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How the erosion of LGBT rights effects female sex based rights.

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needatalk · 11/05/2024 10:38

I've been reading various discussions and articles on this topic for some time and the conclusion that keeps popping up in my mind is the worry that my female rights will be as much eroded as LGBT rights in law.

I've seen a push in America especially Florida from activists and lawmakers, combining female and LGBT rights in the same grouping. In the UK, politicians are taking American policies. They are calling for diversity and equality to be dismantled in law. It's like time is going backwards in just on LGBT rights but on female sex based rights. Where less rights will exist for us females in the future to do subjects such as STEM or be Astronaut because of the stereotyping happening from suppose feminists who's concepts are the old typical stay at home leave the male to do the dangerous or go to work mentally.

My daughter is 8 years old and and I worry for her, to not able to have the right to do express herself as bisexual or lesbian because of erosion of LGBT rights. We all know homosexuality a long time ago was illegal and that can happen again for all LGBT rights. I worry that my daughter who loves space won't able to follow Rosemary Coogan become an astronaut which is something she dreams of because in the future people will say the radiation of space is too dangerous for females as they will get deformities in that area to prevent them for having babies or healthy babies. Science has disprove this but people are dismissing science now.

As much as I care and support about sex based rights, I can't forget the thought in my mind that my and my daughter's female rights are in as much danger of being taken away not by activists but by lawmakers who enforce sex based past stereotyping and us females lose equality which has been hard to fight for in the first place.

I'm so worried for the future for us females.

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Helleofabore · 22/05/2024 02:54

I think the left are also too caught in their inclusiveness loop. Inclusiveness s a very fine concept. However, when you end up losing boundaries because of the constant push to normalise boundary erosion ( ie. Queer theory and destabilising established science and societal boundaries), how do you re- establish boundaries without countering your new now expanded acceptable behaviour.

For instance, look at the Green Party and its candidates such as Poulton (now ex-candidate) and now Sparkles / Molly. In the Green Party’s determination to be the most inclusive Party, they keep encouraging candidates with sexual fetishes that they self publish to social media. Having candidates who lack these boundaries and who lack the ability to put aside their own intolerances of other opinion is never going to be the key to building a report with the community who wants a candidate to reliably represent the needs of all the electorate.

Considering the way the Green Party has become so authoritarian and totalitarian while now actively encouraging the rejection of even listening to constituents who don’t hold the same philosophical belief based on theory and pseudo science, it is clear that some components of the left really have issues to address.

That through this totalitarianist and authoritarianist dimension that has become so strong, they really have lost understanding of who is oppressed and who are the oppressors.

TheKeatingFive · 21/05/2024 22:38

And because they've never been able to place 'women' in all their complexity into the oppression hierarchy, it's often resulted in total disregard of women's rights and needs.

TheKeatingFive · 21/05/2024 22:34

WalrusOfLove · 21/05/2024 21:59

I think the left struggle with the concept that supposedly oppressed people can be oppressors. That's why they won't say a peep about the misogyny in some non western cultures.

Agreed.

It's bizarrely black and white in its thinking. I'd love to know more about how this rigidity came about

WalrusOfLove · 21/05/2024 21:59

TheKeatingFive · 20/05/2024 10:26

Lots of people think gender ideology is dangerous nonsense, because it is.
When an idea is bad enough, its detractors will include people all across the political spectrum.

Exactly. The strange thing is not that the right wing are against this. The strange thing is that the left wing are not.

I think the left struggle with the concept that supposedly oppressed people can be oppressors. That's why they won't say a peep about the misogyny in some non western cultures.

TheKeatingFive · 20/05/2024 10:26

Lots of people think gender ideology is dangerous nonsense, because it is.
When an idea is bad enough, its detractors will include people all across the political spectrum.

Exactly. The strange thing is not that the right wing are against this. The strange thing is that the left wing are not.

CantDealwithChristmas · 20/05/2024 10:13

I think there are a lot of instances in politics throughout history where two otherwise mutually opposed groups may find themselves in agreement on a specific issue

Examples include:

  • conservative American religious groups and GC women happen to agree that children should not be subject to 'transition'
  • Queer groups protesting against the Israel-Hamas war despite homosexuality being haram for Hamas
  • NHS founder Aneurin Bevan's support for Hitler's socialist policies in the 1930s

It happens. It doesn't mean the two groups should be elided. Nuance is a thing.

