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Fire Pits. Horrible anti social stink.

158 replies

DarkLene · 12/05/2024 03:00

Am I being unreasonable here? I live in a densely populated area with lots of people packed into a smallish space. Every fucking spring as soon as the weather gets warmer some selfish prick keeps one of these burning all night. The smell and fumes travel and every one else if they don’t want their house smelling like a bonfire has to shut every windows regardless of the heat. They should be banned. Plus pollution, etc.

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DoingTheBestICan · 12/05/2024 12:53

YA definitely NBU, my neighbour has decided to light his to burn all his old decking - in the middle of the day - whilst everyone has washing out. It bloody stinks and I now have to go and get my fresh washing in or else it will stink of a campfire.

SquashPenguin · 12/05/2024 12:41

Charlize43 · 12/05/2024 10:53

Noise cancelling headphones.

I love to sunbathe or potter in my garden or just lie on a lounger with a good book. I either play music through my own headphones or just wear them to block out the sound, which could be anything from neighbourhood squeaky trampoline going for hours on end; someone who thinks the whole neighbourhood loves IAMDDB, Tupac, Meek Mill and Nicki Minaj as much as they do, the non-stop yapping Pomeranian who's dog owner can no longer hear, the mother who feels she has to be screaming at full capacity at her children all of the time... from an upstairs window. I live in London so it can be very full on. Noise cancelling headphones can be a real game changer.

I just want to sit with family enjoying an ice cream watching the dog roll around in the grass, not listen to happy hardcore and screaming 🥲

Combattingthemoaners · 12/05/2024 12:35

To add, it’s also the same people who blast their rubbish music so everyone else has to listen to it. No consideration for anyone else.

Combattingthemoaners · 12/05/2024 12:31

I agree. I also live in a densely populated area and hate them. The smoke gets everywhere and settles on your clothes and hair. They stink!

RagzRebooted · 12/05/2024 12:19

goldenretrievermum5 · 12/05/2024 03:05

YABU. I don’t have one but wish I did, it’s DH’s next DIY job for the summer.

I adore the smell, they’re lovely to look at, add cosy atmosphere, bring warmth, great for marshmallow toasting - I could go on!

I love ours but we use it about twice a year, because I'm aware it's antisocial and not nice for the neighbours. One of those occasions is New Year's eve, when no one has their windows open anyway. Occasionally we will use it after a BBQ, but usually other neighbours will have been BBQing as well and also stinking the street out.
If we lived out in the countryside with no neighbours I'd be lighting it every night in summer!

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 12/05/2024 12:15

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 12:07

Isn’t whooping cough vaccinated against any more?

Edited

It is. Pregnant women are offered it and it's part of the first years many vaccines.

It's on the rise because of anti vaxxers, not because of fire pits. It's an infection, much like a throat or chest infection is not transmitted by your neighbour having a BBQ.

ThePoshUns · 12/05/2024 12:12

YANBU my friend has one and lights it whenever we go over. I can't stand the smell and hate waking up the next day to smelly hair and clothes.

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 12:07

charitynamechange · 12/05/2024 11:38

@IamSlave I've been reading in the news about the rise in whooping cough cases. Didn't seem to be around when my children were young. Sounds horrible

Isn’t whooping cough vaccinated against any more?

ssd · 12/05/2024 12:04

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 11:47

It’s a shame that you have to block out birdsong and bees etc as well though.

I'd be surprised anyone could hear a bee through all that racket

Okbyethen · 12/05/2024 11:50

I hate the bastard things. My neighbour had theirs going yesterday and I had to shut the windows. I wanted them open because it's warm but no, my stupid selfish twat neighbour has to have smoke wafting everywhere and made the inside of my house stink of smoke too 🤬

Yeah, I'm not a fan 😄

Runningbird43 · 12/05/2024 11:48

Same with wood burners. Neighbour has just installed one and the smell of woodsmoke all evening is really annoying. Especially on a dry day when I have to bring my washing in!

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 11:47

Charlize43 · 12/05/2024 10:53

Noise cancelling headphones.

I love to sunbathe or potter in my garden or just lie on a lounger with a good book. I either play music through my own headphones or just wear them to block out the sound, which could be anything from neighbourhood squeaky trampoline going for hours on end; someone who thinks the whole neighbourhood loves IAMDDB, Tupac, Meek Mill and Nicki Minaj as much as they do, the non-stop yapping Pomeranian who's dog owner can no longer hear, the mother who feels she has to be screaming at full capacity at her children all of the time... from an upstairs window. I live in London so it can be very full on. Noise cancelling headphones can be a real game changer.

