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How the erosion of LGBT rights effects female sex based rights.

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needatalk · 11/05/2024 10:38

I've been reading various discussions and articles on this topic for some time and the conclusion that keeps popping up in my mind is the worry that my female rights will be as much eroded as LGBT rights in law.

I've seen a push in America especially Florida from activists and lawmakers, combining female and LGBT rights in the same grouping. In the UK, politicians are taking American policies. They are calling for diversity and equality to be dismantled in law. It's like time is going backwards in just on LGBT rights but on female sex based rights. Where less rights will exist for us females in the future to do subjects such as STEM or be Astronaut because of the stereotyping happening from suppose feminists who's concepts are the old typical stay at home leave the male to do the dangerous or go to work mentally.

My daughter is 8 years old and and I worry for her, to not able to have the right to do express herself as bisexual or lesbian because of erosion of LGBT rights. We all know homosexuality a long time ago was illegal and that can happen again for all LGBT rights. I worry that my daughter who loves space won't able to follow Rosemary Coogan become an astronaut which is something she dreams of because in the future people will say the radiation of space is too dangerous for females as they will get deformities in that area to prevent them for having babies or healthy babies. Science has disprove this but people are dismissing science now.

As much as I care and support about sex based rights, I can't forget the thought in my mind that my and my daughter's female rights are in as much danger of being taken away not by activists but by lawmakers who enforce sex based past stereotyping and us females lose equality which has been hard to fight for in the first place.

I'm so worried for the future for us females.

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Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 19:35

nothingcomestonothing · 12/05/2024 14:32

You seem very sure that you are right about the thoughts and motivations of some public figures: 'It's so simply obvious', 'Unless you have a better reason' etc etc. Have you ever considered that they have got their own fish to fry? That they are not primarily concerned with the internal life of people who quote them? That they are concentrating on the issue closest to their hearts, and not on making inventories of the views of people who agree with them on one issue?

As I said, purity spiral.

So I'm asking you if the issues close to their heart is women's rights why does the prominent global right wing attacks on women's rights not factor into it for them? I told you why I think it is. Why do you think?

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 19:34

Underthinker · 12/05/2024 13:52

Being able to find a doctor who will perform a procedure or prescribe a medicine should never be the only criteria for whether that treatment is allowed though. Most medics act ethically but there will always be some who don't, including for ideological or financial reasons.

We have laws and standards governing medical practice, and in a democracy we get to voice an opinion on what those rules should be.

Yes but the medical guidelines are based on peer reviewed medical evidence and shouldn't be swayed by political opinion or "democracy".

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 14:59

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 13:20

As someone who claims to support women's sex based rights I'm surprised it's not obvious to you that we live in a patriarchal society that wants to control women's bodies and that's why historically abortion was completely banned. The legal limits are not enough progress. Why not decriminalise abortion up to 24 weeks? Because then all women would have the freedom to simply seek an early abortion if they needed or wanted one, and then we couldn't punish the ones who can't jump through the hoops. It's not easy to access an abortion provider to get permission from two doctors when you're being controlled by your abusive partner who won't let you leave your home. It's not reasonable that a woman who has discovered she is pregnant at the same time as learning she has cancer in her uterus needs "permission" from two doctors to have an abortion. Whether she can easily obtain that is irrelevant - it's incredibly patronising and that women cannot simply seek healthcare for their bodies without getting the opinion of two Doctors that it's in her interests.

I'm going to stop engaging with you now as I'm not personally interested in the opinions on women's sex based rights who don't support the full bodily autonomy of women in their healthcare.

I think you are talking about semantics here. Women are obviously not prosecuted for seeking an abortion before 24 weeks. If they want one, they can get one.

nothingcomestonothing · 12/05/2024 14:32

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 11:06

Oh please, you're comparing apples to oranges. There is a huge difference between you and someone else both believe in X. When that other person is also a threat to women's rights that you claim to be a public campaigner for you and you don't also address that person as being a danger to women, that's bullshit. Why aren't they doing that? It's so simply obvious that it's because they enjoy the support of a lot of them same followers and they don't want to lose them by publicly calling out right wing anti choice politicians and groups and no longer having the same fanatics retweeting their GC views. Unless you have a better reason why they aren't? I mean the attacks on abortion rights has been major news and is a huge issue facing women. JK for example hasn't used her platform to focus on highlighting this -why? She's a defender of women's rights. Why isn't she using her huge platform to fact check these awful right wing politicians passing real laws which endanger womens lives?