Ofcourseshecan · 20/05/2024 10:05

Underthinker · 11/05/2024 11:46

Lots of people think gender ideology is dangerous nonsense, because it is.
When an idea is bad enough, its detractors will include people all across the political spectrum. Expressing objections isn't "cosying up" to anyone, and doesn't mean we share the diverse beliefs or political goals held by every person who also thinks men can't become women, the earth is round or that the pope is Catholic.

Exactly.

Feminists defend women’s single-sex rights because these are basic human rights and because humans can’t change sex.

Many people with religious beliefs defend the same rights for the same reasons. So do lots of other people across the whole political spectrum. It’s just obvious.

Sloejelly · 20/05/2024 09:37

Yes, and telling a female rape survivor requesting confirmation that her counsellor is female, that she is not welcome.

TheKeatingFive · 20/05/2024 08:50

Sloejelly · 20/05/2024 08:46

If anyone is under the misapprehension the those pushing for LBGTQ+ rights are interested in women’s rights, I recommend reading the judgement in Roz Adams vs Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre and the harm done to women by a centre set up to support them when this ideology took control.

Judgement here:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1N4R1DAgf3JlR_Ao7ASS18GGE98t6vB-8/view

I find this whole story deeply shocking. Imagine a rape crisis centre prioritising anything other than the needs of women who've been raped? Imagine telling such vulnerable women they need to 'reframe their trauma' and accept a man like Mridhul as a counsellor even if they are uncomfortable with that?

It's just disgusting.

Sloejelly · 20/05/2024 08:46

If anyone is under the misapprehension the those pushing for LBGTQ+ rights are interested in women’s rights, I recommend reading the judgement in Roz Adams vs Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre and the harm done to women by a centre set up to support them when this ideology took control.

Judgement here:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1N4R1DAgf3JlR_Ao7ASS18GGE98t6vB-8/view

4102236 - Judgment - 14.05.2024 (redacted).pdf

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1N4R1DAgf3JlR_Ao7ASS18GGE98t6vB-8/view

nothingcomestonothing · 19/05/2024 20:21

FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/05/2024 18:43

I agree with you, but I'm taking here about the motivations of other groups.

The regressive groups I'm thinking of see gender (ie socalised differences between men and women) as a natural expression of sex so from their perspective T is transgressive and unnatural.

T ideology meanwhile sees gender as separate from sex and possible for either sex. They genuinely believe that having men claim to be women is breaking gender roles by freeing people from the constraints of their sex, or something.

I agree the T ideologists haven't thought it through to realise, or realise but are choosing not to admit, that the only basis anyone came up with the idea of gender-separate-to-sex in the first place is gender stereotypes, and that a trans woman doing "woman stuff" and thereby being "a woman" is not in fact changing the expectation that female people do "woman stuff" one jot.

But they don't see it that way. It's only from the gender critical perspective you see that both groups are enforcing gender.

That's my perspective so I do agree with you, but it's also true to say that the reason the first group hates/rejects the second is because the first group perceives them as transgressing gender roles, which is what is relevant in the context of my post.

I was also, incidentally, including LGB in transgressing gender roles from the regressive perspective, because from that mindset heterosexual atttraction is part of being "right" for your sex, and those who are not heterosexual are not quite as manly or womanly as they should be. (Which incidentally is also why there is a historic link between LGB and T that made the later force teaming possible and still genuinely supported by many LGB people , but that's way off topic for this post)

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I think this may illustrate your point. Conservatives (small c conservatives) and gender ideologies both support gender stereotypes. Conservatives and gender critical feminists both believe sex is immutable.

GC feminism crosses over with social/ religious conservatism exactly the same amount as gender ideology crosses over with it, but strangely it's only ever GC feminists who are accused of being in bed with the right.

How the erosion of LGBT rights effects female sex based rights.
FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/05/2024 18:52

I hope it's obvious, but just in case as I know some monitors can get triggered very easily and miss the point, in my post above I am describing the regressive perspective on LGB people not agreeing with it.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/05/2024 18:43

Sloejelly · 19/05/2024 17:40

T is about enforcing gender roles, not breaking them down.

I agree with you, but I'm taking here about the motivations of other groups.

The regressive groups I'm thinking of see gender (ie socalised differences between men and women) as a natural expression of sex so from their perspective T is transgressive and unnatural.

T ideology meanwhile sees gender as separate from sex and possible for either sex. They genuinely believe that having men claim to be women is breaking gender roles by freeing people from the constraints of their sex, or something.

I agree the T ideologists haven't thought it through to realise, or realise but are choosing not to admit, that the only basis anyone came up with the idea of gender-separate-to-sex in the first place is gender stereotypes, and that a trans woman doing "woman stuff" and thereby being "a woman" is not in fact changing the expectation that female people do "woman stuff" one jot.

