Well thank you for that, but actually I'm in the position I'm in due to cumulative poor life choices by the standards of most.
I've escaped criminality and addiction, but could easily become an alcoholic. Have always "lived in the moment". Never really used my education or qualifications because they were creative and I fell pregnant at 25 early in a relationship and couldn't face another termination. So low paid jobs, worked around family. My 14 year marriage was abusive and it took a Jeremy Kyle style incident to end it. I've been sectioned. My last relationship was 11 years with my soul mate. During that I cared for his Mum with Alzheimers, worked around it founding a business, my Mum died of cancer and then the love of my life died.
I'm writing this because I can see how I've "failed" by the standards expected on here. There are hundreds of thousands of me. I've turned our a decent DS by more good luck than good judgement. His life hasn't been perfect but I jokingly tell him to regard me as more of a terrible warning than a good example.
I've done my best, but in those moments where things have gone sideways yet again, I could easily give up.
Have I just been unlucky? Sometimes. But often, personal fubars have been massively compounded by the system that does exist failing, delaying, or obstructing a resolution due to bureaucracy or attitudes of those administering things.
Either there is a safety net that works efficiently or there isn't - the institutional gas-lighting around the deserving and undeserving is what drives people to the darkest places and worst behaviours. The current system creates its own monsters, and enjoys punishing them.