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FFS here we go again! Neighbours

65 replies

RedQuail · 09/05/2024 14:00

Finally we get a bit of dry weather / sun - Miracle for the UK after 8 months of non stop rain and guess what can't enjoy my garden :(

Dog constantly barking one side, few houses away non stop music playing out loud and the house behind me constantly has an older teenager playing basket ball day and night so constant bouncing and banging of a ball and parents having bonfires. Before people ask no this is not a rough council estate it is a private area with a high mortgage!

Why do neighbours/ people do it - they seem to deliberately piss everyone off and have no respect for people around them.

Seriously doing my head in!

OP posts:
AnxiousRabbit · 09/05/2024 14:03

I think they are enjoying their gardens

Do you need silence to enjoy the sunshine?

Caffeineneedednow · 09/05/2024 14:04

AnxiousRabbit · 09/05/2024 14:03

I think they are enjoying their gardens

Do you need silence to enjoy the sunshine?

This

Nothing you have highlighted is wrong. Other then mabey the dog if it's constant indicating the dog is being ignored and not walkd.

K0OLA1D · 09/05/2024 14:04

Totally unnecessary comment about council estates.

YABU

Shoxfordian · 09/05/2024 14:05

A private area with a high mortgage! 🙄

People using their gardens in the sunshine sounds pretty normal tbh

daffodilandtulip · 09/05/2024 14:05

I agree OP. Everyone has odd jobs to do but the second the sun is out, it's CONSTANT power tools, jet washing and burning everything. It does affect your enjoyment.

VogueDarling · 09/05/2024 14:07

Wow snobby much!!!! Why the council house and high mortgage comment?!

Everyone is entitled to use their garden

You live amongst other people, so either put up with it or get some earplugs/headphones

It doesn't sound like their going out of their way to piss YOU off

ZipZapZoom · 09/05/2024 14:08

So some people are playing music but it's too loud for your liking, a kid is playing basketball but it's too annoying for you liking, a dog is barking and someone is having a bonfire... It sounds like any neighbourhood up and down the country.

If you don't want neighbours to do perfectly normal stuff because it annoys you then you need to live somewhere with no neighbours.

longdistanceclaraclara · 09/05/2024 14:08

Presumably people who pay a high mortgage want to enjoy their gardens @RedQuail take your mortgage off to the middle of a field with no one within a mile radius.

RedQuail · 09/05/2024 14:08

I would like some quiet yes - what's wrong with that. I don't mind people enjoying there gardens and of course some noise is normal but this is to the extreme!

Even inside working I have to keep windows closed because of smoke and noise! it's not right.

Music really loud it is like a rave! Dog barks day and night all year round but even more annoying when trying to have some time outside or want windows open and as for the bonfire, right by my fence and all the smoke coming in my garden so all my washing stinks and needs re washing and getting smoked out so can't enjoy my garden at all.

OP posts:
VogueDarling · 09/05/2024 14:09

daffodilandtulip · 09/05/2024 14:05

I agree OP. Everyone has odd jobs to do but the second the sun is out, it's CONSTANT power tools, jet washing and burning everything. It does affect your enjoyment.

But once those jobs are done...there done

Jet washing makes your house look more presentable, surely as OP is in an area of "high mortgages" she would want her neighbours to maintain their properties, as I do mine,

transformandriseup · 09/05/2024 14:09

What's the high mortgages got to do with people enjoying their gardens. The constant dog barking isn't on though.

TheChosenTwo · 09/05/2024 14:10

Why is any of that stopping you from going out and enjoying your garden?
I mean I get that the noise is distracting etc but they are allowed to enjoy their gardens as they see fit too.
Gardens aren’t for silence (unless they’re memorial gardens I suppose, even then you’re allowed to talk quietly).
Just carry on doing what you wanted to do, play your own music and it should counteract the other music.
I should say we are having a lot of work done on our garden today and there is a noisy rotivator (i don’t know how to spell it!) but it will be done by 4 and the workers will go home. Dh knocked last night to let the neighbours know that it would be noisy and they said thanks for letting us know but they were going out today anyway.
It goes one of two ways with gardens, you get people who think it’s fine to make some noise, play with their ball, have a bbq, play some music etc and people who disagree with all of the above.
I’m in the first camp personally.

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 09/05/2024 14:10

You're the problem I'm afraid. Sounds like everyday noise and people enjoying their garden.

