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To go on holiday with children and without DH?

34 replies

welliwill · 10/05/2024 13:26

I’m a teacher so obviously have a long summer to full. Children are 3 and 1 and our usual groups aren’t on. I’m considering taking them on a holiday for a week but DH won’t have leave although he may join us for a weekend.

It sounds fine to me: does anyone think it sounds odd or strange?

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mindutopia · 10/05/2024 13:34

Sounds perfectly fine. Dh and I do it all the time. It's tricky for us both to get away as have pets and a farm at home that needs looking after. But that doesn't stop us getting away and enjoying a holiday. Dh took ds to Wales to visit family last year (also took dd another time before that). I'm taking ds to Spain on holiday this summer and then dh taking dd to France a few weeks later.

It means we get one on one time with them and actually in our case, taking the dc away separately means we can do age specific activities that wouldn't suit the other one. And then there is always a parent at home to sort out anything that needs doing while we're away. We get loads of time together as a family, so no one is missing out. Both my dc say some of their most memorable holidays were the ones we took individually with them.

GerbilsForever24 · 10/05/2024 13:34

Totally fine and normal.

I think if you routinely purposefully excluded DH from you rholiday plans, that would be a problem. But taking an opportunity for a small holiday when he doesn't have leave is nowhere near that.

Go, enjoy it. If he's anything like me and DH, he'll thoroughly enjoy a few days at home without everyone!

CharlotteRumpling · 10/05/2024 13:32

I go away on solo holidays while DH and DC stay at home. Who cares what people think?

JoleneTookHerMan · 10/05/2024 13:30

I go away with my two kids all the time whilst hubby stays at home.

It's not an issue

SonicTheHodgeheg · 10/05/2024 13:30

I think it’s fine - especially if your h doesn’t mind.

mynameiscalypso · 10/05/2024 13:30

Seems reasonable to me. I'm taking our 4 year old away over half term as DH can't get the time off work. I don't know if I'd be able to cope with two by myself but there's a good reason why I didn't have a second in the first place 😂

CleverCats · 10/05/2024 13:29

It’s not at all strange. If you’re married doesn’t mean you or children have to “go without” something because spouse is unavailable or doesn’t enjoy something.
Really he should be delighted you’re all enjoying yourselves and my guess with 2 preschoolers he will certainly enjoy himself home alone for a week!

Youdontevengohere · 10/05/2024 13:29

Why would it be odd? And why would you care if people thought it was odd? I’ve taken my children on holiday loads on my own. DH has too.

Saschka · 10/05/2024 13:29

Sounds totally fine to me! I go away with DS more than I go away with DH!

Usually visiting my family who live by the seaside, but we also go skiing by ourselves (DH isn’t interested). It’s lovely actually!