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To think that smoking weed outside in the summer is anti social

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Livingnexttothesmokies · 11/05/2024 10:49

My neighbours are a couple in their late 50s, we get on ok but there's no love lost there- they complain about everyone else all of the time but never do wrong themselves.

Over the last 2 years they've developed a weed habit (it's medicinal apparently) and now the sun is out they seem to take turns chain smoking weed so our garden smells almost constantly of weed. If we leave the windows open it makes our house smell of it too so when they light up we have to close the windows.

Our gardens are narrow terraced gardens so we can't escape it. Aibu to think that constantly smoking weed in the summer when people around you want to use their gardens is anti social?

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LaCouleurDeMonCiel · 11/05/2024 13:31

No worse that regular smoking, loud music or the dog having a clear out
This!
Also, kids on trampolines, hot tubs, smoky bbqs, kids kicking balls, shrieking toddlers, drunk adults in the evening…

QueenMegan · 11/05/2024 13:30

Can you suggest they vape as its healthier isn't it....I don't know of I'm.correct there but surely smoking is very carcinogenic...cancelling out health benefits?
Just tell them it stinks to high heaven be blunt

0sm0nthus · 11/05/2024 13:25

Mmmmmm, I LOVE the smell of cannabis😁
💚💛💚🧡💚💗💚

Willmafrockfit · 11/05/2024 13:10

my neighbours smoke weed outside all year, i find it appalling

RichardMarxisinnocent · 11/05/2024 13:10

OneTC · 11/05/2024 11:23

I find it interesting that how you feel about something seems to change how you smell it, it smells similar to coffee, garlic and hops for me. Strong but not offensive.

I'd ask your neighbours for a resolution, it might just be forthcoming

For me it has nothing to do with how I feel about it. I hated the smell for a long time before I even knew what it was. I used to smell what to me was a really vile odour every so often while. I smelt a bit like a vinegary, things rotting at the bottom of a bin smell so I assumed that was what it was, and that for some reason it smelt worse than usual. It was only when I smelt in while walking with my DP and he said "oh the lovely smell of weed", that I found out what the smell was. If I that hadn't happened i would still be assuming it was a bin /rubbish related smell.

wheretoyougonow · 11/05/2024 12:59

Only on Mumsnet would the smell of weed get compared to the smell of coffee or garlic.

I get it op. It stinks but more than that it's forced into your personal space. I'm sure if we all went round spaying perfume by people smoking it they would soon complain of the smell always being in their space.

TwelveAngryWhiskers · 11/05/2024 12:54

YABU.

Lots of things are offensive and antisocial. Cigarettes. Music on speakers. Leaf blowers. BBQs. Bonfires. Nauseating food smells. There was a thread about perfume recently.

I vape it for pain relief. Mumsnet is very odd about weed. It reminds me of how people went mad policing the activities of others during lockdown. That because it hasn’t entirely been legalised yet, you’re BREAKING THE RULES and are demonised and shamed accordingly.

GiacomettisCornetto · 11/05/2024 12:53

Less carcinogenic than a barbecue, quieter than EDM, less smelly than a bonfire. less damaging both on an individual and societal level than alcohol.

If I had a choice between partying pisshead neighbours with a fire pit and an addiction to barbecues and a quiet couple of stoners I'd choose the latter every time.

Vistada · 11/05/2024 12:51

Weed is a disgusting smell so i sympathise, but its such a fine line to tread when you're in a built up area

My neighbours smoke weed, I hate it. However, I have a dog with a loud bark, I play the radio and I smoke tobacco sometimes - so to keep the peace as I'm sure I'm not whiter than white I say nothing

0sm0nthus · 11/05/2024 12:47

HaddawayAndShite · 11/05/2024 12:38

Anyone smoking their "legal medication" is also breaking the law. Flower, when prescribed, should only be vaped and is illegal to smoke.

Edited

Thank you for the heads up, sadly its too late, I can hear the sirens now, the old bill are on their way to arrest me😳😥

Only joking 🤠
Back in the day I used to enjoy a spliff but now I have some very sophisticated vaping equipment😘
Even so, inhaling anything isn't great for your lungs (I am a keen runner and I like to get up those hills🏃🏼‍♀️) so I use homemade edibles at least half of the time.
I find cannabis very helpful and enjoyable and great for sleep 😊😊😊💤

alloutofcareunits · 11/05/2024 12:47

wellington77 · 11/05/2024 11:17

My neighbours do that but all year round, absolutely stinks! Anyone know if the police would actually do anything to stop them smoking in the garden or is there no point?

I can pretty much guarantee the police won't be interested. I work with teenagers under 16 who regularly smoke weed, I've actually handed it over to the police before and they weren't remotely bothered.