It’s a shame that you have to block out birdsong and bees etc as well though.

DeedlessIndeed · 12/05/2024 11:46

I think that if people in cities/urban areas aren't allowed to install and use wood-burners, then they shouldn't be able to use fire pits.

If one is allowed, then surely both should be?

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 12/05/2024 11:44

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 11:14

Some people can shoehorn boomer hatred into anything.

🤣🤣

Definitely wasn't boomer hatred, I have nothing against any generation. It just is a fact that gardens are considered a luxury now. Actually, many new builds are sacrificing gardens in some of their plots to a) build more houses and b) make them slightly more "affordable".

Also lived without a garden myself so I do appreciate how much of a good thing they are.

MonsteraMama · 12/05/2024 11:44

We've got one, and hot and cold smokers. We don't have direct neighbours though, I'm not sure I'd have them going if we did. I love the smell but appreciate not everyone does. The smoke does travel even if you use low-smoke wood.

They are lovely though. There is something primally fun about sticking marshmallows or little sausages or corn cobs on a stick and putting them over a fire.

Stressed1011 · 12/05/2024 11:41

houseonthehill · 12/05/2024 09:05

I like to light one next to my hot tub.

With a massive windchime clanking beside it? 🤣

charitynamechange · 12/05/2024 11:38

@IamSlave I've been reading in the news about the rise in whooping cough cases. Didn't seem to be around when my children were young. Sounds horrible

IamSlave · 12/05/2024 11:36

Bbq don't last for long.

I've got two dc coughing their guts up with suspected whopping cough and smoke has been wafting around our house for hours.

It's a hot night and we can't open the windows.

All because of some selfish fuckers fire pit.

I love them when you are sat by them, but we don't have one because I couldn't enjoy it knowing people were seething trapped with windows shut all because of me

Wendysfriend · 12/05/2024 11:35

Oh wow all night, that's awful. One of my brother's has one he has a house on some land so no neighbours but I really hate how the fire smell clings to you. When we visit we all wear old clothes, that fire smell is terrible, everyone just smells dirty.

I have a neighbour who uses charcoal BBQ, it's truly disgusting, they don't clean it, just cook on top of dirt, their food always smells of dead bodies, I do laugh though when she tells me that everyone's mouths must be watering when they're cooking 😂

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 12/05/2024 11:33

This thread has made me consider buying a solo stove now, though.

Trinity65 · 12/05/2024 11:28

Justleaveitblankthen · 12/05/2024 06:04

Hmm petrol smell... 😍⛽

I agree re that smell

My dream job would have been petrol attendant and spend my days filling people's tanks 😆

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 12/05/2024 11:26

I have a fire a couple of times a week, 99% of the time in the evenings. I buy good wood to make it less smokey as possible.

My neighbours are welcome to tell me it's annoying them, but they haven't, so I assume everyone is ok with it.

Bellyblueboy · 12/05/2024 11:25

hangingonfordearlife1 · 12/05/2024 11:09

shouldn't be any different to a log burner that people have in their homes. they burn wood just the same

But chimneys are much, much higher.

in the case of my previous neighbours the fire pit was underneath my bred room window. It’s very, very different to neighbours having a wood burning stove or fire.

GoingDownLikeBHS · 12/05/2024 11:17

@hangingonfordearlife1 you're joking surely? You don't have a car with its engine running outside your bedroom window for 8 hours!

Couple of years ago when it was around 35 degrees one night in the summer, next door lit one of these, I had no idea they'd got one prior to that night. We couldn't use the bedroom nearest for 2 nights, it was sickening, my DD had to sleep on the sofa but even then our entire house stank. So they're burning fuck knows what a few metres from the bedrooms and apparently thats a live and let live attitude?! Everyone having fun eh?

Also why do they smell so bad? Surely if its just wood there should be no difference in smell whether its a bonfire or a fire pit? But from what OP is saying there is a difference. And why are they only used when its very hot and people are more likely to have breathing difficulties?

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 11:14

JacquesHarlow · 12/05/2024 06:13

And nowadays, the younger generation consider having a garden a luxury because they struggle to afford a home with one. So people should enjoy them.

What a bizarre statement to make in the context of this thread.

Some people can shoehorn boomer hatred into anything.