You seem very sure that you are right about the thoughts and motivations of some public figures: 'It's so simply obvious', 'Unless you have a better reason' etc etc. Have you ever considered that they have got their own fish to fry? That they are not primarily concerned with the internal life of people who quote them? That they are concentrating on the issue closest to their hearts, and not on making inventories of the views of people who agree with them on one issue?

As I said, purity spiral.

SnakesAndArrows · 12/05/2024 14:09

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 13:31

Ok so we agree that people have the bodily autonomy and they may do things during pregnancy in particular that we.dont agree with but it is between them.and their doctor. Regarding your last question though,what do you actually think should happen? I feel uncomfortable with lots of things people do or expose their children to but I accept that the state can't be taking away children from people unless they're causing significant harm for example.

Neglect (insufficient feeding) is already grounds for social services intervention.

There is no evidence that whatever it is that men produce is of equivalent nutritional value to mothers’ milk, or to formula, and plenty of evidence of risks.

Domperidone is used off label, to increase milk supply when all other options have been exhausted, for a short period only. It is also associated with an increased risk of cardiac events when taken for its licensed indication.

Longer term use in men (as would be needed to continue the supply) increases the risk to the men themselves (his choice) and to the baby of a) side effects (it is excreted in small quantities in breast milk) and b) inadequate nutrition because of less than optimal composition and quantity.

I think it would be unethical to prescribe it anyway, and more so if the man is intending to attempt to breastfeed a child.

And don’t be cherrypicking studies that suggest the composition may be OK. They are poor quality studies and the bar should be pretty fucking high where the sole source of nutrition for a small human is concerned, don’t you think?

Underthinker · 12/05/2024 13:52

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 13:31

Ok so we agree that people have the bodily autonomy and they may do things during pregnancy in particular that we.dont agree with but it is between them.and their doctor. Regarding your last question though,what do you actually think should happen? I feel uncomfortable with lots of things people do or expose their children to but I accept that the state can't be taking away children from people unless they're causing significant harm for example.

Being able to find a doctor who will perform a procedure or prescribe a medicine should never be the only criteria for whether that treatment is allowed though. Most medics act ethically but there will always be some who don't, including for ideological or financial reasons.

We have laws and standards governing medical practice, and in a democracy we get to voice an opinion on what those rules should be.

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 13:35

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I'm sure that sounded like a uniquely clever quip in your head.

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 13:31

SnakesAndArrows · 12/05/2024 13:28

I believe in bodily autonomy for women (and, indeed, men), absolutely.

Women can take testosterone in pregnancy if they can find a doctor to prescribe them. I think they are stupid and selfish and possibly delusional, assuming there is no genuine medical need for testosterone, but their body, their choice.

Men can take wrong sex hormones and lactation inducing medicines if they can find a doctor to prescribe them, but I do not believe that they should be allowed to then force another human being to drink whatever their breasts produce. What about the rights of the child?

Ok so we agree that people have the bodily autonomy and they may do things during pregnancy in particular that we.dont agree with but it is between them.and their doctor. Regarding your last question though,what do you actually think should happen? I feel uncomfortable with lots of things people do or expose their children to but I accept that the state can't be taking away children from people unless they're causing significant harm for example.

SnakesAndArrows · 12/05/2024 13:28

Lampy123678 · 11/05/2024 16:22

You could literally just search on the boards here like I did. I'm not your maid?

We don't have evidence to compare testosterone crystal meth and the wider dangers involved. The fact you leapt to that says it all. I will say again that I think a patients healthcare should be between them and their doctor - deciding what is best for the patient while also considering medical advice. I don't think political opinions should be influencing medical advice.

Do you believe in women's total bodily autonomy or not?

I believe in bodily autonomy for women (and, indeed, men), absolutely.

Women can take testosterone in pregnancy if they can find a doctor to prescribe them. I think they are stupid and selfish and possibly delusional, assuming there is no genuine medical need for testosterone, but their body, their choice.

Men can take wrong sex hormones and lactation inducing medicines if they can find a doctor to prescribe them, but I do not believe that they should be allowed to then force another human being to drink whatever their breasts produce. What about the rights of the child?

Valeriekat · 12/05/2024 13:20

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Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 13:20

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 13:04

What is the point in having a legal limit if there are no consequences for breaching it?

