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To think that smoking weed outside in the summer is anti social

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Livingnexttothesmokies · 11/05/2024 10:49

My neighbours are a couple in their late 50s, we get on ok but there's no love lost there- they complain about everyone else all of the time but never do wrong themselves.

Over the last 2 years they've developed a weed habit (it's medicinal apparently) and now the sun is out they seem to take turns chain smoking weed so our garden smells almost constantly of weed. If we leave the windows open it makes our house smell of it too so when they light up we have to close the windows.

Our gardens are narrow terraced gardens so we can't escape it. Aibu to think that constantly smoking weed in the summer when people around you want to use their gardens is anti social?

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CruCru · 11/05/2024 19:50

TwelveAngryWhiskers · 11/05/2024 18:55

Most people buying shite from China don’t care about the Uyghurs who are starved and locked up to produce it, or about the women who work in clothing factories in unsafe conditions, being sexually assaulted and earning pence per hour, or the fact that the Aral Sea has all but dried up due to the demand for cotton.

I am not sure that I follow your logic. Do you mean that, as some foreign workers are treated badly, people should not mind that people in the UK are exploited as part of the cannabis industry?

I don’t think the existence of Shein means that middle class people buying cannabis are virtuous. They are still criminals.

BrummieCahoots · 11/05/2024 19:11

Trycod · 11/05/2024 11:24

i usually walk my dog along the Thames at night but for the past few summers I haven’t been able to due to the stench of weed.

Weed is not as innocuous as some would have you believe. Smoking when the brain is still developing is damn right dangerous.

I agree . Weed is horrible . People think it's harmless. I don't agree.

BrummieCahoots · 11/05/2024 19:08

I absolutely hate the smell of weed. But I live in Birmingham so it's everywhere! To be fair no one smokes it around my house / street but I'm always catching wafts of it when I go to work .. on the bus .. from cars .. I think normal cigarettes are fine compared to the rancid weed smell.

Cherrysoup · 11/05/2024 19:06

Massively anti-social, I’m horrified that the new neighbour (who thinks he can do as he pleases, including damaging our property) is a weed smoker. My DH had to ask him to move off the entrance to our drive today by getting out of the car, I’m hoping he clocked the word ‘Police’ on my DH’s sleeve.

TwelveAngryWhiskers · 11/05/2024 18:55

CruCru · 11/05/2024 18:19

The illegal cannabis farms are usually run by criminal gangs who exploit vulnerable people like illegal migrants and those with learning difficulties - the victims of modern slavery. The growers are in no position to genetically modify anything.

Someone upthread said that they expect cannabis to be legalised. I don’t - partly because there is a mental health crisis and no funding but mainly because there is no political appetite for doing so. However, even if it were legalised next week, someone buying illegal cannabis today is a criminal. They are not bothered about exploiting kids on scooters or poor souls who are starved and locked up to work on cannabis farms.

Most people buying shite from China don’t care about the Uyghurs who are starved and locked up to produce it, or about the women who work in clothing factories in unsafe conditions, being sexually assaulted and earning pence per hour, or the fact that the Aral Sea has all but dried up due to the demand for cotton.

CruCru · 11/05/2024 18:19

notmoredirtywashing · 11/05/2024 17:36

I smoke weed too, indoors.

I've always said that the growers have missed a trick: why don't they genetically modify the plant so it doesn't stink?

The illegal cannabis farms are usually run by criminal gangs who exploit vulnerable people like illegal migrants and those with learning difficulties - the victims of modern slavery. The growers are in no position to genetically modify anything.

Someone upthread said that they expect cannabis to be legalised. I don’t - partly because there is a mental health crisis and no funding but mainly because there is no political appetite for doing so. However, even if it were legalised next week, someone buying illegal cannabis today is a criminal. They are not bothered about exploiting kids on scooters or poor souls who are starved and locked up to work on cannabis farms.

User1979289 · 11/05/2024 17:40

I smoke regular weed for pain relief. The medical stuff is absurdly expensive. I have a chronic pain condition and without it I have no option but opiate pain killers which fuck me up. I don't give a shit what anyone thinks and I have a very respectable job and am considered a pillar of the community 😂😂😂😂

Yellowhammer09 · 11/05/2024 17:39

My hose would be periodically shooting water over the fence. Whoops!

rainbowbee · 11/05/2024 17:38

I don't hate the smell and I don't disapprove of smoking it- however, there does seem to be a cross-section between weed-smokers and people who don't respect shared spaces. My downstairs neighbour smokes weed. He leaves the butts everywhere. Put them in a pot ffs. So yes, it's selfish.

notmoredirtywashing · 11/05/2024 17:36

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 11/05/2024 17:17

I never smoke weed outside, it’s not something I want my neighbours to know about - they suffer under the delusion that I’m a respectable person.

