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How the erosion of LGBT rights effects female sex based rights.

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needatalk · 11/05/2024 10:38

I've been reading various discussions and articles on this topic for some time and the conclusion that keeps popping up in my mind is the worry that my female rights will be as much eroded as LGBT rights in law.

I've seen a push in America especially Florida from activists and lawmakers, combining female and LGBT rights in the same grouping. In the UK, politicians are taking American policies. They are calling for diversity and equality to be dismantled in law. It's like time is going backwards in just on LGBT rights but on female sex based rights. Where less rights will exist for us females in the future to do subjects such as STEM or be Astronaut because of the stereotyping happening from suppose feminists who's concepts are the old typical stay at home leave the male to do the dangerous or go to work mentally.

My daughter is 8 years old and and I worry for her, to not able to have the right to do express herself as bisexual or lesbian because of erosion of LGBT rights. We all know homosexuality a long time ago was illegal and that can happen again for all LGBT rights. I worry that my daughter who loves space won't able to follow Rosemary Coogan become an astronaut which is something she dreams of because in the future people will say the radiation of space is too dangerous for females as they will get deformities in that area to prevent them for having babies or healthy babies. Science has disprove this but people are dismissing science now.

As much as I care and support about sex based rights, I can't forget the thought in my mind that my and my daughter's female rights are in as much danger of being taken away not by activists but by lawmakers who enforce sex based past stereotyping and us females lose equality which has been hard to fight for in the first place.

I'm so worried for the future for us females.

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Valeriekat · 16/05/2024 10:42

Why is this lunatic thread still here?

Underthinker · 16/05/2024 10:34

@Lampy123678
Incoming selective quote sorry (not sorry).

"Perhaps if you didn't keep selectively quoting my posts you wouldn't miss that I clearly asked for thoughts on biological women who are not birth parents. And again is your issue with the chemicals or not please?"

If you clearly asked this it wasn't in the post I was replying to. I was responding to your question about "biological women using chemicals to induce lactation" if you had meant "biological women who are not birth parents using chemicals to induce lactation" it would have been a different question.

I have never heard the arguments in favour of using medication to help women feed other people's babies. Whether or not I'd agree with that practice, I'm sure such arguments have 100 times more merit than the idea of men chemically inducing lactation to feed babies.

nothingcomestonothing · 16/05/2024 10:34

I think if you have multiple friends accused of physical and sexual abuse, you should look at who you associate with particularly if women's safety is a passion of yours.

Couldn't agree more

https://terfisaslur.com/

And since you seem to be very keen to drag America into a discussion on a UK forum:

How the erosion of LGBT rights effects female sex based rights.
AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/05/2024 10:28

@Lampy123678 you appear to be so obsessed that JKR isn't tweeting about every harm done to women all over the world and that if she doesn't, she somehow doesn't care about those harms.

Or if she doesn't tweet against any tweet made by right wing nuts then she is in agreement?

Why is all this her responsibility? She has got a few books to write you know...

SinnerBoy · 16/05/2024 10:18

And those are just saying she supports access to abortion btw..not raising awareness of the persistence attacks to women's rights to an abortion. No mention at all of the abortion bans in several states. She's veryactive on twitter and she also loves talking about biological reality so I'm very surprised she doesn't get riled up about male politicians suggesting ectopic pregnancies should be reimplanted in the uterus while they're fighting to remove access to life saving abortions.

She's not in America and why should she tweet about what you approve of, you dreary, dreary person.

Lampy123678 · 16/05/2024 10:00

Underthinker · 16/05/2024 09:12

@Lampy123678
Re: JKR - I think most people give people they know more benefit of the doubt than strangers, because it's human nature to trust your friends.
I haven't been on twitter for a while, but I'm pretty certain JKR has talked about threats to women's rights from both right wing groups and from trans rights activists. She doesn't need to reply to every random Christian fundamentalist that quote tweets her to say she disagrees with them.

Re: Breastfeeding
I think giving medication to women to help breastfeed a baby that they have already carried for nine months, is a very different ethical question to giving a man the same medication to feed a baby to whom they are either unrelated or the biological father.

I think if you have multiple friends accused of physical and sexual abuse, you should look at who you associate with particularly if women's safety is a passion of yours.

Perhaps you should search her twitter then because I find four tweets (ever) and the last one being in 2022. And those are just saying she supports access to abortion btw..not raising awareness of the persistence attacks to women's rights to an abortion. No mention at all of the abortion bans in several states. She's very active on twitter and she also loves talking about biological reality so I'm very surprised she doesn't get riled up about male politicians suggesting ectopic pregnancies should be reimplanted in the uterus while they're fighting to remove access to life saving abortions.

