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‘We didn’t have expensive mobile phones”

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MidnightPatrol · 10/05/2024 12:36

Why is this now used as a criticism of the young by the old, particularly in debates around affordability of housing etc.

No you didn’t have a mobile phone in 1974.

But that is because they didn’t exist. Not because you made a financial sacrifice.

Is the suggestion young people shouldn’t have mobile phones? This would be a little limiting in today’s environment.

In the 1970s were young people criticised for owning washing machines rather than hand scrubbing their clothes in a copper pail?

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Ocadoshoppingjustarrived · 12/05/2024 09:20

I can't stand hypocrisy and I am sure those who are so horrible about boomers' final salary pension would be happy to accept one themselves. I am furious every day when I see my ex-teacher neighbour who retired at 55 pottering about when I will have to work until I am 67. It's not right that civil servents can retire so early but that doesn't mean I would not do so myself if I had the opportunity to do so.
I do however think that universal pensioner benefits should be looked at and that the retired should no longer be considered 'untouchable'. At the moment we have comparatively wealthy pensioners being universally paid hundreds every winter to help with heating costs that they don't need, funded by struggling families with less disposable income per month.
But don't hit out at them for getting lucky - that's just jealous hypocrisy and is not a good look.

beguilingeyes · 12/05/2024 08:05

Maybe we should stop fighting between ourselves over the crumbs that fall from rich people's tables. Divide and rule...it never fails does it?
The people to blame are the people in charge. The likes of Thatcher and Reagan and their heirs who started the erosion of workers rights and managed to convince people that 'trickle down' was an actual thing.
The top 1% own most of the world's wealth and we've let a handful of tech bros inherit the earth. But it's people who are trying to live on a state pension which are to blame

huitneuf · 11/05/2024 18:27

MidnightPatrol · 10/05/2024 12:36

Why is this now used as a criticism of the young by the old, particularly in debates around affordability of housing etc.

No you didn’t have a mobile phone in 1974.

But that is because they didn’t exist. Not because you made a financial sacrifice.

Is the suggestion young people shouldn’t have mobile phones? This would be a little limiting in today’s environment.

In the 1970s were young people criticised for owning washing machines rather than hand scrubbing their clothes in a copper pail?

Why do people NEED expensive mobiles anyway. There are lots of mobiles for £90 with cameras, apps etc. I can't understand why anyway need a £700 mobile phone. I have now refused to replace my iPhone.

I don't think it will affect a house purchase however.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/05/2024 18:04

Ocadoshoppingjustarrived · 11/05/2024 15:05

I've already said this but I will say it again. The generation who disparagingly refer to older generations as 'boomers' seem to think they have a monopoly on suffering and struggling to make ends meet while at the same time being the only generation to worry about others, care and know how to raise children.
That's not a nice thing to say but I do find it ironic that the 'be kind' generation are so utterly rude and dismissive of 'boomers' who have just got lucky, in much the way they wish they had.

Nah, I think what irritates younger people is the fact that the baby boomer generation seem completely oblivious to how lucky they are and make stupid comments about how young people would be able to afford houses if they didn't spend so much money on avocado toast (and then in the next breath claim that age brings wisdom).

ShyPoet · 11/05/2024 17:32

@FlameTulip The UK has some of the lowest state pensions in Europe. Why would you want to erode workers rights even more?
And the state pension now means people retiring now get a higher state pension than most people currently getting a pension. The government increased the amount of state pension but only for new pensioners.

FlameTulip · 11/05/2024 17:27

A poster asked what Boomers have done that have screwed things up for future generations. So I'm trying to answer. Boomers have benefited from generous pension schemes, at the expense of later generations, and yet are still fighting to hold on to the triple lock.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 11/05/2024 17:15

@FlameTulip

Clearly I'm talking about a generational decision

What's a generational decision?
Which generation?
How was that organised and decided?
Was only that generation included in the process?

