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AIBU to sleep on the streets in London?

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Glucose95 · 10/05/2024 11:06

Hello all,

I currently live in the Midlands at the moment and am looking for employment support but I am struggling to find any employment services that are helping me here.

I am finding it very hard to find a role in society. I graduated from University a couple of years ago and got good A Level grades (A* in Maths, A I’m History and A in Geography) but I am finding the jobsearch process very difficult due to my neurodiversity.

I have just been told by CareTradeUK (an organisation that was supporting me remotely) that their funding arrangement has changed now and they can only support individuals who are based in London.

This makes me sad as I have no one to support me now in finding employment and am finding it so hard.

A lot of the support is concentrated in London and there is not much here in the midlands.

I was thinking - would it be better if I moved to London and slept outside (ie. On the streets) for a bit so that I could access the job search support that is available in London?

I have a Blue Badge which I can bring with me and medical evidence.

I am finding it very hard to access employment support and I feel as if I don’t have a role in society without a job. My autism is making it very hard for me to find employment though.

What is it like living outside, and would I be able to access more support with jobsearch if I moved to London and slept outside for a bit?

OP posts:
trampoline123 · 10/05/2024 13:58

Don't do that, it's dangerous and will be hard to get out of once in it.

What kind of job are you looking for? Personally, neurodiverse people have many strengths which you need to play to.

BouleDeSuif · 10/05/2024 13:55

No. Please don't.

I was homeless in London 11 years ago and I can't begin to tell you how horrific it is.

ReadySetSit · 10/05/2024 13:55

This is a really terrible idea, OP. Being street homeless in London is truly grim and very dangerous. Without a fixed abode in London you would also be unlikely to qualify for support from these services.

Trulyme · 10/05/2024 13:50

Well done for asking on here first OP.

If you’re ever not sure of something please make a thread and we can try and help you.

Living on the streets is very dangerous and it doesn’t matter whether you are male or female, you will still be at risk of being attacked, robbed, raped and trafficked.

If you are in a building that is reasonably secure then please stay there.

Do you get benefits?

Do you need to work for financial reasons or because you feel like you have to work?

If you receive benefits (which you should do if you have a blue badge) then perhaps look for a volunteer role.

Not only will this give you a purpose in life but it will also help you with looking for paid employment in the future.

BettyWont · 10/05/2024 13:41

KnitnNatterAuntie · 10/05/2024 13:16

Who on earth are the 5% of voters who think it's OK for a woman to make herself intentionally homeless and live on the streets of London?

Having worked in the NHS for over 45 years I thought I was unshockable but obviously not . . . . I had been convinced that this would be one of the rare AIBU's that would have a 100% voters saying as strongly as possible YABU!

I don't think the OP stated their sex?

But either way, I think some people just like to vote the opposite way for the sake of it.

PamPamPamPam · 10/05/2024 13:32

Please don't do this OP. Would you consider getting back in touch with your university and seeing if they can support you through their careers service? A lot of universities provide support like that nowadays and have lots of contacts through their alumni networks.

BMW6 · 10/05/2024 13:26

OP you won't get employment if you're rough sleeping.

You'll be completely broke, smelly and won't have clean clothes.

LumpyPumpkin · 10/05/2024 13:20

Aside from the fact that your idea to become homeless in London is dangerous and pointless, you're thinking about this all in the wrong way.

You don't need a job to be a valuable part of society. Lots of people don't or can't work for various reasons and still contribute in lots of different ways. You can still be a good person even if you haven't found employment yet. Please try and be kinder to yourself.

I understand your desire to find a job, but don't tie it to your worth as a human being.

KnitnNatterAuntie · 10/05/2024 13:16

Who on earth are the 5% of voters who think it's OK for a woman to make herself intentionally homeless and live on the streets of London?

Having worked in the NHS for over 45 years I thought I was unshockable but obviously not . . . . I had been convinced that this would be one of the rare AIBU's that would have a 100% voters saying as strongly as possible YABU!

takemeawayagain · 10/05/2024 13:14

I have nightmares about my son being in the situation you're in and making dangerous decisions because he doesn't know what else to do. Please, please do not move to London and sleep rough.
I don't know if any of these organisations could help you:
https://employmentautism.org.uk/
https://www.evenbreak.co.uk/
https://www.hireautism.org/
https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/employment/seeking-work/autistic-adults

everyoneneedsalittlelove · 10/05/2024 13:11

I am sorry you are finding job hunting so difficult. Have you considered travelling daily to London in the short term and looking further away from home in other cities for work as well, travelling daily to begin with?

