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U.K. Eurovision entry! A lot of pearl clutching

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Colourofspring · 11/05/2024 08:27

The outrage and comments I have seen about Olly Alexander’s performance is baffling to be honest. So much pearl clutching! Eurovision has always been completely camp and outrageous and yet suddenly he has been portrayed as some kind of disgrace and not representative of the UKs ‘values’ (what the fuck does that mean anyway?)

I like the song, I have seen him perform live at Glastonbury with years and years, he’s good live. Yes he’s openly gay - so what? Surely UK values should be based around tolerance and acceptance and not hysteria because his performance is considered risqué. Would it be considered the same if it was a load of half naked female dancers?

I am heterosexual but not offended by it - it’s just a performance - I hope he wins as he’s a nice guy!

So much pearl clutching!

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0w1 · 11/05/2024 18:04

I like Spain's song! in a world where you can be young, younger, thin, body positive, gay, obviously gay, trans, non-binary, a cat, a vampire, it just makes a nice change to see a woman who is in her mid fifties. I love the video of all the older people in the club and the women are cheering and happy and the men are like tutt tutt! Go Spain.

ghostyslovesheets · 11/05/2024 18:02

The TRA movement is quite problematic for gay people - as they are same SEX attracted but it's 'transphobic' to demonstrate that by not dating people of the opposite sex.

ghostyslovesheets · 11/05/2024 18:00

I mean -come on - George Michael did it MUCH better almost 30 years ago (Jesus really !) with the video for Outside - so his routine is just a cheap copy.

It's an okay song - wont win - I'm not really bothered by the sex stuff - like Sam Smith it's all a bit 'look at me being sooooo outrageous' but it's hardly ground breaking.

It's not homophobic to find it a bit off - it's not to everyone's taste is all.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 11/05/2024 17:59

ShyPoet · 11/05/2024 17:33

@LadyMary50 No we can thank homophobic people for that.

Yes what you said 😁

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 11/05/2024 17:58

LadyMary50 · 11/05/2024 17:19

Society is going backwards and you can thank the Trans for that and the likes of Rue Paul…

"The trans" 🙄
No, it's not going backwards because of people who are trans or drag queens.
It's going backwards because of attitudes of people who can't cope with seeing people different to themselves, and instead of looking at themselves why they get so triggered by them, blame it on everyone else for "ramming it down our throats" "everyone's gay/trans whatever nowadays" ...
Ru Paul and trans people aren't the problem. Biscuit

EmpressSoleil · 11/05/2024 17:50

Lokipokey1 · 11/05/2024 17:04

It was a few yrs ago now, but would be interested to know if there was all this pearl clutching and references to ‘shoving it in kids’ faces’ when Poland had their milkmaid dances suggestively churning butter …

I did see that performance. I watch Eurovision every year with DD. And yes I said at the time that I found it sleazy. So yes I am being consistent.

TooBigForMyBoots · 11/05/2024 17:48

Lokipokey1 · 11/05/2024 17:04

It was a few yrs ago now, but would be interested to know if there was all this pearl clutching and references to ‘shoving it in kids’ faces’ when Poland had their milkmaid dances suggestively churning butter …

There was. So much so that Mel Giedroyc reproduced it last year.Grin

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=K9K1gWfoS8c

MEL GIEDROYC @ Eurovision 2023 churning butter in a SEXY way behind Hannah Waddingham

MEL GIEDROYC @ Eurovision 2023 churning butter in a SEXY way behind Hannah Waddingham#eurovision2023 #melgiedroyc #hannahwaddingham

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=K9K1gWfoS8c

ShyPoet · 11/05/2024 17:45

Bululu · 11/05/2024 17:36

Mostly trash anyway. Sign of the times really.

It has always been like that.

Flaskfan · 11/05/2024 17:42

There was a bloke on r4 the other days analysing what makes a good pop song. Waterloo has all the ingredients. I think he said the Dutch one does too, but I was only half listening. He did say the UK one doesn't. I think when the UK does eurovision it often does a kind of patronising 'let's do what the Europeans like' without avidly seeing what people do like.

Totally impartial viewer here- I'm not a pop ir dance fan, but I like the eurovision spectacle.

Bululu · 11/05/2024 17:36

Mostly trash anyway. Sign of the times really.