The bonfire is out of order though, but i suspect that would have been in your OP and its been added because the thread hasn't gone your way...

jf1992x · 09/05/2024 14:10

Here's an idea OP, go and buy a detached house in the middle of a farm if you don't want neighbours 😂 sure you'd find something to complain about there as well.

You're coming across as a snobby so and so to be honest. What does a council estate have to do with people enjoying the weather? Think you're best off going back in your house and glaring at them through the window!

So yes, you are being unreasonable 🤣

daffodilandtulip · 09/05/2024 14:11

VogueDarling · 09/05/2024 14:09

But once those jobs are done...there done

Jet washing makes your house look more presentable, surely as OP is in an area of "high mortgages" she would want her neighbours to maintain their properties, as I do mine,

There’s always a neighbour who finds something else to do, or one who jet washes every weekend, or the eternal DIYer though. Over bank holiday weekend, it was hot here and the noise was from 7am til gone 10pm, plus bonfires for three entire days.

Goldengirl123 · 09/05/2024 14:11

RedQuail · 09/05/2024 14:00

Finally we get a bit of dry weather / sun - Miracle for the UK after 8 months of non stop rain and guess what can't enjoy my garden :(

Dog constantly barking one side, few houses away non stop music playing out loud and the house behind me constantly has an older teenager playing basket ball day and night so constant bouncing and banging of a ball and parents having bonfires. Before people ask no this is not a rough council estate it is a private area with a high mortgage!

Why do neighbours/ people do it - they seem to deliberately piss everyone off and have no respect for people around them.

Seriously doing my head in!

What has it got to do with not being a council estate?????

sleepyscientist · 09/05/2024 14:11

High mortgage usually means bigger house and bigger gardens. Round us hot tubs and outdoor kitchens are normal a few have pools. It's never quite as people want to enjoy what they have not sit in silence, buy house in the country side if you want that but then you will have farm noise! I suggest noise cancelling headphones

Allthehorsesintheworld · 09/05/2024 14:12
  1. Dog noise. Call the council. They'll get you to monitor the decibels and contact the owner if it’s deemed excessive noise.
  2. Same for loud music.
Remainder I don’t think you can do much about.
transformandriseup · 09/05/2024 14:13

Jet washing makes your house look more presentable, surely as OP is in an area of "high mortgages" she would want her neighbours to maintain their properties, as I do mine,

This is also the case where we live, lots of maintenance going on in our street to maintain nice homes. Our garden is quite large and takes up to two hours to mow, unfortunately we can't afford a gardener so it has to be done at the weekend.

RightOnTheEdge · 09/05/2024 14:15

You lost all my sympathy with the dig about council estates OP 🙄

K0OLA1D · 09/05/2024 14:17

You sound hard work

CookStrait · 09/05/2024 14:17

VogueDarling · 09/05/2024 14:09

But once those jobs are done...there done

Jet washing makes your house look more presentable, surely as OP is in an area of "high mortgages" she would want her neighbours to maintain their properties, as I do mine,

But this is it, they are not done, ever! As a punishment they should be forced to sit in solitary, hopefully it would kill them within the hour.

I got you OP, dogs & bonfires 😤

RedQuail · 09/05/2024 14:19

It was not meant in a snobby way sorry phrased wrong. I was just meaning I work my arse off to have a house in a decent ish area.
No it is not big no it is not posh and no I am not a snob. I would love to live in the country side and really don't care about general noise it is just excessive and inappropriate and not just people enjoying there gardens.

Nothing against council estates I already said that. I grew up on a council estate myself nothing wrong with it at all. But some are very noisy and can be a bit rough and I was just stating it to say this is not the case.

OP posts:
Wisterical · 09/05/2024 14:20

On my council estate right now I can hear young children playing (their older siblings are at school), birds singing, very little traffic, occasional delivery van, few cars as most people are at work - being on average poorer than you most of us don't have wfh type jobs. I can see people walking their dogs, heading to the beach, no barking. Earlier a group of around 12 walkers past my house, older people on one of those arranged walksfor healthy lifestyle and I could just about hear them chatting to each other as they passed by.

You should move here OP. On second thoughts, please don't...

Yellowhammer09 · 09/05/2024 14:21

Loud music at any time, constantly barking dogs, and a bonfire during the day I'd consider antisocial. Everything else is absolutely fine.

I'm using my power tools in the garden today 😉