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I think he’s expecting sex on the first date

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CherryBlossom97 · 09/05/2024 23:36

What might not even be a proper date now I’m thinking about it. I’ve been speaking to this guy for a few weeks. I’ve known him a while but not seen him for probably about 10 years.. he has turned recent conversations quite sexual and now he’s saying things like ‘This needs to happen sooner rather than later’ and now he says he’s free any day next week if I am with wink emojis so I think he’s now got an expectation. What would you do?

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Aquamarine1029 · 09/05/2024 23:53

Fucking hell, raise your standards. He sounds like a pathetic 18 year old.

FirstFallopians · 09/05/2024 23:51

I’d play stupid, keep asking him what he means by all the winky faces and make him say it outright, the presumptuous bastard.

That would give me the massive ick. Not from him thinking I was some kind of goer, just the pure cringe factor from his messages.

Didimum · 09/05/2024 23:51

Instant turn off. I’d ditch. What an entitled prick.

ThaTrìCaitAgam · 09/05/2024 23:49

Eeeewww..!

I bet that if you turn him down, he’ll say you’re ugly anyway. Seen this kind of behavior too many times.

Cocopogo · 09/05/2024 23:45

Don’t do what others have suggested I.e let him know you’re not interested in sex and see as he’ll just cover it whilst patiently waiting to get his leg over. He’s just not interested sorry but he needs binning

Ohnodontwantthiscrush · 09/05/2024 23:45

"listen all this sex talk is going to put me off before we even meet. Fyi casual sex is not my scene at all so if that's what you're expecting we should mot bother meeting."

GodspeedJune · 09/05/2024 23:44

I definitely wouldn’t meet up with him. How gross.

Catsmere · 09/05/2024 23:43

I'd have nothing more to do with him.

Cocopogo · 09/05/2024 23:43

Yuk! Its clear he’s not interested in getting to know you. He’s probably not even single. I’d just tell him you’re not interested and block and delete and not give it another thought.

Jamazon1 · 09/05/2024 23:42

Sounds like he’s on a different page to you. How do you feel about seeing him? Are you thrilled, or just curious whether there’s mileage in a relationship? Doesn’t sound like that’s his primary consideration, but maybe if you’ve known each other in the past he’s been craving you (least likely option imo)
if you’re feeling disquieted enough to ask the question here, it sounds like his moves are making you anxious not excited to see him.

YoureALizardHarry11 · 09/05/2024 23:40

let him know that that’s not what you’re looking for and if he is then he needs to look elsewhere as you don’t do sex on the first date. If it’s not what you want then don’t let him get the idea as that will be a very awkward meet. I’d probably call it off.

Midnightponderer · 09/05/2024 23:39

Ick.

Trolleysaregoodforemployment · 09/05/2024 23:39

CherryBlossom97 · 09/05/2024 23:36

What might not even be a proper date now I’m thinking about it. I’ve been speaking to this guy for a few weeks. I’ve known him a while but not seen him for probably about 10 years.. he has turned recent conversations quite sexual and now he’s saying things like ‘This needs to happen sooner rather than later’ and now he says he’s free any day next week if I am with wink emojis so I think he’s now got an expectation. What would you do?

End the conversation. If he doesn't have the patience to get to know you he is not worth the effort. you deserve better.

Brandyb · 09/05/2024 23:38

If you're not ready to have sex with him this is the time to be clear about that.
But to be honest he sounds like a dick?

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