When did you know it was time for divorce?

The final straw was seeing him standing in the kitchen eating a yoghurt in slow motion, without a care in the world, whilst i struggled to get a tired 5 yo to bed in a calm, quiet way, whilst juggling a baby who needed a feed and then bed. I had also worked a full day - further away and more taxing than his - but rushed back to take over and start the bedtime routine etc

He had clearly stayed in the office til he hoped all hard work would be over, and was damned if he was going to get involved at that stage so that his children could each have a proper night’s sleep.

I just posted this on another thread asking the same question.

I knew it was time when the sound of his key in the lock coming home made my stomach 'drop'.

When you look at him and feel nothing positive at all, it's time.

When you don't want to share a room or sofa with him it's time.

When you avoid anything 'physical' like touching hands, a kiss, a hug, sex etc it's time.

When you find yourself wishing the weekend would pass quickly and you're looking forward to working so you can get away from him, it's time.

When you have to 'psych yourself up' to ask the most basic of questions because you know it may 'annoy' him, it's time.

When you avoid telling him anything good at all because he will suck any joy or happiness from anything you say, it's time.

When you feel the need to put on an 'act' in front of your DC or relatives/friends, it's time.

I could go on and on forever really, but you just need to ask yourself 1 question, Do I want to be in the same position in 1 years time?

You now know whether it's 'time' for you...

List not lust

Emotional abuse, laziness, alcoholism, lack of respect the lust is endless. On reflection I wonder why on earth i spend a decade taking this shit

When I turned 40. I had been with him since 18 and unhappy for a lot of those years. Though to myself did I really want to continue plodding along or give myself a chance at proper happiness. Best thing I ever did