Hi everyone.
I'm just looking for some advice. Not sure where to post it really so just put it here.
I have posted about this issue recently but j and to delete the thread as I added too many personal details.
The jist of it was that my husband is in the military..basically never home..I've been raising our kids alone for years with no support or friends or a break or anything. Moved with him in July and he was sent away again in November. Has been away since. This resulted in me having a breakdown-depression, panic attacks, absolute burnout and I told him I wanted to move back home to have some support/not be completely alone anymore and have some kind of life and stability for myself and our children.
This has not gone well. Have had many arguments about it because he feels I'm abandoning him/he'll never see the children. Doesn't seem worried that I've been stuggling for years and that this isn't good for our children.
Says we can't afford the travel/extra car ect (I think it would be fine and if we need to cut back so be it)
Anyway. He reluctantly agreed to at least do the form for me so we can apply for a transfer SFA on welfare grounds to be near my hometown and he would just commute whenever he would be able.
However, he hasn't been able to submit it because something needs to be updated on his JPA? before they can submit the form.
He says he can't do this when he's away. He has been putting it off for ages so I don't know if this is true or if he is just trying to put it off in hopes I'll change my mind when he's back.
Thing is, my eldest is due to start school in September and I desperately want to move and get her started there. I can't apply for schools without an address I don't think?
I am staying at my mums now because I can't face going back there but I can't use her address and we can't stay here until then anyway.
I'm so worried, I don't want her to have to start school in our current home and have to move her. But I'm so scared nothing is happening and I have no control over it
I know there is a lot in my post and a lot of issues.
I guess, does anyone with any military experience know of anything I can do to get this form in sooner and get a house without him? I'm scared he'll leave it too late and she won't get a place in time
Or is there any way I can apply for schools without an official address?
Just grateful for any advice, I'm really in a muddle.
Thank you for reading.