As someone who claims to support women's sex based rights I'm surprised it's not obvious to you that we live in a patriarchal society that wants to control women's bodies and that's why historically abortion was completely banned. The legal limits are not enough progress. Why not decriminalise abortion up to 24 weeks? Because then all women would have the freedom to simply seek an early abortion if they needed or wanted one, and then we couldn't punish the ones who can't jump through the hoops. It's not easy to access an abortion provider to get permission from two doctors when you're being controlled by your abusive partner who won't let you leave your home. It's not reasonable that a woman who has discovered she is pregnant at the same time as learning she has cancer in her uterus needs "permission" from two doctors to have an abortion. Whether she can easily obtain that is irrelevant - it's incredibly patronising and that women cannot simply seek healthcare for their bodies without getting the opinion of two Doctors that it's in her interests.

I'm going to stop engaging with you now as I'm not personally interested in the opinions on women's sex based rights who don't support the full bodily autonomy of women in their healthcare.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 13:04

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 12:48

Decriminalising abortion means it's a matter of healthcare and women cannot be prosecuted for seeking healthcare. The current legal limit has requirements that may not be possible if you are a vulnerable abused woman who may have to resort to ordering abortion pills on line for example which could mean she faces prosecution and in fact this does happen to women. That you're jumping to extreme examples of late term abortions of healthy pregnancies is a typical right wing antichoice talking point that completely ignores the data. The vast majority of abortions happen extremely early on and later term abortions are very rare and usually taking place in tragic circumstances in a very much wanted pregnancy so no I don't think any woman facing that devastating experience should have the threat of "legal repercussions" hanging over her. We don't have any data showing that late term abortions of healthy pregnancies are happening or would be happening willy nilly and using it as a reason to not decriminalise abortion and deny women bodily autonomy is fear mongering and also risking women's lives in the process.

What is the point in having a legal limit if there are no consequences for breaching it?

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 12:48

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 12:19

Abortion is, de facto, legal up until 24 weeks in a healthy pregnancy. That is the most generous time limit in Europe.

What does decriminalising abortion mean, in practice?

Because if it means that someone can procure the abortion of a healthy 35 week foetus and suffer no legal consequences, I don't think many people support that.

Decriminalising abortion means it's a matter of healthcare and women cannot be prosecuted for seeking healthcare. The current legal limit has requirements that may not be possible if you are a vulnerable abused woman who may have to resort to ordering abortion pills on line for example which could mean she faces prosecution and in fact this does happen to women. That you're jumping to extreme examples of late term abortions of healthy pregnancies is a typical right wing antichoice talking point that completely ignores the data. The vast majority of abortions happen extremely early on and later term abortions are very rare and usually taking place in tragic circumstances in a very much wanted pregnancy so no I don't think any woman facing that devastating experience should have the threat of "legal repercussions" hanging over her. We don't have any data showing that late term abortions of healthy pregnancies are happening or would be happening willy nilly and using it as a reason to not decriminalise abortion and deny women bodily autonomy is fear mongering and also risking women's lives in the process.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 12:34

ItsFunToBeAVampire · 12/05/2024 12:25

Yes and it's a dangerous game to start messing with the current limits as there may well be backlash.
I imagine more people would be in agreement with leaving limits as they are, or even lowering them, than would be OK with abortions on demand at any point during a healthy pregnancy.

What we have is fine, leave it alone.

If I'm honest, whilst I wouldn't start messing with the current limits, if I were creating abortion laws for a brand new country I wouldn't put the limit as late as 24 weeks.

But the point is, I think that people who like to imply that politicians such as Miriam Cates are trying to restrict women's abortion rights are being highly disingenuous.

ItsFunToBeAVampire · 12/05/2024 12:25

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 12:19

Abortion is, de facto, legal up until 24 weeks in a healthy pregnancy. That is the most generous time limit in Europe.

What does decriminalising abortion mean, in practice?

Because if it means that someone can procure the abortion of a healthy 35 week foetus and suffer no legal consequences, I don't think many people support that.

Yes and it's a dangerous game to start messing with the current limits as there may well be backlash.
I imagine more people would be in agreement with leaving limits as they are, or even lowering them, than would be OK with abortions on demand at any point during a healthy pregnancy.

What we have is fine, leave it alone.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 12:19

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 10:58

I said she doesn't support decriminalising abortion and you responded to confirm she doesn't support decriminalising abortion and somehow that means I'm disingenuous? Ok....

Abortion is, de facto, legal up until 24 weeks in a healthy pregnancy. That is the most generous time limit in Europe.

What does decriminalising abortion mean, in practice?

Because if it means that someone can procure the abortion of a healthy 35 week foetus and suffer no legal consequences, I don't think many people support that.

