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I need my brother-in-law out of my house but it will impact on his children

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MebraZebra · 09/05/2024 16:40

Sorry guys but this is going to be an emotional dump. I live with my partner in a tiny 2 bed house and it's barely big enough for us. We're moving for a fresh start in a few months but there's one problem, his brother. He's been living with us rent free for 7 months now due to a relationship breakdown. He's unemployed, in debt and has just made a lot of stupid decisions. He never asked to move in, just showed up one day and never left and somehow even got a key cut! I told my partner I did not want his brother living with us but alas more and more of his stuff started showing up. Realistically I would have thrown him out months ago but there's a spanner in the works, he has 2 toddlers who are at my house constantly. They are here 4/7 days a week at least as their mother works (obviously he's unemployed so expected to do the child care? Idk and don't want to interfere in their system). They're messy, noisy and are displaying behaviour problems due to the awful situation they're in with their parents. They all live together in my spare bedroom which unfortunately was being used as storage prior to their arrival, I have nowhere else to put my stuff. It's not a good environment for the children, they have ruined my property, eating my food and my bills have sky rocketed. I've told my partner time and time again his brother is not moving house with us but he won't back me up because of the children, he doesn't want to make his brother homeless and the children's lives worse.

This whole situation has impacted my mental and physical health so much. I don't want to leave our bedroom on my days off work because I feel my privacy is non existent and I work nights so never get any sleep in the day due to the shouting kids. What on earth do I do?

AIBU if I tell him he has 6 weeks to go? This isn't my responsibility

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Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 09/05/2024 16:45

Dump the lot of them. They can live in a shitshow together. You go forth and be happy on your own.

GabriellaMontez · 09/05/2024 16:45

He's never leaving. He's coming to the new place. Your partner will never ask him to leave.

What are you going to do about it?

And whose house is it?

RedBananas12 · 09/05/2024 16:45

Echoing others. Move out. Might give DH a reality check

BIossomtoes · 09/05/2024 16:43

Read my mind. Find somewhere of your own and leave them to it.

DrJonesIpresume · 09/05/2024 16:42

If it's that bad, I'd cut your losses and move out on your own.

Shinyandnew1 · 09/05/2024 16:42

I've told my partner time and time again his brother is not moving house with us but he won't back me up because of the children

If your partner won’t back you up, you have a problem.

I’d be moving into a house on my own and leave the two of them to sort themselves about, tbh.