Should I send this text? Or is it desperate?

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What @ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine says in spades. Just because he wasn't interested doesn't mean it was the wrong thing to do. He was just the wrong guy.

Surely that's the wrong takeaway from this. Now you've done it once, it will be easier next time. Just send the text and then you know either way and you're not left stewing on it for ages. I really can't be doing with all these mind games and don't understand why anyone past teenage years is still subscribing to this idea of women being passive creatures who must wait for a man to chase them.

Your last sentence made me laugh a lot haha! Completely agree. Life’s too short, I’d advise the OP to go and have fun and when the time’s right, the right guy will come along!

If you believe it or not but one time I needed six weeks to call and text her. In the meantime I was daydreaming how it will be like to be with her.

If you feel like calling or texting just do it.! You never know what is really sure what is going on in the other persons head.

I found it always very sad, that woman avoid a date nowadays, because the fear the man would want to like more.

I give it into the hands of the universe where thing are going. If you didn't feel attracted to him but you felt chemistry. How do you meant it? Would it be an idea just to give it a bit more time?

If I would be him and you would not feel attracted to me, I believe I would feel in return not very much attracted to you either, but I can be wrong.

I would probably keep trying gently anyway, but not expecting to become anything serious.

Bit by bit I would try to place you on my friends list; that in case we both realise this is just not really what we want, we can be each others wing mates, to help each other to meet more people.

I just found it very sad, that most girls don't answer their phone anymore at all, just because they realise they don't feel any chemistry.

However I am not a woman and I am not other man. I am looking for answers myself in that respect.

Sorry to hear it didn’t work out. If you are in this situation again, you could send the guy something linked to one of the films or things you looked at doing - a review perhaps - and a message saying something like ‘This looks like it’s worth watching!’ Then it opens the door without suggesting a date outright.

Sorry I don’t think this is true. Men are a lot more simple than us on the whole. If they like you they will let you know.

Men are not prone to overthinking like women are. He will not have been agonising over whether to send a text or not. He won’t be reading anything in to it.

Exactly.
And it prevents all that overthinking and wondering and headspace being taken up by some man who isn't interested. If you ask and they are interested they'll agree to meet up and if they aren't interested and say no, then you know, and that's the end of it. Which is what has happened in this case.

One thing I regret is how much time I have wasted daydreaming about men who weren't interested in me, interpreting each little sign or message etc. If I'd just asked I would have wasted a hell of a lot less time.

Don’t listen to the relationship experts on here, they’re all clearly in happy relationships with no problems ever. I didn’t think what you did was wrong - sometimes people are just not interested 🤷🏻‍♀️ don’t let it bring you down at all! Off onto the next one

@Sugarandmoresugar10 you did absolutely nothing wrong so please don't berate yourself! Also, don't let this put you off future opportunities as it's 2024 despite horrid opinions from people like @OldPerson who seems to be living in the dark ages and I don't believe that even in the olden days people had such awful views...

My instinct is your date might have thought you weren't particularly interested in him as you said 'you had things to do' so cut the date short to 2 hours for drinks and food. Maybe he thinks you're now trying to be kind by 'offering' to go to the cinema with him and he's too proud to say yes? A lot of men are prone to over thinking these days just like us! He's probably planning on waiting a while before he contacts you and then it's entirely up to you what you want to do next but don't let him play mind games...

I would send a text saying I’m thinking of going to see this film this date want to join me?

You did nothing wrong. He's just not the right one. The right person will be really happy to hear from you. Way too much angst early on for this to be a goer.

Because this one guy, who you weren't even sure if you fancied in the first place, didn't respond positively? He just wasn't the one for you. Forget about it! Go and have a nice a day - treat yourself to something you enjoy.

Noooo! Honestly you have done nothing wrong. Just head up and on to the next one.

@OldPerson calling OP names like you do and belittling her emotions is totally unacceptable, you’re mean.
I m also of the advice of not making a move but there’s no reason to be so insulting and disrespectful.
So sorry, OP.

@OldPerson You're coming off as deeply unpleasant and not that bright.

Read the OP's updates at least before commenting.

And comments like calling OP a 'dog on heat' are just revolting.

Are you sure you're allowed on the internet? I'm not sure you should be.

Well at least you know now, OP

i don’t think you did anything wrong and I too am prone to overthinking, it’s a common female trait!

Sorry to hear he wasn't interested 😔 his loss though. The person who is right for you is out there somewhere ❤️

I wouldn't text, no way. You text him after the date now I'd leave it for him to contact you.