Y6 teacher and death of parent

I'm so sorry OP.
I don't think any reasonable person would expect you in be in after the death of your dad such a short time ago. Please take the time, you need it.

I’m sorry for your loss.
Absolutely see your GP and get signed off sick for as long as you need. If this isn’t a mental health crisis then what is?
As a parent I would be horrified if you felt you had to come in. What is happening in the world if we think exams (for 10 year olds!) are more important than grieving a parent?!
Wishing you rest and healing

Take the time off.

You’ve prepped the kids well, and sats have no bearing on their lives.

I absolutely think you shouldn't go in. I am a teacher and noone at our school would even think of expecting you to be there.

The sats are not just the year 6 teachers responsibility. They are management for a reason.

I voted yabu. Your parent has just died, you need time to recover and your head teacher should understand this.

Take time off, work will cope.

Op take the time you need.
I went back to work a week after my Dad passed away. And tbh it was far too soon. I was a complete waste of space for the next week.
I didn't feel I could take more time because I'd had a rough winter with kids being ill too.
But being back too soon was madness.

My brother is a teacher. When our mother had a stroke and died a few years ago his headteacher immediately made arrangements for others to take over his classes, including his GCSE students in the run up to exams and told him to take as much time as he needed. Which turned out to be about 2 weeks. As well as the rest of his load, he missed GCSE revision days and two practical exams. Headteacher didn’t flinch. His colleagues covered. His GCSE students sent him a card and the staff sent a gift basket with fruit and a delivery voucher for a local curry house. Really caring. His students did great in their exams - he said afterwards that he’d felt torn about not going in but in retrospect he would have done them a disservice because his head wasn’t in the right place at all. His colleagues were the right people to take those classes.

Grief hits people differently, but it’s powerful. Take the time you need to. If your headteacher isn’t supportive, start looking for a better environment (they are out there) but don’t neglect yourself now.

I'm sorry for your loss.
Take the week off.
SLT will manage; 5 minutes of re-jigging minor details and it's done. In a couple of months' time, literally nobody will be thinking about it.

The children will be fine too.
Whereas, if you do not take the time to grieve now, at it's right and proper time, you will definitely suffer for it later.
I'm speaking from experience: just message your HT and give them advanced notification.

You’ve already put in the hard work and I’m sure done all you can to ensure the children have the best chance of success in the tests. If you do go in there is nothing more you can do for them, they’re either ready and able to pass or they’re not. Take the time off, you need it. The children will be fine and your head will get over it.

I’m a teacher, I went back to work way too soon after my dad’s death. I plodded on for as long as I could and then had a complete breakdown in my mental health and ended up being off sick for 6 months. I should’ve just taken the time I needed in the first place and I’m sure I would’ve coped much better.

Wishing you lots of love and strength

Noone ever says on their deathbed they wish they had worked a little harder

Take the time off.

Not a HT but been a teacher for 18 years and this is the exact response I'd have written!

Human first, teacher second. Take as long as you need. It’s extra work for the head but that’s part of the job they applied for. Their problem, not yours. Yours is you and your family.

Sorry for your loss 💐 This is not a time to be concerning yourself about a job or other people’s children it is a time to concentrate on yourself and your family members and any normal person be it a parent or the head teacher should be able to understand that .

Whether or not SATS are important is irrelevant. The children will do them whether you are in school or not - they'll just be supervised by someone else.

It would probably be better for the children if someone else supervises them as they may pick up on things not being right with you which could be unsettling for them. Please don't worry about this. Focus on yourself and dealing with your grief.

I am so very sorry

As a parent I would be horrified if a teacher came into school days after the death of a parent. Please stay home and look after yourself. You need time to grieve, these children will do their SATS and will be fine.

you need to look after yourself and take time to deal with what’s going on in your private life. Sorry for your loss.

You can change your vote. Just click on the option you intended.

You can change it.

Yes. This is what you do. Same in most jobs I think.
I was allowed 2 days for death of a parent. But in reality I saw my GP and took 5 months off. Work totally understood this. Normal and necessary.

Sorry for your loss OP. How would you want the children to behave in 40 years, when they loose a parent and are worried about letting work down?

Take the time to grieve. Be honest with the children about why you had to take time off 'my dad died and I was very sad'. It's a valuable lesson for them that some things are more important than school and work.

I think I may have voted incorrectly.

Of course you don't go to work.
Honestly, do you think you're able for it? Some people are and returning to work quickly helps them cope. But the very fact you're posting this suggests to me you need the time off.
Childrens tests may seem important.. but honestly, in the grand scheme of things, they're not- and you will have done most of the work for it already. You taking a few more days off honestly won't make a difference- no need for guilt here.
Sometimes you need to look after number one. And this is one of those times.

Sorry for your loss.
Don't go to work. You need to grieve. You will still get paid.
I put YABU as you need to take at least 1 week off.

Depends on how you deal with grief OP. I agree with others take time off if your not able to function and need it. But some people like to keep busy and don't want added factors to think of i.e. guilt compounding that grief so if you want to go in because that's what feels right to you then do so. But it really is a what's best for you situation. Sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry for your loss, and incredulous that so far 20% think you are unreasonable, I wish you hadn’t enabled voting for that reason.

Your head teacher will absolutely rearrange duties, this is a completely reasonable stance given your situation.

Please look after yourself, and go back to work when you are ready. Your mental wellbeing is paramount. 💐