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To think ODFOD used to be allowed?

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DirtyKit · 11/05/2024 18:07

It did right?

but now it isn’t?
what happened?

IABU - it was never allowed
IANBU - it was allowed

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WhereIsSpringtime · 11/05/2024 19:46

CountingCrones · 11/05/2024 18:12

Mumsnet is where I learnt it, so it must have been allowed at some point. I'm not here often enough to catch deleted posts.

Same

AllotmentTime · 11/05/2024 19:11

MolkosTeenageAngst · 11/05/2024 18:21

A quick advanced search and you can find plenty of past threads where Odfod has been used as a reply to an OP. Whether it was allowed or whether the post simply went unreported and so didn’t get removed is is suppose less clear.

I love that upthread we have @Nanny0gg saying she's used it, and then an advanced search proving it 🤣

looks like even ten years ago it was frowned upon though....

To think ODFOD used to be allowed?
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DirtyKit · 11/05/2024 19:06

Thanks for the replies.

Maybe the difference I’ve missed is we can say it about other people who are not on the thread (OP’s boss / DH / MIL etc) but not to the OP? Would that be it?

it’s either that or MN is becoming a bit more snowflakey I think.

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Saschka · 11/05/2024 18:48

drusth · 11/05/2024 18:09

If you can’t express your opinion without telling people to fuck off then you shouldn’t be here, OP.

You realise you are basically saying “oh do fuck off dear” here, just a bit more obliquely?

CatrionaCat · 11/05/2024 18:45

CountingCrones · 11/05/2024 18:12

Mumsnet is where I learnt it, so it must have been allowed at some point. I'm not here often enough to catch deleted posts.

This.

singingthypraises · 11/05/2024 18:31

@Justlovedogs thanks! I never knew this! Kinda love it now I know what it stands for 😄

ComfyButFrumpy · 11/05/2024 18:26

Are we becoming a den of snowflakes?
Will we be able to use ODMOD?

Oh do melt off dear.

Mamette · 11/05/2024 18:25

It was allowed and it was on the list of acronyms.

Eminybob · 11/05/2024 18:25

Actually wasn't it in the list of acronyms published on the site back in the day?

HappyintheHills · 11/05/2024 18:23

LauderSyme · 11/05/2024 18:17

I was going to say I remember seeing it fairly often and not getting deleted. But that makes sense if it was only deleted once reported.

I think there is definitely more moderating happening more promptly on MN than there used to be.

Yes it’s there - and in the quick advanced search I did was a justifiable quick response to unreasonable posters
Maybe there’s more reporting now? Are we becoming a den of snowflakes?

Eminybob · 11/05/2024 18:21

Allfur · 11/05/2024 18:13

When is it justified to tell a stranger to fuck off

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When they're being a cunt?

MolkosTeenageAngst · 11/05/2024 18:21

A quick advanced search and you can find plenty of past threads where Odfod has been used as a reply to an OP. Whether it was allowed or whether the post simply went unreported and so didn’t get removed is is suppose less clear.

To think ODFOD used to be allowed?
IncyWincyEyeroll · 11/05/2024 18:20

Definitely used to be ok. At least, it was used frequently without deletion.

As to sanctimonious PPs: are you new?? Robust language, directed at dickishness, has always been part of what makes MN good.

I've been here for eons and we seem recently to have stumbled into a new world where it's fine for an entire thread of posters to passive aggressively lay into a poster for some minor parenting crime (or, worse, a typo), but, somehow, not to tell a bully to fuck off. Fuck that.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 11/05/2024 18:20

It was definitely aloud yes - pretty sure it was on the list of acronyms. Didn't realise it wasn't any more .

AGlinnerOfHope · 11/05/2024 18:18

Also used to third parties- well tell him he can FOTTFSOF!

LauderSyme · 11/05/2024 18:17

I was going to say I remember seeing it fairly often and not getting deleted. But that makes sense if it was only deleted once reported.

I think there is definitely more moderating happening more promptly on MN than there used to be.

BettyWont · 11/05/2024 18:16

I remember someone taking great exception to being deleted because she'd typed fuck off

Apparently it shouldn't have counted if it was crossed out 🤣

olympicsrock · 11/05/2024 18:15

We have always talked about saying it to others but not actually saying it to other mumsnetters on a thread.

Nanny0gg · 11/05/2024 18:15

It was here and it was allowed and I've used it

And I stand by it

There were threads where you'd have a really distressed OP and some sanctimonious ...person... would be persistently victim blaming or being obnoxious.

So I used it

So sue me

formerlyofthisparish · 11/05/2024 18:15

It def was allowed

BettyWont · 11/05/2024 18:14

LightsOnSparklingTowers · 11/05/2024 18:13

I think they have always deleted it IF it was reported.

Yes, this is what I think.

You'd often see ODFOD on some threads, but they were always deleted if reported.

It's a personal attack after all.

drusth · 11/05/2024 18:14

Nanny0gg · 11/05/2024 18:13

Nonsense

It was allowed and often justified

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Just because some people don’t report it doesn’t mean it’s allowed.

Allfur · 11/05/2024 18:13

Nanny0gg · 11/05/2024 18:13

Nonsense

It was allowed and often justified

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When is it justified to tell a stranger to fuck off

WrenNatsworthy · 11/05/2024 18:13

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