Again (for I don't know how many times now) she was not quote tweeted. A right wing senator literally quotes her while officially filibustering legislation to protect LGBT people and pushing for religious exemptions. The same.religious exemptions he believes in blocking access to abortion. It was on the news and again she's very active on twitter and she manages to pick up very small accounts that mention her in order to quote tweet them to her millions of followers. You can naively believe this didn't cross her radar if you wish, but I don't.

Perhaps if you didn't keep selectively quoting my posts you wouldn't miss that I clearly asked for thoughts on biological women who are not birth parents. And again is your issue with the chemicals or not please?

Underthinker · 16/05/2024 09:12

@Lampy123678
Re: JKR - I think most people give people they know more benefit of the doubt than strangers, because it's human nature to trust your friends.
I haven't been on twitter for a while, but I'm pretty certain JKR has talked about threats to women's rights from both right wing groups and from trans rights activists. She doesn't need to reply to every random Christian fundamentalist that quote tweets her to say she disagrees with them.

Re: Breastfeeding
I think giving medication to women to help breastfeed a baby that they have already carried for nine months, is a very different ethical question to giving a man the same medication to feed a baby to whom they are either unrelated or the biological father.

Lampy123678 · 16/05/2024 08:55

Underthinker · 16/05/2024 08:01

@Lampy123678
don't think you lost track. I think you didn't have have responses to the discussion you and I were having about the number of GC "feminists" who have nothing to say about right wing groups and religious zealots sticking their beaks into women's healthcare..

I think i did respond several times but it was hard to pin down what your accusation actually was. IIRC when we finally got to what you referring to it was that JKR at one point believed Depp when (pre-trial) he told her he hadn't been abusive to Amber Heard. And from that we can deduce that JKR isn't a feminist doesn't care about women's rights and we can extrapolate that to all other GC women who now also arent feminists.That was the gist right?

but if you're about to argue that you have the right to stick your beak into a trans persons healthcare
I don't think chemically helping a man lactate into a babies mouth is healthcare. No one is being made more healthy in this situation.

Also is there a reason why you keep selectively quoting sentences from my posts so you can remove the context?
Yes it's so when you make a post with multiple points, you and others can more easily see which part I'm responding to or disagreeing with.

I think I very clearly stated that JKs stance of supporting and believing women and her concern for women being physically or sexually assaulted seems to not apply to men she is friends with. I think threatening to sue when someone asks if you believe a woman's court submitted evidence which included photos of her injuries is an odd stance when you publicly campaign for the protection of women. Especially when you're friendly with more than one man accused of physical or sexual abuse, it gets a bit suspicious no? So my question was, does she give trans people accused of abuse the benefit of the doubt or is that just reserved for her rich and famous friends?

I also asked why you think she doesn't use her massive platform to address any of the right wing attacks of women's rights that are having very real consequences for women, even when antichoice religious senators publicly quote her.

You're welcome to believe that but again you're choosing to ignore the question of if you also disagree with biological women using chemicals to induce lactation? And is your issue with the chemicals or not? The previous poster started implying their issue was with the chemicals and then said that actually the concern for baby was insufficient milk supply and therefore babies being neglected through lack of food. So are women with insufficient milk supply also being suspected that they would neglect their child or is this only trans people?

I'm simply asking whether the restrictions suggested being applied to trans people should also be applied to women and whether the caution about trans women (or men as everyone keeps insisting they're referred to) should be applied equally to all men.

Underthinker · 16/05/2024 08:01

@Lampy123678
don't think you lost track. I think you didn't have have responses to the discussion you and I were having about the number of GC "feminists" who have nothing to say about right wing groups and religious zealots sticking their beaks into women's healthcare..

I think i did respond several times but it was hard to pin down what your accusation actually was. IIRC when we finally got to what you referring to it was that JKR at one point believed Depp when (pre-trial) he told her he hadn't been abusive to Amber Heard. And from that we can deduce that JKR isn't a feminist doesn't care about women's rights and we can extrapolate that to all other GC women who now also arent feminists.That was the gist right?

but if you're about to argue that you have the right to stick your beak into a trans persons healthcare
I don't think chemically helping a man lactate into a babies mouth is healthcare. No one is being made more healthy in this situation.

Also is there a reason why you keep selectively quoting sentences from my posts so you can remove the context?
Yes it's so when you make a post with multiple points, you and others can more easily see which part I'm responding to or disagreeing with.