DoraSpenlow · 11/05/2024 16:10

FlameTulip · 11/05/2024 13:18

Clearly I'm talking about a generational decision, not a personal decision.

Generational decision? How much influence did you have over the set up of your company pension scheme? 99.9 percent of the working population were just asked if they wanted to join or not. A handful of people decided on the make up of schemes. If you were offered a final salary scheme today would you join?

ghostyslovesheets · 11/05/2024 16:05

CurlyhairedAssassin · 11/05/2024 11:24

I agree that we need more houses. Like, a MASSIVE National house-building scheme. But there are issues - a) we’d have to expand onto green-belt probably and b) we no longer have the numbers of skilled construction workers required. If people can’t find a decent roofer to repair their old rooves, where do people think decent roofers will come from to build thousands of new homes?

But is needs to be the right housing! Where I live they continue to build huge estates - villages in themselves really, recently on a golf course (council owned and sold for £1) and farm land - they are driving prices UP because you need more to buy them - these aren't starter homes but 4/5 bed 'executive' dethatched things starting at near £500,000+

We need more 3 bed semi's and terraces - and they need to be publicly owned or priced for people to afford.

Ocadoshoppingjustarrived · 11/05/2024 15:05

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 11/05/2024 13:59

Agree.

Ageism pure and simple

I've already said this but I will say it again. The generation who disparagingly refer to older generations as 'boomers' seem to think they have a monopoly on suffering and struggling to make ends meet while at the same time being the only generation to worry about others, care and know how to raise children.
That's not a nice thing to say but I do find it ironic that the 'be kind' generation are so utterly rude and dismissive of 'boomers' who have just got lucky, in much the way they wish they had.

oddandelsewhere · 11/05/2024 14:13

I suppose we contributed by developing most of the medicines which will keep our increasingly aging population alive. And yes, even the most self righteous anti Boomers on here will get older. We were also the doctors who massively improved the life chances of very premature babies amongst other things.

We fought for equal pay and other women's rights. Unfortunately the current generation are happy to give away those rights in the interest of 'being kind'.

The major criticism that probably could be levelled at 'boomers ' is that we have raised a nasty selfish generation. Incidentally, will they all refuse to accept the ill gotten gains on their parents houses when they die? Bet your life they won't.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 11/05/2024 13:59

Funnywonder · 11/05/2024 13:49

Can we just fucking well stop calling people 'boomers'? It's never said in a pleasant or positive way. Always scathing and condescending. I hate it. I'm not from that generation myself (not a kick in the arse off it though) but I'm sick to death of hearing that word.

Agree.

Ageism pure and simple

Funnywonder · 11/05/2024 13:49

Can we just fucking well stop calling people 'boomers'? It's never said in a pleasant or positive way. Always scathing and condescending. I hate it. I'm not from that generation myself (not a kick in the arse off it though) but I'm sick to death of hearing that word.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 11/05/2024 13:44

It just means that it's perfectly possible to live a full life without a mobile phone

  • usually said in response to people insist that phones are absolutely essential.
KimberleyClark · 11/05/2024 13:29

FlameTulip · 11/05/2024 13:18

Clearly I'm talking about a generational decision, not a personal decision.

But who made this generational decision? Decisions don’t make themselves. There wasn’t a huge meeting of boomers at which it was decided to award ourselves huge pensions.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/05/2024 13:28

DoraSpenlow · 11/05/2024 11:45

I don't think the boomers were the ones who had to have the latest tech. We wait until something is broken before replacing. We don't use fast fashion that is worn twice and thrown away or falls apart. We weren't travelling the world on gap years and taking long haul holidays. We weren't going abroad on long weekend stag/hen parties. I could go on......

I'm bored of hearing how much better the boomers are at everything tbh. If that were true the world would be in a better state.

FlameTulip · 11/05/2024 13:18

DoraSpenlow · 11/05/2024 11:34

What are you on about? We didn't 'award' ourselves anything. You joined a company, they asked if you wanted to join the pension scheme, you said yes or no. Yes we were fortunate to have final salary schemes but we had no reason to think it would ever be different for following generations. And the amount you got out was based on what you and your employer put in. If you were offered the same today would you say no?

