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To be livid with exH

35 replies

Hibbiskibbidibop · 10/05/2024 21:22

NC due to outing info.

On the weekend I reported my ex to the police for sending an inappropriate image to my DD. Police came to interview on Tuesday. I told him I was going no contact. He will not be having it now unless he applies via court, then I will let them decide after reviewing the evidence over the years as to what contact he should have.

Tonight I had to go take my DS2 to football training. He was there with his fiancée and her son. My son and his played on opposite sides of the field as they're different ages. Exes side finished early, so he came over and stood watching my DS2. Fine. Nothing I could do without making a scene and wouldn't want to.

We then went to leave and he followed us, shouted of my boys and then blocked them leaving out of the gate. Asked them for a hug, my honest son was okay with this. My middle son tried to move and he put his hands out to block him moving past, so that he had to hug him. I told him he was pushing it and he ignored me.

He's so creepy it's unbelievable. He never listens to consent or respects boundaries. Keeps asking DD if she has her period and to tell him when she does.

I am so fed of him getting away with everything. There's lots of back story but this is outing enough as it is. I feel like I'm going mad as he always makes me feel like I'm blowing things out of proportion. I don't know my own mind any more.

OP posts:
Octavia64 · 10/05/2024 21:40

Suggest a solicitor and a non-molestation order,

You can get it through pretty quick if necessary.

WaltzingWaters · 10/05/2024 21:39

Hibbiskibbidibop · 10/05/2024 21:34

Yes, but there wasn't any underwear. He was naked.

What??? Jeez, what a bloody perverted creep. He sounds, well yeah, like a perverted creep. You’re right to do everything in your power to keep him away from your DC.

MissUltraViolet · 10/05/2024 21:38

This is disgusting.

Why have the police not done anything? why has he not been arrested? at best he should be on bail right now with conditions that keep him well away from the children/all children while they investigate.

drusth · 10/05/2024 21:37

Did the police say he was allowed to contact the dc?

Starseeking · 10/05/2024 21:36

What on earth?!? Your DD's father sent a naked picture of himself to her???

Hibbiskibbidibop · 10/05/2024 21:34

drusth · 10/05/2024 21:34

Is this the man who send his dd a pic of him in his underwear?

Send an email to yourself documenting his behaviour, keep a record of it all.

Yes, but there wasn't any underwear. He was naked.

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drusth · 10/05/2024 21:34

Is this the man who send his dd a pic of him in his underwear?

Send an email to yourself documenting his behaviour, keep a record of it all.

Hibbiskibbidibop · 10/05/2024 21:33

Fluffytoebeanz · 10/05/2024 21:29

Is he their dad? It's a bit confusing. But yes he sounds like a revolting creep.

Sorry yes. He's their dad

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RandomButtons · 10/05/2024 21:32

“I feel like I'm going mad as he always makes me feel like I'm blowing things out of proportion. I don't know my own mind any more.”

Classic gaslighting, he’s made you question everything. Have you got friends you can hash this out with, get an external perspective? He sounds a menace.

Fluffytoebeanz · 10/05/2024 21:29

Is he their dad? It's a bit confusing. But yes he sounds like a revolting creep.