But they don't see it that way. It's only from the gender critical perspective you see that both groups are enforcing gender.

That's my perspective so I do agree with you, but it's also true to say that the reason the first group hates/rejects the second is because the first group perceives them as transgressing gender roles, which is what is relevant in the context of my post.

I was also, incidentally, including LGB in transgressing gender roles from the regressive perspective, because from that mindset heterosexual atttraction is part of being "right" for your sex, and those who are not heterosexual are not quite as manly or womanly as they should be. (Which incidentally is also why there is a historic link between LGB and T that made the later force teaming possible and still genuinely supported by many LGB people , but that's way off topic for this post)

Sloejelly · 19/05/2024 17:40

T is about enforcing gender roles, not breaking them down.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/05/2024 17:29

I think OP was trying to say that regressive groups who oppose LGBT-all-in-the-same-breath because they don't like people breaking gender roles are also anti feminist (true), so feminists recognising that sex impacts women's experiences, risks and needs are the same as sexists reducing women to their sex (not true).

Her fear is that feminists saying one of the reasons women need different rights and supports to men is because child bearing and rearing takes more from women biologically and socially might lead to regressive groups restricting what women can do in case it impacts their reproductive role.

Helleofabore · 19/05/2024 15:19

To be fair, I am not sure that the OP quite articulated what they meant. I refer to the ‘supposed feminists’ advocating for women not to do certain roles? Sounds like a misunderstanding of either who is and isn’t a feminist or a misunderstanding of what those women are saying. I could be wrong. Which feminists would be preventing OP’s daughter from becoming an astronaut? Or was that a comment about the erosion of support and opportunities given to female students if that category now includes some male people too?

FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/05/2024 15:00

Every time I see this title in my watched threads it strikes me as so ironic that the OP's typo makes their headline the opposite of what they intended, and changes it from goady into sort-of(1) true 😂

(1) sort-of true because of couse it's not really LGBT rights she's talking about here, it's T-rights. LGB rights have no impact on women's rights. Eroding LGB rights is a bad thng we should all resist, and yes, I agree with the OP that the same groups that attack LGB rights also attack feminism and women's rights.

But eroding trans-specific rights, the rights that only trans people have to redefine and appropriate others' identity, history, political voice, legal rights and protections and social spaces and opportunities does indeed effect, as in (re) establish, women's rights and is therefore something we as a civilised society aiming to undo the effects millenia of disempowerment and marginalisation has had on women's place in our culture should be all in favour of.

It is so so important that we separate these two sets of rights, the LGB and the T. Otherwise we risk sleepwalking (to be generous, or being deliberating manipulated to be cyncial) into believing that women have to choose between standing up for women and LGB rights but accepting the appropriation of female-specific language, spaces, rights and opportunities by men who believe the way they think, the clothes they want to wear or the sexual acts they enjoy makes them women, or standing up for the existence of women as a separate physical, legal, social and political group to men but also endorsing people who wish to roll back feminist and LGB gains.

It's a false dichotomy. Women can and do reject male appropriation of womanhood without signing up for sexism and homophobia. Indeed it's generally the exact opposite - they reject male appropriation of womanhood because it is sexist and homophobic. Anyone who claims not to see this is either not thinking very deeply or deliberately spreading falsehoods.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 19/05/2024 10:39

SnakesAndArrows · 19/05/2024 09:02

I have attempted to read this thread but my brain has melted slightly.

I think our resident PSGL’s stance is (some) GC women have publicly agreed with some right wing people on a single topic i.e. sex is immutable; people with penises should not be sharing single sex accommodation with women (female women, for absolute clarity). Therefore GC women are right wing and evil, or something.

Do I have that right?

At the same time, PSGL is entirely unworried that the people PSGL supports include rapists and paedophiles?

Yep.

JK Rowling and Kellie-Jay Keen are responsible for anyone who attends one of their events or retweets them, but trans activists are not responsible for Karen White or Katie Dolatowski.

Make it make sense.

Helleofabore · 19/05/2024 10:33

Also, for those reading along who want to know more about the history of the feminists who have been those who have raising the alarm about the conflicts between the extreme demands from some groups and needs of female people, this documentary might be helpful.

This documentary has captured many of those early voices. Many of them are lesbian voices as posters have stated on this thread.

Early feminist voices also include people such as Julie Bindel, Linda Belios, Bev Jackson and Kate Harris.

This youtube link could also be useful from Holly Lawford Smith in Australia.

