested click the links, the media wouldn't bother reporting.

Yet here you are - giving her the attention you've decided she craves. If your reading of the situation is correct you are literally part of the problem.

TheKeatingFive · 12/05/2024 15:51

Oh look. Another ridiculous reason to criticise Meghan Markle. I'll add it to a list that's already many mile long 🙄

PrincessTeaSet · 12/05/2024 15:42

BigBadBarri · 12/05/2024 14:33

But my point is - how can anyone tell what’s a positive celebration and what’s apparent appropriation?

I am quite sure she would have been accused of appropriating something

Depends on the intention, surely? Wearing it because you like it =fine. Wearing it as a joke or to mock people or because you know you can get away with it when the people whose culture it actually came from can't= potentially not fine.

PrincessTeaSet · 12/05/2024 15:22

LateAF · 12/05/2024 10:54

I’m Nigerian but you have Nigerian friends so you must be right 🙄

Not Nigerian either but spent much time there and other west African countries...I think people there are generally accepting of foreigners and willing to make allowances, they don't seem bothered about what foreigners wear. I found people non judgemental on the whole. (And a lot more friendly and helpful than in the UK it has to be said). If they thought her clothes inappropriate they would be likely to put it down to cultural differences rather than getting into a tiz about it.

PrincessTeaSet · 12/05/2024 15:16

DramaLlamaBangBang · 12/05/2024 10:49

Her mother is Black, so she is half Black. Whatever people think, she is not White. When the Daily Mail said she was 'Straight outta Compton' when they first started dating, it wasn't because they thought she was White, or even half White. It was to tell every one of their readers in no uncertain terms that she was Black.

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If she's half black she must also be half white (unless you're claiming the rest is native American or something). To me it seems pretty racist to say that to be white you must be 100% white but to if 75% white 25% black you must be black

x2boys · 12/05/2024 15:13

LateAF · 12/05/2024 14:49

I’m really sad to hear that as that wasn’t my intention and I really like Meghan and her style, in what way do my comments feed into it? Genuine question.

Yeah right 🙄

ReadySetSit · 12/05/2024 15:13

LateAF · 12/05/2024 14:49

I’m really sad to hear that as that wasn’t my intention and I really like Meghan and her style, in what way do my comments feed into it? Genuine question.

None of you are starting constant threads on what Harry is wearing, put it that way.

x2boys · 12/05/2024 15:12

Higglings · 12/05/2024 13:15

I don't know why anyone is remotely interested in the woman.

Dont you?
You only have to go on the royal family boatd and read all the comments on articles about her to see that people slating her every move and wishing whe would go away are in fact very interested in her and watching her every move ,they wouldn't have a hobby otherwise

smilingeleanor · 12/05/2024 15:12

much prefer todays outfits - love the gifted skirt although not too sure about the white shirt with it - but she does that alot with skirts

yellow dress and the green wrap - lovely colours which suit her well - dress maybe a bit too long but simple lines and hair up gives it a sleek look

red made her look boxy although colour was good

white was ok but agree not right for the event

pink - terrible and inappropriate given its side less

LateAF · 12/05/2024 14:49

ReadySetSit · 12/05/2024 14:26

You’re feeding into the misogynistic Daily Mail-ish narrative @LateAF. If you can’t see that, crack on.

I rarely comment on Megan threads, as they’re always the same people bitching away. I’ll go back to that, I think!

I’m really sad to hear that as that wasn’t my intention and I really like Meghan and her style, in what way do my comments feed into it? Genuine question.

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FaeryRing · 12/05/2024 14:48

stormonaspringmorn · 12/05/2024 14:37

Just came on to say the red dress was actually from a Nigerian designer but someone's beaten me to it.

Just leave her alone ffs

She doesn’t want to be left alone. That’s literally the last thing she wants. She’s literally on a publicity tour. Lol

TheFairyCaravan · 12/05/2024 14:46

Just leave her alone. You knew exactly what you were doing when you started this thread, despite your claim of “this isn’t a Meghan thread…” nonsense. It always was and you’ve achieved your aim. Well done.

Ireolu · 12/05/2024 14:37

I am Nigerian and I am not offended by any of the stuff she has worn. I quite like the white shirt and what looks like 'aso oke' on the bottom. Its her take on it and I think she looks fine and most importantly like herself.

stormonaspringmorn · 12/05/2024 14:37

Just came on to say the red dress was actually from a Nigerian designer but someone's beaten me to it.