ShyPoet · 11/05/2024 17:33

@LadyMary50 No we can thank homophobic people for that.

IDontOftenComment · 11/05/2024 17:25

Colourofspring · 11/05/2024 10:58

“The fact that the OP insults people by calling them ‘pearl clutchers’ and their actions are ‘hysteria’ speaks more about her bigotry than theirs”

Yea, whatever 🙄

Your comment just about sums you up OP, ignorant , rude and self indulgent.

WalkingThroughTreacle · 11/05/2024 17:20

It honestly doesn't bother me. Camp makes me cringe but I believe everyone has a right to happiness and so what if Eurovision has morphed into a bit of a Pride extravaganza? It's not for me but they are having fun and not doing anyone any harm. I'll not watch it because it's not my thing but I would stand up and fight to protect it.

LadyMary50 · 11/05/2024 17:19

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 11/05/2024 08:53

Completely agree with this
I think it's a great song, and what is it that people are offended about?
Him being gay?
How ridiculous if so. I swear society's going backwards.

Society is going backwards and you can thank the Trans for that and the likes of Rue Paul…

FlakyPoet · 11/05/2024 17:16

Maybe I saw a different version from everyone else?

This is the version I watched:

Shetlands · 11/05/2024 17:14

Just watched it on youtube. It's a mind-numbingly boring song and the set looks rank - made me want someone to come out and power wash it!

The dancers were good and the acrobatics were fun but overall the choreography was dull with too much thrusting & humping - not very creative!

Simonjt · 11/05/2024 17:13

Lokipokey1 · 11/05/2024 17:09

Also everyone keeps referencing It’s a Sin am I the only person who saw him in God Help the Girl?

No you’re not :)

DramaLlamaBangBang · 11/05/2024 17:13

itsmylife7 · 11/05/2024 17:11

Why are you trying to make this a gay issue ?

Are you saying all gay men act like Olly ?

Like Olly as an actor but hes not a great singer.

Now the great George Michael done a great "so i got caught cottaging" song and very tasteful video.

Exactly. Now that was done well with humour and 20 years ago!

FlakyPoet · 11/05/2024 17:13

I just watched the performance and unless a lot of the raunchy stuff was edited out by the choice of shots, I don’t think it is particularly extreme.

He does an amazing live performance though. You can clearly hear the melody and lyrics - even though he is dancing. I think its impressive.

yellous · 11/05/2024 17:12

AmusedMaker · 11/05/2024 17:07

They include tolerance and mutual respect

some people might find it disrespectful to have half naked bodies thrust upon them when they’ve tuned in to watch a song contest.

respect works both ways.

Exactly.

DramaLlamaBangBang · 11/05/2024 17:12

I was more surprised that such an established singer was so out of tune! He was vocally by far the worst singer. I thought the depiction of gay men writhing around in a dirty public toilet was pretty stereotypical and grubby.

itsmylife7 · 11/05/2024 17:11

Why are you trying to make this a gay issue ?

Are you saying all gay men act like Olly ?

Like Olly as an actor but hes not a great singer.

Now the great George Michael done a great "so i got caught cottaging" song and very tasteful video.

Itsonlymashadow · 11/05/2024 17:09

I have spent a few minutes googling euro visions and OA and British values. The only thing I can find suggesting OA is going against British values is actually this thread.

It appears that there’s been some Problems in rehearsal, a small amount of people thing he should boycott due to Israel’s having a singer in. A smaller amount of people are annoyed he doesn’t like the UK flag. And some people don’t like the simulated sex/sexual assault in a dirty toilet as the performance. Which is definitely an ok opinion to have. I wouldn’t want to see a female singer acting out being assaulted on a TV show that’s meant to be for families.

There’s nothing about him not representing British values, anything that suggests people are angry that a gay man is representing the Uk at Eurovision, not thing that suggests the country is moving backwards when it comes to equal rights for gay people.

its seems op has just assumed anyone whose opinion isnt 100% positive must be a bigot and be clutching their pearls. Rather than the truth, which is some people have slightly differing opinions. No. Of which seem to be based in Homophobia.

Lokipokey1 · 11/05/2024 17:09

Also everyone keeps referencing It’s a Sin am I the only person who saw him in God Help the Girl?

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