How often do you talk to your manager

I speak to my manager most days. My direct reports speak to me, depending on the individual, anywhere between daily and only if they absolutely have to.

I’d go in tomorrow and say exactly that. That’s really worrying!
No point in being concerned about staffing levels if it’s not the right people with right training! I reckon she wouldn’t even know you had gone.

I chat to mine everyday about this and that, our kids etc. I ask her multiple questions a day about work. We have weekly 1-2-1s where we chat about anything particularly complex I might have on and what workloads are like. If either of us are WFH then we'll chat on Teams and probably have at least one video call a day.
I have my own subteam of 4 people and I talk to all of them throughout the day and they are constantly asking me questions.

100% agree. Besides people notice if someone isn't pulling their weight so to speak. Same situation with ny manager I sont bother griping about it just grt on what I want to do and can grt out of my current role and funnily enough other coworkers start making comments to me asking what does she do ...I just smile and say I don't know I barely have any time with her I'm too busy to know...my standard neutral phrase incase it gets back to her

I thought you were going to say you WFH. This is very odd if you are all in the same office. I started a WFH job in December. I had one meeting with my manager via teams. Nothing since. No 121s, he just sends me a teams message every few weeks saying you ok? Ring me if you need anything. My probation ends in a couple of weeks, I assume he might talk to me then.

Seems like an odd set up. Also, we dropped the term manager years ago. We have team leaders and other less hierarchical terms. Yes we do work as a team. Yes we do have meetings. Keeping us all up to date with what’s happening in the wider company within our building and beyond is all part of working life.

@Carly944 you can hardly blame me for not knowing stuff you hadn't said 🤣🤣

What I said about focusing on what's in your control still stands, tho. Channel your time and energy into things that will make a positive change for you, and based on what you've said it sounds like that's looking for another job.

Complaining to or about people who aren't going to change for you will just make you stressed and ill eventually. There's much wrong with my work, its exhausting nudging it in a good direction but I draw some positives from it towards building up my CV and get some reading and cooking done on the clock 🤷‍♂️ Not my preference but complaining about inefficiency and other people not doing their job didn't get results

Just to add how odd this is, my manager is 100 miles from me (and her manager 80 miles from her). We speak daily, and if I need to be shown something she will arrange someone to train me.

Or, just go and do the training?

It doesn’t sound like your manager would even notice tbh?

Can you go back to the higher up manager and say my manager won’t let me do any training. If possible ask your manager to send that in email to you.

I speak to my team lead at practically all day every day…about work and non work stuff. My manager…probably once/twice a week. But sometimes more depending on what’s going on.

Every day.

We're all in the same (quite small) office. So we very much work as a team although manager obviously isn't generally working on I am.

But unless they're in a meeting I can ask any time for help or advice or I'm available for them to ask me to work on something for them.

We also talk socially every day as a whole team and most days 1 to 1 if other members of the team are out.

We have a weekly 1:1 catch up specifically to catch up on current projects etc.

Love my work. Love my manager.

She probably doesn’t want to be a manager. More and more people are going forward for these management roles because they need to move up the ladder because they need more money because they can’t afford housing, cost of living, etc. But they have no management skills or desire to lead people or cultivate a happy team/environment.

In one of my previous jobs the head of department was similar. We weren’t allowed work from home ever because he didn’t allow it, but he turned his desk in an open plan office to face the desk away from us all, he didn’t say hello or goodbye, and would take days to respond to emails or messages despite sitting right there. He created such an uncomfortable atmosphere.

The higher up only sees the point about she hasn't talked to me ina mo th. She doesn't see the real point which is the training. So that's my advice to you, focus it about the job and the training you need.
Anything I future, always bring it back to the job.

Just sound shit to be honest. Don't focus on not talking to me a month, just always bring it back to I need this training when can you give it, I still haven't had this train when can we book in time together. My manager hasn't trained me. And repeat in various ways.

So when she can back and denied your training did you ask when she will give it to you? What date and time? And if no immediate answer follow up on email so u have a chain of proof

My workplace has been sensible enough to recognise that I'm best when left to get on with things in my own way and pace and I only ask them for something if I genuinely need it. I have had previous managers who didn't communicate at all, so I'm fairly used to having to advocate for myself (and work things out/solve problems without relying upon any one person). I'm not a fan of micromanagement at all though, to say the least.

However, as there's also a small team that only ever hear from a manager when they're dumping more work on them or bollocking them for something that isn't their fault, I kind of do an unofficial 'how's it going? Is there anything I can help you with?' check with them most days, as at least there's a chance that I'll have the knowledge to be able to help or explain something to them, which that manager doesn't (and frankly, doesn't care).

I wouldn't be comfortable ignoring anybody, least of all a new starter. But maybe that's why I have no management responsibilities or pay.

TBH, it doesn't look great for you to bring this up. Have you spoken to her? Included her in the conversation?
I wouldn't have this conversation with your managers manager as it makes you look petty and unable to solve yourself.

I speak to my manager in person four days a week, usually multiple times a day. He WFH one day a week so on that day I either speak to him on the phone or on teams.

I chose "you're being unreasonable". Its not a requirement to chat, all that matters is that they do what's necessary to get the job done and help with work-related tasks. Nobody ever built a healthy rapport with other people by complaining about or to them. I only want to talk to my boss when I have to, and my only expectation is that he meets my expectations on those occasions. Generally, those conversations are holiday requests and problems getting work done

By that, I didn't mean you're wrong to feel that way, just that I didn't think the way you're handling it can succeed. Generally, how do you feel about the working environment? If the environment at work, generally, isn't to your liking then looking for another job is probably the best course of action

About once a month. Rarely to speak about a management issue. She has little to do with my actual work.

I've just started a new job. The manager works remotely (she moved away) & the rest of the team is in the office.

I've never had a meeting with her, or spoken to her outside team meetings. I email her if she sends me jobs & she says get X to help.

Instead I'm being 'trained' by X, a self important 21 year old who really does not understand her job, thinks training is pointing & saying 'give it a go' & nitpicks everything I do. Treats me like I'm stupid.

I miss my old manager, who left you to do your job, but always around to check in with & support you.

You really do need a good, supportive manager. I'm seeing the difference massively!!