Lampy123678 · 16/05/2024 07:03

Underthinker · 16/05/2024 05:56

I may have lost track of the thread with so many replies, but just to check - "Well it is a leap if you're just assuming that they're not also formula feeding their child".. is this still referring to men taking drugs to allow them to to feed babies from their male nipples? Because the tone of your reply seems like you're telling off some sticky beak for getting involved in other people's personal medical care.

I don't think you lost track. I think you didn't have have responses to the discussion you and I were having about the number of GC "feminists" who have nothing to say about right wing groups and religious zealots sticking their beaks into women's healthcare but if you're about to argue that you have the right to stick your beak into a trans persons healthcare that's no surprise I suppose.
Also is there a reason why you keep selectively quoting sentences from my posts so you can remove the context? You could always respond to the entire question Y'know.

Underthinker · 16/05/2024 05:56

Lampy123678 · 15/05/2024 17:35

Well it is a leap if you're just assuming that they're not also formula feeding their child if they haven't produced a sufficient supply then. I wonder if you also assume all biological women with insufficient milk supply would also neglect to supplement their children's feeding too?

Of course you can and you're free to post it online as much as you wish to. If you feel your personal opinion should bear any weight in the actions of trained medical professional that's a different matter.

I may have lost track of the thread with so many replies, but just to check - "Well it is a leap if you're just assuming that they're not also formula feeding their child".. is this still referring to men taking drugs to allow them to to feed babies from their male nipples? Because the tone of your reply seems like you're telling off some sticky beak for getting involved in other people's personal medical care.

SnakesAndArrows · 15/05/2024 21:02

Lampy123678 · 15/05/2024 18:10

Everyone can have an opinion about everything. You're not a prescriber so again even with off label prescriptions the medical professional prescribing them won't (and shouldn't) be swayed by your opinion and hopefully that isn't what you're advocating.

Of course I don’t expect physicians to take any notice of my posts on a forum. I do expect physicians to follow GMC ethical guidelines on off label prescribing and evidence based medicine. I don’t expect you to understand the difference.

Lampy123678 · 15/05/2024 18:10

SnakesAndArrows · 15/05/2024 17:42

I am, however, entitled to have a professional opinion about off-label and off-protocol prescribing.

Everyone can have an opinion about everything. You're not a prescriber so again even with off label prescriptions the medical professional prescribing them won't (and shouldn't) be swayed by your opinion and hopefully that isn't what you're advocating.

bolderthan · 15/05/2024 17:47

sleepyscientist · 11/05/2024 10:42

Totally agree feminism used to be about equality and being the same as men. If MN is anything to go by it's now about enforcing old stereotypes that woman need to be protected and kept safe from big scary men. I'm currently laying on the sun lounger looking at the outdoor bar I need to finish.....husband wouldn't know where to start. I also worry for my son that it's going to become to risky to talk to woman as they will always be believed regardless of the evidence as they are soooo weak.

you've not really thought about this, have you?

SnakesAndArrows · 15/05/2024 17:42

Lampy123678 · 15/05/2024 17:35

Well it is a leap if you're just assuming that they're not also formula feeding their child if they haven't produced a sufficient supply then. I wonder if you also assume all biological women with insufficient milk supply would also neglect to supplement their children's feeding too?

Of course you can and you're free to post it online as much as you wish to. If you feel your personal opinion should bear any weight in the actions of trained medical professional that's a different matter.

I am, however, entitled to have a professional opinion about off-label and off-protocol prescribing.

Lampy123678 · 15/05/2024 17:35

SnakesAndArrows · 12/05/2024 21:32

The evidence so far is that insufficient “milk” is produced so that’s not really a leap.

No, I am not a prescriber. That doesn’t mean I can’t have an opinion.

Well it is a leap if you're just assuming that they're not also formula feeding their child if they haven't produced a sufficient supply then. I wonder if you also assume all biological women with insufficient milk supply would also neglect to supplement their children's feeding too?

Of course you can and you're free to post it online as much as you wish to. If you feel your personal opinion should bear any weight in the actions of trained medical professional that's a different matter.

SnakesAndArrows · 12/05/2024 21:32

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 20:01

I know that but your post automatically assumes that people (whether that's trans, adoptive, or non birth parents) who induce lactation will definitely be insufficiently feeling their babies and therefore neglecting them which is a leap you didn't fill in?

We need a lot more research of course and then medical professionals to determine what is safe and ethical. Are you a prescribing physician?

The evidence so far is that insufficient “milk” is produced so that’s not really a leap.

No, I am not a prescriber. That doesn’t mean I can’t have an opinion.

nothingcomestonothing · 12/05/2024 20:30

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 20:01

I know that but your post automatically assumes that people (whether that's trans, adoptive, or non birth parents) who induce lactation will definitely be insufficiently feeling their babies and therefore neglecting them which is a leap you didn't fill in?