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 11:06

nothingcomestonothing · 11/05/2024 19:10

It would have been quicker and simpler if you'd just said you are stuck in a purity spiral.

People agreeing on one issue, doesn't mean they are cosying up, championing, following, looking up to, supporting, validating or giving credence to each others' views on anything else.

If I should ever find myself at an 'is water wet' conference, and Donald Trump also speaks in support of the theory that water is wet, you seem to think I should use my platform at the 'is water wet' conference to disclaim all of his other ideas. If someone at the conference asks me for my opinion on his other ideas I'll give it, but I'm going to use my 'is water wet' platform to share my thoughts on the wetness of water.

Oh please, you're comparing apples to oranges. There is a huge difference between you and someone else both believe in X. When that other person is also a threat to women's rights that you claim to be a public campaigner for you and you don't also address that person as being a danger to women, that's bullshit. Why aren't they doing that? It's so simply obvious that it's because they enjoy the support of a lot of them same followers and they don't want to lose them by publicly calling out right wing anti choice politicians and groups and no longer having the same fanatics retweeting their GC views. Unless you have a better reason why they aren't? I mean the attacks on abortion rights has been major news and is a huge issue facing women. JK for example hasn't used her platform to focus on highlighting this -why? She's a defender of women's rights. Why isn't she using her huge platform to fact check these awful right wing politicians passing real laws which endanger womens lives?

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 10:58

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/05/2024 17:59

My understanding is that she supports the legal limit for abortion for non medical reasons being 22 weeks, which is later than every other country in Europe except the Netherlands. I think you're being rather disingenuous.

I said she doesn't support decriminalising abortion and you responded to confirm she doesn't support decriminalising abortion and somehow that means I'm disingenuous? Ok....

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 10:40

TheKeatingFive · 12/05/2024 10:28

Well now you're back, I believe there's eleventy billion questions that you haven't addressed

I have just responded to the quote I got?
The fact that you rest of you wanna discuss amongst yourselves without quoting me while still ignoring the issue at hand, suit yourselves. No one has provided any defense to the OPs point that eroding LGBT rights in hand harms women's rights. No one has has disproven my point that there are prominent GC campaigners associating, being quiet about, or out right supporting people who want to attack women's rights while they agree with eachother on the trans issue. All I asked is why? Why can't they fight for sex based rights without the support of people who endanger womens rights? Why can't they also call out those people and their threat to women's rights? And instead you wanna try and detract and zone in on me providing you with a particular tweet of JK Rowling for example attacking trans people because you know that whatever I post you will say you don't think that it's anti trans. All because you don't want to discuss her supporting abusive men or being very quiet about the support she receives from right wing anti choice religious people. I said I think it's dangerous and that's really upset some of you for some reason but no one has actually responded with anything to counter the point that there are sections of politics and society that absolutely do not support women's rights particularly bodily autonomy and we should not be associating with them AT ALL if we believe in creating a better world for women.

TheKeatingFive · 12/05/2024 10:28

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 10:24

I'm sorry that some of us had plans on a lovely summer's evening 😂

Well now you're back, I believe there's eleventy billion questions that you haven't addressed

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 10:24

TheKeatingFive · 12/05/2024 10:00

Oh it's always the same with these types.

Anyway, they've gone awfully quiet now ...

I'm sorry that some of us had plans on a lovely summer's evening 😂

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 10:24

DdraigGoch · 11/05/2024 22:23

A tweet from JKR can easily be retweeted by 10k people, and quoted or linked by many more. Is she supposed to go through every one of those retweets in order to make sure that none of them was by some halfwit politician in another continent?

He quoted her while blocking the passing of the Equality Act. It was on the news. She can't get off twitter so don't pretend she didn't see it. This isn't some random retweet this is a republican anti choice senator using her words publicly to push for religious exemptions, the same religious exemptions these politicians want to use fight against women's rights.

TheKeatingFive · 12/05/2024 10:00

SinnerBoy · 12/05/2024 07:53

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Yesterday 21:20

I can't be arsed to scroll but has lampy given any examples of JKR anti-trans tweets?

No, nor a link to an MN poster saying that transm shouldn't be allowed to get pregnant. Lots of assertions of fact, but nothing to back it up. I've drawn my inferences from that.

Oh it's always the same with these types.

Anyway, they've gone awfully quiet now ...

JennyForeigner · 12/05/2024 08:26

You are worried about LGTB rights because you think American misogynists might try to protect your daughter's reproductive capability by telling her not to go to space?

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