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To expect shop workers to not be on the phone while serving me?

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Applescruffle · 11/05/2024 19:45

AIBU or is it bloody rude?

I went to a phone shop today with my son to buy a new case for his ipad. It took us 45 minutes to travel there specially as someone had recommended it.
When we got there, the bloke was on his phone, phone actually to his ear, didn't acknowledge us when we walked in the shop, when we went to ask if he had the right cases for us, he didn't put the phone down just looked at it, went "nah" and got back to his conversation, didn't even move the phone away from his face. I was so annoyed!

We then went to a post office. Same thing happened. Worker on the phone and served the lady on front of me, sent off a parcel for her and everything all while talking the whole time, didn't say a word to her and barely made eye contact.

When it was my turn I stood there and said "I'll just wait until you've finished your conversation" He looked really confused and then a bit angry and put the phone on the counter without hanging up. I was really overly pleasant, said good morning, please, thank you, but he avoided eye contact or conversation and then picked up his phone again before I'd even walked off.

Given that this happened twice on the same day AIBU to find it rude?

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namechangetheworld · 02/08/2024 20:06

95% of the time the young lad who serves at our local post office is chatting on his mobile whilst dealing with customers. I've always assumed it's work related and he's multi tasking, but honestly, I couldn't care less if it is personal. It doesn't affect my life in any way. He's there to scan my parcels, not make forced small talk which neither of us want to have.

I definitely wouldn't make passive aggressive comments about if, it just makes you sound like a bit of a knob.

shams05 · 02/08/2024 19:49

I find the experience at Aldi really throws me, they have earpieces so you can't actually tell at first that the cashier is not talking to you, only when they ignore your response and carry on having a laugh with a fellow employee.
I used to always teach the kids that it's rude to be on the phone whilst you are being served but now they're old enough to carry their own phones this is all they see!

lazyarse123 · 12/05/2024 17:04

Applescruffle · 12/05/2024 16:49

This is different but it was definitely a phone both times. They had it stuck to the side of their faces and were
mumbling into it.

I think people are just getting ruder. Including a lot of the staff in my shop. I don't know why and we do pull them up on it.

Applescruffle · 12/05/2024 16:49

lazyarse123 · 12/05/2024 09:50

I work in retail and it's fucking rude for both customers and staff to be on their phones. I have often said "I was just waiting until you finished your call".
Also bad is the performative calls that you can hear all over the shop. Nobody cares how busy you are Bob and how expensive all this stuff you are ordering is and you can't possibly have this same conversation every day.
We use hand held devices to check stock and sometimes we have to use it in-between customers and the number of people who get arsey and say "when you've finished with your phone" even when I show them it's not a phone they get all huffy and don't believe me. It's not my fault we are expected to do more than one job at a time. People are twats.

This is different but it was definitely a phone both times. They had it stuck to the side of their faces and were
mumbling into it.

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lazyarse123 · 12/05/2024 09:50

I work in retail and it's fucking rude for both customers and staff to be on their phones. I have often said "I was just waiting until you finished your call".
Also bad is the performative calls that you can hear all over the shop. Nobody cares how busy you are Bob and how expensive all this stuff you are ordering is and you can't possibly have this same conversation every day.
We use hand held devices to check stock and sometimes we have to use it in-between customers and the number of people who get arsey and say "when you've finished with your phone" even when I show them it's not a phone they get all huffy and don't believe me. It's not my fault we are expected to do more than one job at a time. People are twats.

Katemax82 · 12/05/2024 09:36

Also I got a bollocking for looking at my phone while walking the lady I used to housekeep for round her massive garden as she had cameras which caught me doing such a heinous act, seems there's a huge variation in standards for people

Katemax82 · 12/05/2024 09:35

This seems the accepted norm in most premier or other local convenience stores ,but it is bloody rude

Nanny0gg · 11/05/2024 22:45

RoomOfRequirement · 11/05/2024 21:51

It's rude but I also can't bring myself to get worked up about it. I would never want to go back to that type of job, and for the pay they do it for honestly. So I don't really begrudge them making it slightly less awful.

But when you needed help at the Ipad store and he refused, that was too far.

I actually think (and I've done many a poorly-paid job, including retail) that you do the job you're paid to do, to the best of your ability.

So, no. Staff and customers alike, put your phone away.

RoomOfRequirement · 11/05/2024 21:51

It's rude but I also can't bring myself to get worked up about it. I would never want to go back to that type of job, and for the pay they do it for honestly. So I don't really begrudge them making it slightly less awful.