However, I have also read reports detailing Lesbian feminist groups in the 1970s that refused to agree that male people were women in the USA.

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2014/08/04/woman-2

I wonder how many lesbian feminists we need to mention and how far back their participation needs to be evidenced for the claim that there are many left leaning lesbians in the movement and it can be said that they were among the first, if not the first, people to be raising the alarm that this is an issue. The hand waving dismissal of these women has been astonishing to see on this thread.

Edited to add: The documentary is the one that extreme transgender rights activists blocked being shown in Edinburgh University multiple times. I think on the fourth attempt, it was shown. I believe the first blockage attempt also included male people who declared they were women spitting and intimidating the mainly female audience. I even think a physical assault occurred. Other blockage attempts included forcing female people to walk accross male protestors who also grabbed those female people's legs as they walked past. All because they disgreed with the documentary and declared that screening it made people unsafe.

Adult Human Female

This is the first UK documentary feature to look at the clash between women’s rights and trans ideology. The film can also be watched (ad-free) at: www.adult...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94HFMSm-JBo

SinnerBoy · 19/05/2024 09:41

Good posts, Helleofabore especially about ridiculous assertions of being associated with Nazis.

It makes as much sense as saying that Rosie Duffield is a Tory, because she attends Parliament.

Helleofabore · 19/05/2024 09:33

Anti-trans = Anti-woman

Because the reality is, those who refer to feminists as 'anti-trans' when feminists are campaigning to protect female people seek to remove those protections for female people. Hence if they want to use the hyperbolic and overly emotional and false term 'anti-trans' then they must except the logical opposite label.

Because every time someone posts using that ludicrous term for women who believe in the prioritisation of sex over gender when sex matters, they simply show they have no argument and all they have is emotional manipulation.

And it is emotional manipulation to position women's discussion and points about the issues that concern them as 'anti-trans'. The term centres people who have transgender identities and removes the focus away from female people who feminists are centring. Most clearly though, the term inherently demonises and vilifies the people being labelled as 'anti-trans' by trying to position them as hateful and bigoted.

However, there is one thing that using that term does do.

It highlights that there are conflicts in outcomes when considering the demands of those extreme transgender rights activists.

Because reasonable transgender rights activists are those who recognise the rights that another group needs and seeks to find equitable solutions. Solutions that maintain the protection of female people and children while providing for the needs of people with transgender identities. Those transgender rights activists do not position feminists and women's rights campaigners as 'anti-trans'.

Not all trans people campaigning rightfully for their protections to be strengthened are making extreme demands nor are vilifying and demonising feminists and women's rights campaigners. But that doesn't stop some people dishonestly applying the label 'anti-trans' to people they disagree with.

SnakesAndArrows · 19/05/2024 09:18

Yebbut transwomen are the most important kind of women because they are men.

Helleofabore · 19/05/2024 09:11

SnakesAndArrows · 19/05/2024 09:02

I have attempted to read this thread but my brain has melted slightly.

I think our resident PSGL’s stance is (some) GC women have publicly agreed with some right wing people on a single topic i.e. sex is immutable; people with penises should not be sharing single sex accommodation with women (female women, for absolute clarity). Therefore GC women are right wing and evil, or something.

Do I have that right?

At the same time, PSGL is entirely unworried that the people PSGL supports include rapists and paedophiles?

yep.

And I mean, we can produce endless examples of the views and actions that are harmful to female people and to children of some of the very prominent spokespeople who seek to prioritise gender over sex where sex is considered very important to protect or to provide opportunities specifically for all people who are female.

We could start listing them but the thing is that it tends to kill a thread because there is a lot of evidence and it is not based on 'this person is friends with x' or 'this person has not spoken out about y therefore must be vilified'.

SnakesAndArrows · 19/05/2024 09:02

I have attempted to read this thread but my brain has melted slightly.

I think our resident PSGL’s stance is (some) GC women have publicly agreed with some right wing people on a single topic i.e. sex is immutable; people with penises should not be sharing single sex accommodation with women (female women, for absolute clarity). Therefore GC women are right wing and evil, or something.

Do I have that right?

At the same time, PSGL is entirely unworried that the people PSGL supports include rapists and paedophiles?

Helleofabore · 19/05/2024 09:01

If the poster is referring to the Melbourne rally, I am very happy to giving the timings of the neo-nazis movements in the event area that shows that those men were there only to antagonise those protesting women speaking.

If it is not the Melbourne rally, then I think that it is time for the poster to be absolutely clear just what it is that they are referring to. Because this 'nazi' accusation has been repeated numerous times now with no substantiation.