I want to cut off my sister

She sounds rude. But then sisters often are quite annoying, aren’t they?

Over a lifetime, surely it’s possible to forgive or resolve worse family conflicts than this.

Ok fair do's she sounds a bit a of bitch.

I'd not be that rude to someone I actually liked.

we have met without the kids a couple of times but both times she asked me to not mention my children which I find quite rude and hurtful

Is she perhaps having fertility issues? Do you have other things to talk about?

Me and my sis both have kids, but when we meet up without them, we both are delighted to not talk about the kids, that’s why we meet up both with and without them

I know this is unpopular to say on here but but I can't think of another was to say you really are sounding dramatic

No everyone's world is all about children except the parents, and I am wondering are you spending all your time talking about children? Yes some parents do it

She sounds like me. I don't particularly enjoy children, hence none of my own. I'll fuss over peoples dogs, and the kids get a hello.

Doesn't mean she doesn't love you, or them to a point.

Bit weird to want her to fake gush over them. She spending time with you.

JFC the drama. You are different people and that's ok.

I think you would be unkind and passive aggressive to cut her off. Try not to mind if she isn’t interested in your children. But be the bigger person here!

Very kindly you sound quite hormonal 😊. Yes she sounds rude and not clued up on manners but cutting her off for being different to you? Imagine what that would be like for your own mum.

Just avoid socials and keep very low expectations. Maybe she’s got some issues of her own.

Before I had children I was a bit naive - I just had no interest in babies. It wouldn’t occur to ask a friend about breastfeeding, sleep routines, I just had no idea. It would be like me meeting up with a friend who had horses, I just wouldn’t know what to ask, it’s not my world.

I think you are being overly harsh. Why block her? Because she doesn’t behave the way YOU want? I can’t imagine walking in the park was her idea of a fun time, but she still did it.

I’m a firm believer in getting things off your chest, of course moan to your mum and DH about her, moan that she has no interest in the kids, but don’t cut her off.

You sound really immature. Why would you completely cut off your sister because she doesn’t show the level of interest in your kids you think she should? A lot of us have no interest in others DC. As long as you’re both happy with your life choices, there’s no need to fall out over it all.

Just go no contact lite. Then there’s no drama.

Don't go NC . She might not be interested now but when they are older she may start to . Plus it would upset your mother. Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed then. You are two different personalities and you will have to accept that. She hasn't done anything wrong to you .

just chill OP. No need to create drama here. Everyone is different. Sounds like you don't have much to do with each other anyways. But cutting her off for the reasons you explain makes you sound nuts, not her!

Yes , it's true lots of people aren't interested in kids and more dog friendly - but she's your sister, they are her flesh and blood and her love for you should ensure she shows interest and joy in your children who are precious to you.

You are not unreasonable to be very hurt and angry.

If I were you I would just quietly take note of her behaviour and lack of interest - I wouldn't involve your parents by complaining etc. I'd just quietly fade her out of my life. Keep enjoying your lovely little family and give her exactly the same interest and energy that she gives you.

It is her that is losing out OP, but try to move on happily without creating a fuss, you won't change her or make her feel regret by your actions.

I don’t have much interest in other peoples kids (although saying that I do have a lot of interest in my own nephews and and nieces) and I get bored if my friends go on and on but I’m polite and do fake an interest.
So I do think she could make more effort.
I don’t think you should go NC though.

I am not particularly into other peoples' kids but would still make an effort to ask after them and pay attention to them when I see them (within reason) because isn't that just normal etiquette and behaviour? Particularly if a baby had been in special care. I wouldn't know what to ask beyond "how are they doing now" and "how are you feeling" and "hope you both recover quickly" but I'd ask!

Her behaviour sounds pretty poor, but is there a reason for it beyond her simply being someone you don't want to bother with? Do you know if she wants or did want kids but couldn't have them for some reason, and is struggling seeing you with kids because she wants her own? Does she think you only ever want to talk about your kids? (This sounds so mean, but I don't intend it to be, it's just that some parents are only interested in talking about their kids and when you cannot have actual interesting conversation with someone outside of that it gets pretty tiring and friendship tends to erode.) There's two sides to every story, and maybe hers is that she just isn't interested, but maybe there's more to it.

Before I had my own kids I probably would have been the same. They just aren't interesting. I feel terrible now I've had mine that I didn't think to ask how mum was etc. unless you've had kids I don't think you really think about it all.

I get why you feel upset but cutting her off is really dramatic.

You two are different people, maybe she just doesn't know how to act around children or have any interest in it, which is fine.

Maybe she doesn't know how to act around children, not comfortable.
I didn't understand children or want much to do with them until I had my own, now feel very different.
Don't think she has done anything worth blocking her, she is just not giving you and kids attention you want. Give her some time xx