I think he’s expecting sex on the first date

He's just wanting sex so I would say to him your not interested

If you fancy him and feel horny, then meet him for sex. But just know it's bound to only ever be that. If you want someone to hook up with occasionally then it might be fun. If that's not what your into then just don't meet him. I think I'd be a little put off by it being so up front about being purely physical. But each to their own.

Fair enough @RomeoRivers x

Eurgh

I don’t have sex for the sake of sex, I have a vibrator if I want a good time.

For me, sex is an intimate thing that I only give out to those who are worthy. My body is not a thing to be used and cast aside.

That is my personal framing around sex.

@RomeoRivers you only feel used and abused if they don't call, if that is your framing around sex, that it should always lead to a wider respect for you as a person and to as a relationship.

I still think my categories work. Have nice sex, then he doesn't call, that's a bummer because you had hoped to see him more, but he doesn't feel the same.

Good and fun sex is worth the short lived feeling of disappointment afterwards, and it amounts to the same thing- he's not for you. But you've got a shag out of it.

It’s fair enough. He’s being upfront about what he wants and it gives you the opportunity to say no thanks. Let him find someone for a shag while you go and find someone else to have a romantic relationship with.

Exactly what I was thinking

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Don’t say that, it gives him the opportunity to say what you want to hear and have no intentions to form a relationship anyway.

OP he hasn’t asked you out on a date, he’s just saying rather telling you that he wants to have sex with you ASAP. He’s not interested in any kind of connection that isn’t purely physical.

just bin him off, you’re not on the same page, he’ll mess with your head, picking you up and dropping you when he fancies a shag.

If you want to have a long loving relationship with this man, do not sleep with him during the first night.

Grim. I'd bet he's a lousy selfish shag too. Entitled prick

I'd bin him off. If he's starting with the sexual stuff even when you're just talking normally, that's a red flag.
There's nothing wrong with having sex on a first date so long as you both want to. But l have a gut feeling he wouldn't take no for an answer, or get nasty about it.
Purely my take on it, but he sounds pushy and totally inappropriate. I certainly wouldn't meet him.

Definitely just stop chatting to him and don’t meet up. He just wants sex. At least he’s made it obvious and you don’t have to go through with an awful first date.

What about a nice slow build up ? Dates , kissing and a gradual build up , not straight in like a bull in a China shop ?

Yuk.
Tell him to bog off.

At least he's being transparent about not being interested in you as a person. In your position, I would message back something along the lines of:

"I've decided that it's best to cancel our meet, as I don't think we're on the same page. I think you'd be better off pursuing this with someone who also has an interest in no-strings casual arrangements. All the best."

He may protest at that point, but you should just mute (or better still, block) and move on.

You can do other things without full sex… I find it actually builds up the anticipation.

In my experience no one has moved on after 3 months and a day, because if they have got that far it’s because we genuinely enjoy each other's company and the sex becomes a new exciting addition to the relationship.

If someone moves on because they don’t want to wait that’s completely fine, it means they don’t like me enough as a person/ friend so why would I sleep with them?

If you fancy a quick one-off, with a condom of course as you don't know where he's been, then go for it.
But if you're expecting something more then forget it.

" This needs to happen sooner or later" sounds quite forceful to me. Not a chance in hell I would go out with this creep. What if you say "no" and he says "well you turned up knowing what I expected" or something similar. The whole thing gives me the shivers. I very much doubt he will turn out to be a lovely guy.

No is a complete sentence

If youre feeling pressured for aex. Is this the right relationship for you ?

I think you can do better than this twat. He sounds gross. Just tell him you've had a better offer and you won't be meeting up. Ewww!

This. I've no problem with sex on the first date or even before there's a first date if you're feeling it and you just want to. I like sex and can't be arsed with 'tests'. DH and I slept together technically before we ever had a first date and we've been happily together 20 years.

But this guy's presumption and self-absorption are majorly ewww, so I'd give him a hard no and move on.

If his messages are making you feel uncomfortable then imagine what it will be like in person.
If you still fancy meeting him, set some clear boundaries in advance (lots of good examples in thread), meet him somewhere crowded and public during daytime. You'll feel more in control.
If the prospect of above still leaves you feeling uncomfortable then just say, I've changed my mind and can't meet anymore. All the best, etc.
You don't owe him, his ego, or his penis anything.