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Dentist and needing lots of work done

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Ragdollmother · 11/05/2024 11:58

Hello, a bit of a long winded one sorry! I do have a dental phobia to start off with.
Went to the dentist in June last year, private practice local to me, been with them a few years but often see a different dentist each time.
In June young dentist said all looks ok but one filling might be needed in a lower wisdom tooth in 6 months time.
Went back at Christmas expecting him to say let’s fill that tooth, but he told me I now needed 5 fillings and 2 fissure sealants, costing just shy of £1400. He took an X-ray after telling me this , and said the X-ray ‘didn’t look too bad’ but still gave me the form to say i needed the work doing.
I went away pretty shocked and upset.
As I left I was fairly coerced into making my first treatment appointment by the receptionist. I ended up going back a couple of weeks later and asked if I could just have the most urgent filling done, expecting it to be the one mentioned in June last year.
At the appointment the dentist said all the teeth needing work were pretty much at the same stage, so he filled a different tooth on the list needing work instead.
I had awful problems with this filling for a few weeks afterwards and have not been back for any further work since. I just feel upset and unsure if I can trust them.
I know I need a second opinion, it’s now been 5 months since that Christmas appointment so time is ticking if all these teeth really do need work.
I just wanted to ask if anyone has experienced similar , and what I should be looking for in a new dentist ? I just want an honest opinion, I’m less bothered about perfect teeth, In a way I’d like an ‘NHS style’ exam if that’s possible ?

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Bluevelvetsofa · 11/05/2024 12:20

NotTooOldPaul · 11/05/2024 12:01

Why do you not go to an NHS dentist? I use an NHS dentist and always see the same dentist and treatment is cheap or free.

Hollow laughter!

If you can find an NHS dentist anywhere within 50 miles of here, you’ve reached the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. There simply aren’t any. At all.

It pains me to spend so much money to keep my teeth and have pain inflicted at the same time. A hygienist appointment here is £84.

cherryassam · 11/05/2024 12:13

I would ask to see one of the more experienced dentists at the same practice initially - ask if there is someone who is particularly good with nervous patients.

If this cannot be facilitated, I would see if there is a private practice in the local area who have a good reputation with nervous patients. They should do a fairly thorough new patient exam, if they’re anything like the practices I’ve been to.

AutumnCrow · 11/05/2024 12:13

NotTooOldPaul · 11/05/2024 12:01

Why do you not go to an NHS dentist? I use an NHS dentist and always see the same dentist and treatment is cheap or free.

There are currently none in my city. Only private dentists have capacity, often in NHS dental practices iyswim.

CrunchyCarrot · 11/05/2024 12:11

I would expect a dentist to pull up current X-rays and point out every tooth that needs work, showing you exactly where the problems are so you can see them. Talk through how the work will be carried out and the cost. Not just 'the X-ray doesn't look too bad' then a substantial increase in fillings!

I don't like the sound of the dentist you saw, something definitely seems off about that treatment.

Thelnebriati · 11/05/2024 12:10

AFAIK you are allowed to get a second opinion on the dental work you need, just as you can with any other medical diagnosis.

Nanny0gg · 11/05/2024 12:06

NotTooOldPaul · 11/05/2024 12:01

Why do you not go to an NHS dentist? I use an NHS dentist and always see the same dentist and treatment is cheap or free.

Because they are as rare as hen's teeth with long waiting lists

Ragdollmother · 11/05/2024 12:05

I rang around several NHS dentists in my area, and none are taking new patients. I even asked if I could be seen as a private patient at an NHS dentist but they said they are at capacity at every one I called.

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NotTooOldPaul · 11/05/2024 12:01

Why do you not go to an NHS dentist? I use an NHS dentist and always see the same dentist and treatment is cheap or free.

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