PontiacFirebird · 11/05/2024 12:39

Usually these days what people are calling “ weed” is skunk, and yes it smell absolutely disgusting ( and about 100 times stronger than fags) and will fuck you right up mentally.
It’s everywhere nowadays- I walk past people smoking it right in the city centre, so ageee people seem to think it’s legal now.
I would have to ask my neighbours to stop, it’s really antisocial.

HaddawayAndShite · 11/05/2024 12:38

0sm0nthus · 11/05/2024 12:33

It's very easy to get a private prescription for medicinal cannabis, therefore cannabis is (de facto) legal.

Anyone smoking their "legal medication" is also breaking the law. Flower, when prescribed, should only be vaped and is illegal to smoke.

EmpressOfTheThread · 11/05/2024 12:38

XMissPlacedX · 11/05/2024 12:34

Thankyou so much, he drew all of his granddaughters a pencil drawing of a flower last year ( mine was a rose 🌹) I nearly cried when he gave it to me as it was still as good as his pictures before the Parkinson's. He was so proud giving them to us.

How lovely! I hope he has more comfort and respite in the days and months to come.

LittleCharlotte · 11/05/2024 12:37

I had this with an ex neighbour. I asked him to stop because his smoke was wafting in through my window and work do random drugs-tests including hair samples. This wasn't true but I wasn't going to put up with it. I would certainly have a word with them.

Boogiemam · 11/05/2024 12:36

We have these neighbours too. Except ours is a dealer who isn't as approachable as middle aged middle class people so asking them to be more considerate isn't a question he would respond to. We don't even get a break in the winter as they smoke so much inside the house it permeates through the floorboards and stinks out, mainly our toddlers room 😭 it used to be a beautiful place to live but his estate agent and landlord don't seem to care.

RM2013 · 11/05/2024 12:35

I can’t stand it. Where we lived before the neighbours son used to do this all the time in the summer I hated it.

EmpressOfTheThread · 11/05/2024 12:34

AliceCallous · 11/05/2024 12:11

'Can'. It can also lead to being able to function, being able to sleep, and being able to not be in crippling pain.

I sometimes smoke it for my arthritis. I'm sure you'd much prefer me to be lying awake in pain because my hips are too painful to lie on, but I guess it sucks to be you.

I am sorry to hear about your arthritis. I too am a sufferer and take prescription medication, but it can be very painful. I want to apologise if I caused upset. I feel strongly about weed for reasons I won't go into here.
However, you got quite unpleasant and offensive, and I don't think there was any need.
I wish you all the best x

XMissPlacedX · 11/05/2024 12:34

EmpressOfTheThread · 11/05/2024 12:31

Dear @XMissPlacedX - I'm glad that it's helping your lovely grandfather. Parkinson's is a very cruel illness x

Thankyou so much, he drew all of his granddaughters a pencil drawing of a flower last year ( mine was a rose 🌹) I nearly cried when he gave it to me as it was still as good as his pictures before the Parkinson's. He was so proud giving them to us.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 11/05/2024 12:33

Smoking anything in close proximity to other people is selfish.

0sm0nthus · 11/05/2024 12:33

CruCru · 11/05/2024 10:56

There’s a weird attitude to weed in the UK. People act as though it has been decriminalised (probably because it has in parts of the US) but here it is class B (one rung down from cocaine and heroin). It really shouldn’t be considered a socially acceptable drug.

I would say to report them to the police but I am sure that they have the wit to not have too much of it at any one time … they’ll leave the “intention to supply” charge to the kid on a scooter who supplies them.

It's very easy to get a private prescription for medicinal cannabis, therefore cannabis is (de facto) legal.

EmpressOfTheThread · 11/05/2024 12:31

Dear @XMissPlacedX - I'm glad that it's helping your lovely grandfather. Parkinson's is a very cruel illness x

Thevelvelletes · 11/05/2024 12:31

Hashish smells so much nicer
Long time since I've had a smoke.
Hate the smell of weed... stinking stuff.

SauvignonBlonk · 11/05/2024 12:31

I’m with you OP. It stinks. We had a neighbour who smoked it non stop from 6.30am. There was no escaping it. He’s moved now thank goodness.

OneTC · 11/05/2024 12:24

Ezmaez · 11/05/2024 12:13

I don’t know much about weed but for those saying they smoke it as it’s medicinal to say help with pain I believe you can get it prescribed from a GP in the form of a spray. You don’t have to smoke it and upset your neighbours. It’s just an excuse.

That's a specific combination that is targeted at a specific condition. You wouldn't get it prescribed for generalized pain. It's used to treat neuropathic pain associated with MS afaik

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