Clearly I'm talking about a generational decision, not a personal decision.

AllyCart · 11/05/2024 12:15

MidnightPatrol · 11/05/2024 11:43

The problem is that when the pension’s were introduced, we had something like 9 workers for every retiree.

We now have 3 workers for every retiree.

In a decade it looks like it will be more like 2.

Which makes the ‘current workers pay for today’s state pensions’ system not work. Hence the introduction of auto-enrolment where people are saving and investing instead.

It should be fully contribution based.

Say 25% of the NI you pay goes towards your pension and whatever that grows to buys an annuity which is your state pension.

That means you get out what you put in rather than the current state of people who've always been a net drain on the country saying they've "paid in all my life" and feeling so entitled to support from younger workers.

DoraSpenlow · 11/05/2024 11:45

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/05/2024 07:08

As a generation the boomers have taken more from the world than they've put into it, which is why the following generations are now fighting for pieces of an ever smaller pie.

I don't think the boomers were the ones who had to have the latest tech. We wait until something is broken before replacing. We don't use fast fashion that is worn twice and thrown away or falls apart. We weren't travelling the world on gap years and taking long haul holidays. We weren't going abroad on long weekend stag/hen parties. I could go on......

MidnightPatrol · 11/05/2024 11:43

LakeTiticaca · 11/05/2024 09:52

What's all this sudden opprobrium being heaped in older generations pensions being paid for by the current working generation? Who the hell do you think paid the pensions of the previous generation? Yep,!! We did!!
I for one am sick and tired of the boomer generation being blamed for the ills of today.
Much wealth was created in the 80s and everything was booming. Property prices boomed and people were making money on them. (Not forgetting that those houses had been scrimped and saved for in the 70s with crippling interest rates) you could buy your council house for a big discount (yes inagree that new social housing should have replaced the properties sold)
Why would people not take the opportunities that came along and have extra money on their pockets for a change after having to scrimp along for so many years?
It's not our fault that the current generation have turned out to be a bunch of whining snowflakes who want everything handed to them on a plate and need trigger warnings in Disney films!!

The problem is that when the pension’s were introduced, we had something like 9 workers for every retiree.

We now have 3 workers for every retiree.

In a decade it looks like it will be more like 2.

Which makes the ‘current workers pay for today’s state pensions’ system not work. Hence the introduction of auto-enrolment where people are saving and investing instead.

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MidnightPatrol · 11/05/2024 11:42

nothingsforgotten · 11/05/2024 08:05

And you don't think your children and grandchildren will say the same about your generation? No-one I know has "taken more from the world than they've put into it" - you are just repeating ad naseum what you have read somewhere.

I think the equivalent in future will be that millennials all extended their houses because they couldn’t afford to move, so the starter homes are even more expensive.

Everyone round here is doing the loft / extension because it’s cheaper than trying to move.

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ConsistentlyInconsistant · 11/05/2024 11:41

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DoraSpenlow · 11/05/2024 11:34

FlameTulip · 11/05/2024 07:53

Awarding yourselves generous guaranteed pension schemes, to be funded by the generations following you.

What are you on about? We didn't 'award' ourselves anything. You joined a company, they asked if you wanted to join the pension scheme, you said yes or no. Yes we were fortunate to have final salary schemes but we had no reason to think it would ever be different for following generations. And the amount you got out was based on what you and your employer put in. If you were offered the same today would you say no?

focacciamuffin · 11/05/2024 11:33

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/05/2024 09:37

I'm talking about as a generation, not as individuals. Only generation in history to be richer than both their parents and their children. Haven't contributed much of any value but do love to patronise the younger generations whilst telling them to respect their elders.

Contributed to what?

KimberleyClark · 11/05/2024 11:29

There are loads of urban brownfield sites and boarded up houses but no one wants to live in high density housing.