To be scared to live in the UK

I think you would be very safe and welcome.

I think you’re worrying unnecessarily.
Most people aren't going to hold you accountable for a governments actions. I disagree vehemently with most of the UK governments decisions and so do a lot of the country!

Just because you are from a particular country, it doesn’t mean you align with the politics of that nation.

The governments often operate completely out of keeping with what the electorate want anyway.

I don't think you'd find this at all OP. I live in London we meet people all the time from countries who are doing dubicious things. I don't blame the Americans here for the rollback of abortion rights, I don't blame the Iranian's here for Iran's human rights failures and I don't blame the Chinese here for the abuse of the Uyghurs. These decisions are all made far too high above anyones paygrade for us to be able to meaningfully influence it. If anything I assume people here are more likely to be anti these things and choosing to distance themselves from their country.

If you come here and act warmly and kindly to everyone they will be thinking of nothing else! The worst you might have is some busybodies probing you on how you feel about the war- you might want to think ahead of time how you would like to answer these queries- but certainly nothing dangerous.

I can understand the fear, but I too am not seeing these attitudes in the UK. If anything, within my circle at least, it's understood Putin is a law unto himself and we've seen on the news the brave Russians risking their lives to protest the regime.

One thing I would say is I hope you aren't ashamed of being Russian and to please please please teach your children the language. It's so beneficial to grow up bilingual, even if they never use the language as an adult just the skills used to learn the language can really help with other things.

Sometimes it feels that there is no differentiation between the current government and anyone/ anything who is connected with that country in any way.

I'm British and I haven't heard any reporting that lumps all Russian people (or 1/4 Russian people!) into one group. Russia as an country, yes, but the coverage that I've seen and heard is laying the blame for the invasion of Ukraine firmly at Putin's door. Yes, it would appear that many (particularly older) Russians are firmly supportive of Putin, but IMO they've been brainwashed, not least because the only media that's easy for them to access is propaganda spewed out from from the Russian state. Younger Russians, on the whole, seem to be much more cynical and critical of Putin and access media from outside Russia that shows them the other side. Please don't worry OP! Most Brits are perfectly capable of critical thought and won't assume you're pro-Putin if you live here and have a British DH and British DC.

I have a Russian neighbour and nobody feels at all negative towards her that I know of. I know she was very upset when Russia first invaded Ukraine because her family there didn't know the truth.

I'm really not seeing these attitudes anywhere in the UK. Sorry you're scared, I can understand you being worried, though. It's scary times we live in.

In general and specifically with this war, I find fellow Brits are readily able to distinguish between Russian civilians and the aggressive warmongering Russian government.

I think you’re worrying unnecessarily. The vast majority of people understand that it’s not like every Russian person supports the war. I don’t support a lot of what the Uk government does!

Very unlikely.

There are a lot of Russian people in the Uk who are here precisely because they don't or didn't agree with what their government is doing and this is well known.