We need a lot more research of course and then medical professionals to determine what is safe and ethical. Are you a prescribing physician?

As I said upthread, adoptive mothers in the UK do not induce lactation and breastfeed their adopted children. It does not happen, because adoption in the UK prioritises the child not the adults involved. Perhaps the males trying to induce lactation could do the same.

I have seen the extremely small scale studies (one individual in one I saw) on males using domperidone and other drugs, and not one of those I have seen has stated that the male produced enough 'milk' to sustain a baby. So I expect that is the insufficient feeding PP referenced.

And I agree with PP, there are other priorities for medical research than facilitating this, which is at best unnecessary and at worst the use of an unconsenting child in an adults fetish.

DdraigGoch · 12/05/2024 20:29

WalrusOfLove · 12/05/2024 20:11

A women who wants to drive a bus is not a man, and will struggle to drive a bus designed for someone of 6ft with long legs, big feet and superior upper body strength...but a vehicle designed for people of any body type is an adaptation that benefits women.

Adjustabke seats/steering wheels and power steering have been around for quite some time now.

I think that was the point.

nothingcomestonothing · 12/05/2024 20:20

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 19:35

So I'm asking you if the issues close to their heart is women's rights why does the prominent global right wing attacks on women's rights not factor into it for them? I told you why I think it is. Why do you think?

'prominent global right wing' just sounds like another version of 'funded by the Christian right' tbh. Women in the UK are focussing on the most pressing attacks on women's rights in the UK. That isn't much of a surprise.

WalrusOfLove · 12/05/2024 20:11

A women who wants to drive a bus is not a man, and will struggle to drive a bus designed for someone of 6ft with long legs, big feet and superior upper body strength...but a vehicle designed for people of any body type is an adaptation that benefits women.

Adjustabke seats/steering wheels and power steering have been around for quite some time now.

Underthinker · 12/05/2024 20:05

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 19:34

Yes but the medical guidelines are based on peer reviewed medical evidence and shouldn't be swayed by political opinion or "democracy".

Except when they're not.

The cass review showed that treatments can become established without a solid basis in peer reviewed research, especially when an ideology or profit motive has distorted the decision making.

And the cass review would never have been commissioned without ordinary people realising something was wrong and kicking up a stink to their elected politicians- democracy in action.

(Loving your scare quotes around democracy though. Very telling.)

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 20:04

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 20:01

I know that but your post automatically assumes that people (whether that's trans, adoptive, or non birth parents) who induce lactation will definitely be insufficiently feeling their babies and therefore neglecting them which is a leap you didn't fill in?

We need a lot more research of course and then medical professionals to determine what is safe and ethical. Are you a prescribing physician?

Do we need a lot more research?

Formula is a perfectly safe and healthy way of feeding an infant.

I can think of bigger priorities for medical research than figuring out whether it can ever be safe for men to breastfeed.

Endometriosis and recurrent miscarriage are extremely under-researched, for example.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/05/2024 20:02

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 19:35

So I'm asking you if the issues close to their heart is women's rights why does the prominent global right wing attacks on women's rights not factor into it for them? I told you why I think it is. Why do you think?

Probably because JKR is a British author living in Scotland, and she's choosing to focus on women's rights which are actually under threat in the UK, i.e. single sex spaces and sports, not abortion.

Lampy123678 · 12/05/2024 20:01

SnakesAndArrows · 12/05/2024 14:09

Neglect (insufficient feeding) is already grounds for social services intervention.

There is no evidence that whatever it is that men produce is of equivalent nutritional value to mothers’ milk, or to formula, and plenty of evidence of risks.

Domperidone is used off label, to increase milk supply when all other options have been exhausted, for a short period only. It is also associated with an increased risk of cardiac events when taken for its licensed indication.

Longer term use in men (as would be needed to continue the supply) increases the risk to the men themselves (his choice) and to the baby of a) side effects (it is excreted in small quantities in breast milk) and b) inadequate nutrition because of less than optimal composition and quantity.

I think it would be unethical to prescribe it anyway, and more so if the man is intending to attempt to breastfeed a child.

And don’t be cherrypicking studies that suggest the composition may be OK. They are poor quality studies and the bar should be pretty fucking high where the sole source of nutrition for a small human is concerned, don’t you think?

I know that but your post automatically assumes that people (whether that's trans, adoptive, or non birth parents) who induce lactation will definitely be insufficiently feeling their babies and therefore neglecting them which is a leap you didn't fill in?

We need a lot more research of course and then medical professionals to determine what is safe and ethical. Are you a prescribing physician?