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Y6 teacher and death of parent

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Readysteadygotoschool · 12/05/2024 00:33

My dad died today, after very brief illness. I’m a Y6 teacher and it’s test week from Monday.

I just don’t think I can be in school this week. Feel like I’m letting the kids down and the teacher guilt is making me think I should just go in for the four days of tests and front it out then deal with it afterwards.

I haven’t told my headteacher yet but he will probably be pissed off if I don’t go in. I don’t know what to do.

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nameohnameohname · 12/05/2024 00:40

I’m a headteacher in a primary school. I absolutely would not expect you in.
Yes, it will make SATs week trickier and throw a spanner in the works, but my job is to manage that. If I were your Head, I’d appreciate a message tomorrow so I have time to make a plan.
The kids will be fine. Look after yourself. I’m sorry for your loss x

Hillarious · 12/05/2024 00:40

There are so many other people in a school providing support for the pupils than their individual class teacher. Just take the time you need.

Howbizarre22 · 12/05/2024 00:37

You need to take the compassionate leave and look after yourself.

CelesteCunningham · 12/05/2024 00:36

Your dad died - so you don't go to work. Just as you wouldn't if you were in surgery or your child was in hospital.

Sometimes life happens.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Your GP will sign you off if needs be. You shouldn't feel a shred of guilt.

noblegiraffe · 12/05/2024 00:36

That's awful. Your grief is more important than SATs week. Take the time.

I'm sorry for your loss.

MojoMoon · 12/05/2024 00:36

By test week, you mean SATS?

This is not make or break for a child's future. SATS tests are not very important for the kids.

Your head is a horrible person if they are annoyed at you for grieving a parent. Have the time off if you need it.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 12/05/2024 00:35

You’re a human being, not a robot. Take the time off. I am so sorry for your loss.

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