But when you needed help at the Ipad store and he refused, that was too far.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 11/05/2024 21:51

Fucking shocking.

Thevelvelletes · 11/05/2024 21:45

That wasn't for you applescruff,it was for the customer in a cafe that was ignored, very few post offices left.

Applescruffle · 11/05/2024 21:43

Thevelvelletes · 11/05/2024 20:28

Customer acknowledgement is key,no one likes to be ignored.dont blame you for walking.

I didn't walk - I couldn't. It's the only post office left!
I just stood there and said I would wait until he had finished his conversation.

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2chocolateoranges · 11/05/2024 20:51

Total bad manners.

I complained about our local Lidl, everytime you were in certain staff would be sending messages / texts while serving you. Nothings changed, so I don’t shop their any more,

id never be on the phone in a shop and don’t expect staff to be either. I also hate when the shop assistants talk amongst themselves when serving you. I worked in customer facing jobs since I was young and would never dream of doing either.

JudgeJ · 11/05/2024 20:46

suburburban · 11/05/2024 20:39

So rude and vice versa when customers are on the phone

I once had a couple came into my classroom for the Parents' Evening meeting, as they sat down his phone rang, he stood up and walked over to the window to answer it and have a conversation. I talked about their child with his wife and when he eventually returned there was no apology and he expected me to repeat what I'd told his wife and I refused. At the end of the evening I noticed his having an angry conversation with the Head so I walked over, 'I'm telling the Head how rude you were when I had to take an urgent work call!' Says I, 'Oh I do hope you don't miss the tee off at 7.30 tomorrow!'
The Head was trying hard not to laugh.

suburburban · 11/05/2024 20:39

So rude and vice versa when customers are on the phone

Thevelvelletes · 11/05/2024 20:28

Customer acknowledgement is key,no one likes to be ignored.dont blame you for walking.

Bluevelvetsofa · 11/05/2024 20:25

We tried to buy a drink today in a M&S cafe. There was a lady having a conversation with the girl behind the counter, which went on for a while. We assumed they were chatting whilst the drink was being prepared, but it transpired that she hadn’t even started to do the drink, they were just chatting, oblivious to the queue. Why is their time more important than ours? They showed no sign of acknowledging that people were waiting to be served. We didn’t wait.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 11/05/2024 20:23

If it is one of those shops that also repairs phones, I would suspect that whilst replacing a screen and then tested it he has accidentally superglued the phone to his ear.

Thevelvelletes · 11/05/2024 20:22

RabbitsRock · 11/05/2024 20:20

No way we’re allowed our phones when we’re working on the tills.

Be bloody chaos if you were😁

QueSyrahSyrah · 11/05/2024 20:22

Happened to us today but at a beach place where we were hiring loungers so already pretty informal. We may have picked the remotest possible spot for him to drag the loungers to when he finally finished chatting to his mate and acknowledged us.

I do think it makes a difference whether it's a business or personal call though. I would never, ever take a personal call in front of a client but sometimes have to take or finish an urgent business call.

RabbitsRock · 11/05/2024 20:20

No way we’re allowed our phones when we’re working on the tills.

Applescruffle · 11/05/2024 20:17

Justmuddlingalong · 11/05/2024 20:15

No shop staff or customers should be on their phones while serving/being served. It's a financial transaction and requires a bit of concentration.
Customers should refuse to be served by someone on the phone, as they should accept that staff can refuse to serve them if they're on theirs.

I agree. I wouldn't be on my phone while being served either. I actually finished my conversation because I was getting on the bus this morning and all I needed to do was show the driver my pass.

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Thevelvelletes · 11/05/2024 20:17

Sofaz34 · 11/05/2024 19:59

Depends if they were working related calls, maybe they didn't want to keep you waiting. I just don't think shop workers get paid enough to care to be honest.

I worked retail and dealt with phone enquiries and face to face.its easy dealt with,you just say to customer 'once your clear of phone enquirie you'll be right with them.done dusted everybodys happy.

Justmuddlingalong · 11/05/2024 20:15

No shop staff or customers should be on their phones while serving/being served. It's a financial transaction and requires a bit of concentration.
Customers should refuse to be served by someone on the phone, as they should accept that staff can refuse to serve them if they're on theirs.

TTPD · 11/05/2024 20:10

Very rude.

And surely quite difficult somewhere like a post office, where you do actually need to talk to the customer (as opposed to a supermarket where I still think it's rude but there's less actual need to have a conversation).