I think he’s expecting sex on the first date

But with this 3 month rule you have to endure a sexless 3 months. Hormones bubble, passion kicks in don’t see benefit in doing that. If l like someone l want to have sex with them. Sex is not something we give to men, it is shared. And what about those who:-

No. 1 Move on because they don’t think it’s going anywhere?
and/or
No. 2. Move on after 3 months and a day?

Depends on their conversation and how the OP has responded or reacted to the conversation topics. It’s not clear from the OP.

This is ridiculous and awful advice.

c) do have sex, he doesn’t call after and you feel used and rejected= not a good outcome.

I love the idea that a man needs to be a mind reader in order to know a woman he’s never dated DOESNT want to instantly jump into bed with him. There I was thinking it was just basic human social skills.

I also don't think there's anything wrong with someone building up a flirty urgency for sex. I honestly think having loads of sex is just a different thing for some men from getting into a deeper emotional relationship. (And some women). I don't think having sex with someone brilliant and fun, because you want to, quickly, means it is on the road to becoming a more intimate and emotional relationship with expectations of partnership, etc.

But I also don't think it will prevent him developing that intimacy or seeing you as a potential girlfriend either. Unless he has massive issues.

So

a) don't have sex he might wait then become a boyfriend, but one who secretly thinks women who have sex early are dodgy and you never find this out til later
b) don't have sex he might wait and become your boyfriend because he is lovely and like you wants to take it slow and is just being flirty right now
c) do have sex, you have fun sex, he doesn't call because he secretly thinks women who have sex early are dodgy, you're well off out of it
d) do have sex, it doesn't put him off, he becomes a lovely boyfriend.

You have 100% chance of a good outcome if you do have sex and only 50% if you don't:)

Even if you say, I don’t want sex straight away, he will still want to chance it and probably push for it if you meet up with him.

I'm a guy, and I agree with the above interpretations. He's just after one thing.

I would be repulsed. I have boundaries and someone who implies this or speaks in such an ick manner puts them in the bin for me.

I'd stay well clear, unless you fancy him like crazy and just want sex with him. If you do decide to meet, keep it in a public place with easy access to your own transport (ie he's not taking you home), ie a pub with your nearest bus stop outside or call a taxi home.

@Maray1967 Does he only have a few days left on earth?

😂😂

There’s nothing ‘ridiculous’ about expecting a virtual stranger to grasp that expecting sex on a first date is presumptuous and a major turn off.

Immediate block. What a moron.

Ewww sounds really grim and I don’t think I’d bother with him any more

He can expect and want all he wants but if you don’t want to, don’t.

Depends on what you want from this? Nothing wrong with casual sex if that's what you want.

But since you're posting here it sounds like you're not into it. So either he's misread your messages and thinks you're into it - in which case correct him and see how he responds - or he knows you're not into it and he's sending the messages anyway, in which case dump.

Depends if you want to have sex with him ?

Spot on.

‘This needs to happen sooner rather than later…’ - and why would that be the case? I’d make him explain why it needs to be sooner rather than later. Does he only have a few days left on earth?

’Hey, I’m happy to go for a date and see if we get on in person, but I don’t do casual sex, so if that’s what you’re looking for then let’s call it day.’

FWIW I had a 3 month rule and told everyone from the beginning, it was great way to weed out the arseholes and it became a fun game for guys to see if they could ‘pass’ the test.

The reality is that the ones that weren’t compatible disappeared after the first month because they weren’t able to consistently put the effort into dates and those that went the distance turned into fantastic relationships because we had a genuine connection.

I’m a tad concerned about those telling you to raise your standards! This is almost akin to victim blaming.

On occasion, l’ve had sex on a first date when the chemistry is right and no regrets. My sister has been married for years to someone she had sex with within a few hours of meeting. But OP, this is clear not what you want and his language sounds very presumptuous. I would suggest that rather than ghost him as some have suggested, lay your cards on the table now and see how he responds. And never do anything you don’t want to do.

But they have been chatting for weeks. I usually try to meet early as well because prolonged online chats often just fizzle out as you end up being strung along. The OP just needs to clarify her boundaries and expectations instead of being passive.

You are more than just a body cavity OP.

Straight in the bin 🗑️

Receiver of ^

This needs to happen sooner rather than later’

Why would you lower yourself to just being a receiver or his cock?

He's not meeting you to find out what your interests and views are or to admire your hair and discuss all the lovely places you could visit together whilst getting g to know each other.

He is o my meeting you so that he can pleasure himself inside of you.

Please block him and find your self worth and know you can do so much better than him.

If you have any doubts have a mental image of you getting ready for your date and then sitting in a cafe or restaurant looking forward to nice food and great conversation and this bloody oaf walks in with his cock out waving it around as he walks towards you.

He's repulsive:

Exactly,

He's just an entitled prat.

I’d end it. I end any chat with a man that turns even vaguely sexual if I haven’t met them. It’s so disrespectful.
Yours is much worse. He’s saying we’ve chatted for ages l, I’ve put the work in, now where’s my reward. You don’t want to date someone like that.