Just leave her alone ffs

BigBadBarri · 12/05/2024 14:33

PickledMumion · 12/05/2024 09:06

It mostly depends on context. If a white person is celebrated for, or profits from, something that others have been mocked/discriminated for over the years, especially if they show no awareness of any specific meaning it may hold, then that can cause resentment.

I've been to two Indian weddings - I was too worried to wear a sari to the first, but when I saw how many white people were wearing wearing traditional Indian dress, I did wear one to the second wedding. It was intended, and perceived, as a celebration of a beautiful item of clothing. If I then brought out my own clothing line and started posing constantly in a sari on insta to try and sell them, that would be less well received!

But it's always worth remembering that there's no actual law against cultural appropriation. Just trial by social media.

But my point is - how can anyone tell what’s a positive celebration and what’s apparent appropriation?

I am quite sure she would have been accused of appropriating something

ReadySetSit · 12/05/2024 14:26

You’re feeding into the misogynistic Daily Mail-ish narrative @LateAF. If you can’t see that, crack on.

I rarely comment on Megan threads, as they’re always the same people bitching away. I’ll go back to that, I think!

LateAF · 12/05/2024 14:23

Houseplanter · 12/05/2024 14:08

Does anyone know why all (that I've seen anyway) of her dresses are full length? Seems she's covering her legs if not her shoulders.

Is this expected?

That’s just her personal preference I imagine. Length-wise knee, below knee and maxi are all appropriate. It’s just the sleeveless and strappy styles that are more out there.

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LateAF · 12/05/2024 14:22

ReadySetSit · 12/05/2024 14:17

Wears cultural dress = cultural appropriation
Wears muted tones = boring, dull, uninspiring
Wears bright colours = flashy, attention-seeking
Covers up = stuffy, frumpy
Reveals some flesh = inappropriate, trashy
Longer length - why is she covering her legs?
Shorter length - she hasn’t got the legs for that!
Floaty dress = is she pregnant?
Fitted dress = she’s too skinny!

Honestly, catch on to yourselves, the lot of you!

Who has said any of those things on here except for wear more colour and cover her shoulders?

None of her dresses are trashy and I haven’t seen anyone say as such. No one has commented on her body or figure. Seems like you spend too much time on the daily mail and are looking for some outrage.

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ReadySetSit · 12/05/2024 14:17

Wears cultural dress = cultural appropriation
Wears muted tones = boring, dull, uninspiring
Wears bright colours = flashy, attention-seeking
Covers up = stuffy, frumpy
Reveals some flesh = inappropriate, trashy
Longer length - why is she covering her legs?
Shorter length - she hasn’t got the legs for that!
Floaty dress = is she pregnant?
Fitted dress = she’s too skinny!

Honestly, catch on to yourselves, the lot of you!

Houseplanter · 12/05/2024 14:08

Does anyone know why all (that I've seen anyway) of her dresses are full length? Seems she's covering her legs if not her shoulders.

Is this expected?

NoOneFellOffTheirChair · 12/05/2024 13:47

I stand corrected. The Lights Academy is a Christian based school. Their core values are

‘Equipping learners to be Christ-centered, innovative and excellent leaders, empowering and launching them to make a distinctive positive impact in their generation and beyond’

Still totally inappropriate to wear a backless dress in that setting imo. There’s no way most dignitaries would show up at any school dressed like that, let alone a faith based one.

Westfacing · 12/05/2024 13:22

Higglings · 12/05/2024 13:15

I don't know why anyone is remotely interested in the woman.

Why are any of us remotely interested in anything?

MN is a talk board so some posters are interested in talking about Meghan's clothes, including you.

coupdetonnerre · 12/05/2024 13:20

Oriunda · 12/05/2024 13:14

  1. She wore a red dress by a Nigerian designer yesterday. Now sold out and website crashed.
  1. She's wearing the gifted wrap today and is now getting flak because the (long-sleeved) shirt 'doesn't go'.

She really can't catch a fucking break, can she?

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No she can't EVER! People will pick and poke to no end!
Meghan should wear whatever the hell she wants. Nigerians wear whatever they want when they visit other countries. I am yet to see a Nigerian official being told off for not wearing South African attire when they are in south africa or Indians doing the same in South Africa. Yet British people have this ridiculous obsession with putting on clothes from other countries when they visit. Just be you - the only exception would be of course entering places of worship!

dayswithaY · 12/05/2024 13:18

I don’t think she had to dress a certain way to appease her hosts. I just think for someone so high profile she really could have done so much better. The white trouser suit has been done to death by other celebs. The rest of her wardrobe looks cheap, creased and ill fitting.

”Summer Collection” by Freemans catalogue comes to mind.