Could he be interested? Colleague

Yes he likes you

Course you lile each other. He is interested. We spend a lot of time at work so will be ourselves chatting to colleagues and spend so long there you are likely to meet someone at work. My mate married her boss 20 yrs ago.
Go for it. Life is too short!

Nothing wrong with dating at work - it doesn’t always end bad !

I had a short term fling with someone I worked with . In all honesty it was a sexual thing - it was never going to go anywhere , we never really said that to each other but it was a given really . It was fun , exciting at work because it was a bit secret ( did not stay secret for long and then became gossip ! ) and then when it fizzled out , it didn’t affect anything ! We had a month or so where it was a little awkward - more than anything because others knew what had happened and knew that it had ended - then we both started seing other people and a work event was coming up and I felt awkward as I later found out he did too as we both wanted to bring our new partners .. we then started chatting one day and he asked if I was taking a plus one and I said yes and then he said he was too and you could feel the tension disappear and we started chatting again like we had before - we both admitted we had felt a little awkward , had a little chat about how things ended and we kind of missed being friends at work. We both said that it was fun at the time and neither of us regretted it but that we were both happy that we had ended as we were both so happy with our new partners . From that point we were back to being great workmates and chatting and joking like we used to ( only thing different was that we never flirted any more ! ) we both went on to marry the people we had met after and have children with them and it was never awkward or messy again !

Previous to that I had a relationship and a child with another work colleague - different work place - and it was never awkward at all ( except for childcare 🤣)

If you both like each other - go for it! Just maybe have that chat about what might happen if it doesn’t work out .

Ha ha! Dated at work - silver wedding incoming! 😂

I met my partner at work (he’s my boss 🤦‍♀️) was a risk but it’s working so far and we can’t see ourselves without each other

Loads of people meet their partner at work.

You need to keep it off work system though - emailing or IM aren't the place for flirting.

Also don't do it if you are a highly emotional person who can't sit on their feelings at work if it all goes wrong! You need to know you can just ignore him/remain professional if it doesn't work out.

You have the perfect excuse to swap personal numbers now. We are going to be in X on Saturday for my birthday. Hope you can join us - my personal number is X if you can't find us in the bar etc.

Same here! Married 24 years 😂

Met my Fiancé at work ☺️
He was my manager and I thought he was a proper twat at first. Moved teams and turns out he was alright 😂

Loads of relationships start at work 🥰

When is your birthday OP ?
Is it soon?

I would perhaps wait until then and see if he goes out and if you get chatting on the night out.

I probably wouldn’t keep mentioning the night out, as he could have just been being polite.

He could just be being friendly (the ‘sweet’ comment makes me think this).

Or he could fancy you but doesn’t know if you feel the same.

@Conniebygaslight makes a really good point. He probably doesn’t message first because it can be misconstrued.

see how it goes at your birthday but I’d totally wait for him to make the first move.

I would advise to take things really slowly for a couple of months just to make absolutely sure of your feelings

Wishing you the very best

I’m not sure about the “sweet”. I think it’s a bit patronising.

It's creepy to talk to people at work?

Do you not speak to people?

Well if it's a choice between someone at work who you have got to know a little bit and like or someone from the internet who you'd have to start from scratch with I'd go for it. He might not message you first because he feels awkward and worries that his behaviour could be seen as inappropriate....some men are very scared to be taken the wrong way especially in the work place.
Good luck whichever you decide.

I say go for it. Go on! You never know he may well be your person.

This is either the wrong thread or your red flagdar is way, way off. 😂

Did you reply in the wrong thread ?

What planet are you on?
It's a perfectly normal interaction for goodness sake.

Creepy behaviour. So many red flags. I would run a mile, but at least go NC.

I'm another one who met their partner at work, so I'd be a hypocrite to discourage it. You're also working in different departments, so there is that space between you if it goes tits up. One thing I would say is it's a good idea to take things slower than normal and really think about how you'll feel and deal with it if the feelings aren't reciprocated or it doesn't work out (either short or long-term). Is this something you could accept if you continue to work in the same building?

Before meeting meeting people online became a bug thing, at work was the most common place to meet a life partner. If you are both keen, I wouldn't let the fact that you work together put you off.

Of course you can date someone at work, that's were I meet my husband, been together now 24 years

People meet people from work all the time. See how the birthday goes.

Go out for your birthday and see what happens.

Thousands of people meet their partner at work so don't be put off my the negativity towards it! One of my colleagues works with his ex wife and his current wife so it can't be that bad 😄
Enjoy flirting at your birthday drinks and see what happens.