I smoke weed too, indoors.

I've always said that the growers have missed a trick: why don't they genetically modify the plant so it doesn't stink?

Mrsjayy · 11/05/2024 17:33

Xarrie · 11/05/2024 15:42

It reeks. We always laugh at the ones walking through town at 9am sucking the life out of a joint. Tragic sad acts.

I was standing at a bus stop Wednesday morning and a guy was smoking it, they don't care about anybody else.

OneTC · 11/05/2024 17:23

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 11/05/2024 17:13

I wouldn't have thought that 'medicinal marijuana' would be smoked, rather like methadone isn't injected.

They recommend vaping it

But it's still weed, so you can smoke it or eat it or anything else you can do with normal weed.

Has normally been irradiated though which kills bugs (and terps) and it tastes like shit. They're kind of more recently realising that the entourage effect of the terps is important to it's medical benefit though

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 11/05/2024 17:17

I never smoke weed outside, it’s not something I want my neighbours to know about - they suffer under the delusion that I’m a respectable person.

Notimeforaname · 11/05/2024 17:17

On my own here but I love the smell of weed 🤣

StealthIguana · 11/05/2024 17:15

Twynklebell · 11/05/2024 16:17

If they kept it within their space, thats fine but smoke spreads and therefore, its anti-social as its impacting on everyone around them.

This. I wouldn't want my kids breathing it. YANBU OP, they're adults and can damage their health/bodies as they please, but neighbours shouldn't have to suffer it. The smell is awful too, gives me a headache.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 11/05/2024 17:13

I wouldn't have thought that 'medicinal marijuana' would be smoked, rather like methadone isn't injected.

AGovernmentOfLawsNotOfMen · 11/05/2024 16:51

It’s not something that would bother me
I’d be more bothered by loud music, kids screaming and smoke and meat smells from bbqs.

Baneofmyexistence · 11/05/2024 16:45

Weed is horrible. My next door but one neighbour is outside every two to three hours smoking a joint. Doesn’t matter so much in the winter but in the summer I want to open windows and back door and then my house bloody stinks of it too. Drives me insane that my kids bedrooms stink of his weed. Completely anti social and illegal but it’s treated as if it’s legal now. I constantly smell it when I’m out and about!

Theoriginalmrscillianmurphy · 11/05/2024 16:21

Wouldn't bother me.

I suggest talking to them.

Twynklebell · 11/05/2024 16:17

Voodoohoodoyoudo · 11/05/2024 15:59

Well no I don't think it is anti social. Its their garden, you dont own the air 🤷‍♀️

If they kept it within their space, thats fine but smoke spreads and therefore, its anti-social as its impacting on everyone around them.

Dweetfidilove · 11/05/2024 16:06

If it’s that synthetic shit or mixed garbage that youngsters are always smoking, yes. That shit gives me a headache, just like cigarettes.

Good marijuana - can’t say I’d mind much.

Voodoohoodoyoudo · 11/05/2024 15:59

Livingnexttothesmokies · 11/05/2024 15:48

I know i can't stop them, i didn't ask that. I asked if other people think it's anti social.

I'm a bit confused by you telling me that's the price i pay for living in a built up area - how about that's what i can afford?

I'm sure we would all love to live in a 4 bed detached in the country with an acre of garden so we never have to see our neighbours but we aren't all that fortunate.

Well no I don't think it is anti social. Its their garden, you dont own the air 🤷‍♀️

rinseandrepeat1 · 11/05/2024 15:56

I don't get how it can be ALL day, surely they couldn't afford to smoke it for 10 hours much less would they be able to form a sentence.

Livingnexttothesmokies · 11/05/2024 15:48

Voodoohoodoyoudo · 11/05/2024 15:26

I don't think you can stop them smoking weed just because you don't like it. The police aren't interested in people smoking weed only dealing and growing it on a large scale. That's the price you pay for living in built up housing.

I know i can't stop them, i didn't ask that. I asked if other people think it's anti social.

I'm a bit confused by you telling me that's the price i pay for living in a built up area - how about that's what i can afford?

I'm sure we would all love to live in a 4 bed detached in the country with an acre of garden so we never have to see our neighbours but we aren't all that fortunate.

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dandelionseverywhere · 11/05/2024 15:46

We were looking round an English Heritage stately home and gardens the other day and could smell it 😂

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