ComtesseDeSpair · 10/05/2024 13:04

Is this provider’s support to help you find employment actually working for you if you’ve been unemployed for two years with no success at applying for jobs? They don’t sound as though they understand your needs very well or that they’re adequately signposting you or encouraging you to apply for appropriate jobs you have a chance of being successful at. Sleeping on the streets in the hope they’ll suddenly turn things around sounds futile.

What aspects of your condition do you believe are leading you to be unsuccessful with your applications? What sort of roles are you applying for? People with disabilities can be guaranteed an interview if they disclose their disability and meet the essential criteria of the role they’re applying for: might the problem be that you aren’t setting out how you meet essential criteria in your applications? Could a friend or relative support you with that?

MonsteraMama · 10/05/2024 13:03

You're not going to get a job if you're homeless, very few places will employ someone with no fixed address, and the ones who would wouldn't pay you enough to ever get situated in London, so you'd be stuck.

Don't deliberately make yourself more vulnerable. Living on the streets is awful for anyone, but for a lone ND woman (I presume woman?) it would basically be hell on earth.

I'm awfully sorry for your struggles but this is not the answer at all.

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 10/05/2024 13:01

If you have a local IAPT counselling service you can refer yourself to, they often offer employment help too.

Hedgehog23 · 10/05/2024 13:01

Can your university careers service help you? Most will help graduates, especially recently ones as well as students. Many are offering online services now too.

Ginmonkeyagain · 10/05/2024 12:59

This would make your situation 10000 times worse.

Rough sleeping in London is tough, miserable and very very dangerous, particularly for lone women..

What sort of jobs are you looking for? Why do you think you can only get a job in London?

Caplin · 10/05/2024 12:59

This is a terrible idea. Stay put and ask to be referred to other services for ND people in your area.

If you are on the streets you won't get a job as you won't have an address. You will also likely be assaulted, peed on by drunks, robbed by other street homeless people while you sleep etc.

Better to be on benefits in sheltered housing than homeless and in danger.

socks1107 · 10/05/2024 12:58

Please don't. We have homeless sleep in and around our hospital and it is a dangerous and awful way to live

Balloonhearts · 10/05/2024 12:53

Do you WANT to be mugged and raped?

That's an absolutely batshit idea and you still can't access the job search support because you need a London address.

toomuchfaff · 10/05/2024 12:50

How about you try sleeping rough in your own garden for a week first, no home comforts, no nipping in for a shower or a round of toast, or accessing the tv when youre bored shitless... treat it like you are homeless.

I think you'd soon see the reality. Especially if you mimic actual homelessness and have your kit disappear (stolen or waterlogged), you set up a way to disturb your slumber (people are not kind, drunken yobs etc.), you find a way to mimic the feeling of Absolutely vulnerability that anyone can open your tent and stab you or rob you at any time... Yeah don't do it.

Helloworld56 · 10/05/2024 11:35

Please don't do this. It would be incredibly dangerous.

Can you afford to rent a room in London? At least you would have an address, and that would make job hunting much easier.

If you can't afford it, do you have family who would help you with your finances?

Lolloped · 10/05/2024 11:28

Could you contact your university careers service? As alumni they will want to see you do well and probably a bit more tailored to university graduate level roles. I hope others will be able to signpost you to help. Do you have family who can help you job search. Are you claiming benefits? I’d have thought they would have support to get you into work as well.

Please don’t make yourself homeless. It will make job hunting harder and with no London address you will still struggle to access support people living in London as well as it being very dangerous.

Penguinmouse · 10/05/2024 11:24

Making yourself homeless would only make your issues significantly worse and you wouldn’t be living at a London address.

5128gap · 10/05/2024 11:22

Under no circumstances do this. The fact that you're even considering it speaks volumes for your naivety and so you will be highly vulnerable to harm. If you have a home where you are, then even unemployed you are infinitely better off than street homeless in London, which is one of the worst set of circumstances you could ever be in, i promise you.
Have you spoken to a work coach at DWP? Could you contact Citizens Advice and ask for signposts to local agencies that support ND people? The Midlands is a big place, but if you're near one of the major cities there will be some support available from other schemes and charities.

KnitnNatterAuntie · 10/05/2024 11:19

Sorry, OP . . . I can't understand how you would even begin to consider this as a serious option.

Please, please, please don't do this. There are so many serious issues surrounding the people who are sleeping rough in my city (where the council employ staff to help & support people living in the city centre, I believe). I would imagine London is much, much worse

I am sure that people with more experience & knowledge will come on here with helpful suggestions for you . . . please take their advice

Wishing you all the best OP

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