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To be annoyed by total phone ban

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TeleGardenGnome · 09/05/2024 07:25

My child's school which is a busy city location has a total phone ban. So you aren't allowed to take any type of phone to school at all even if it stays hidden in a bag and is on silent and never used. They do bag searches and use metal detectors to find students breaking the rules.

If your child's phone is found they get a detention and you can only get it back by visiting the school in person.

So yesterday my child's phone was found in a bag search and removed. There were awful transport issues and it took them several hours to get home. In the meanwhile we had no way to contact each other.

I can't get the phone back due to work and my husband being away for work. It just stresses me out that he won't be able to get in touch if there's a problem. Expressing my feelings here as there is no point complaining to the school. They don't listen to parental feedback.

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JasperTheDoll · 09/05/2024 08:29

ilovesooty · 09/05/2024 08:28

Where's the money coming from?

Or the staff to carry out the process?

Needanewname42 · 09/05/2024 08:28

I think it's a ridiculous suggestion to take phones of kids. Phones are part of the modern world.

I bet they'll be kids using them to monitor sugar levels and using reminders for drugs doses, even kids on the odd course of antibiotics.

Phone boxes just aren't a thing anymore. You'll be lucky to find one in the center of a town. The days of them being in every village or housing scheme are long gone.

ilovesooty · 09/05/2024 08:28

alphabetzoo · 09/05/2024 07:46

School need to invest in lock boxes for each class/ pupil and all phones are checked in when they arrive and checked out when they leave. Damn right these children don't need a phone during the day but then do for school travel

Where's the money coming from?

WhiteLily1 · 09/05/2024 08:27

Literally the only people who will be saying kids don’t need phones to get to and from long journeys to school are those that don’t currently have kids going on long journeys to school. Absolutely no way any of my kids would be making their 1 hour journeys with no way to contact me if there was a problem. They had just turned 11 when they started.

JasperTheDoll · 09/05/2024 08:26

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 09/05/2024 08:08

Something like the yondr pouches a PP mentioned seem good. They wouldn't take long to unlock at end of day and school could get parents to cover the costs. Maybe you could take some ideas to the governing body of the school or P&C if you have those in UK schools.

Surely though having to go and wait to collect a phone and have it unlocked would have to eat into lesson time as can you imagine how long this would take for over 1200 pupils if done once the day had ended. School bus and public transport timetables can't be changed to allow 30 minutes plus for someone to collect a phone.

Beezknees · 09/05/2024 08:26

Hereyoume · 09/05/2024 08:18

Why can't children just remember their parents phone numbers?

Phones have no place in a school environment.

I am an adult and I can't remember anyone's phone number other than my own!

midgetastic · 09/05/2024 08:25

People giving no shits and not letting children use their phone in an emergency is another problem with the world that we are creating

WhiteLily1 · 09/05/2024 08:23

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 09/05/2024 08:21

Phones cause nothing but disruption in schools and clubs. The bullying done by them is so detrimental to the children.

It's a good thing they are banned.

We never had phones and walked to school or got public transport without issues.

If there was a problem then 🤷‍♀️ if they have your number written down, I'm sure the bus driver would let them use their phone to notify you.

omg this is hilarious. All 3 of my teenage kids get the bus so school and I can assure you that bus drivers literally give no shits and certainly wouldn’t let a child use their phone. Do you have any children getting the bus to school currently?

Pin0cchio · 09/05/2024 08:23

I would petition the school to allow very basic/cheap dumb phones - the sort which only allow texts & calls.

It will be the distraction of smart phone capabilities they want to eliminate and its a great idea.

user1477391263 · 09/05/2024 08:23

That's nuts. I see no reason why kids should not have a boring brick phone shoved in the bottom of their bags.

usernother · 09/05/2024 08:23

QuillBill · 09/05/2024 07:35

Whoops...I understand why schools want to ban phones, I'm a teacher myself, but it's just not practical. People always say "well we didn't have phones and all day and we got home fine" but they were phone boxes. You could stop somebody and asked to use the phone you could go to shop asked to use the phone or sorts of things you could do any of those things really now.

We had no phone in the house so there was no one to phone. Imagine!!

PuttingDownRoots · 09/05/2024 08:23

I can remember our school minibus breaking down. The teacher managed to ring the AA... but that was it. They tried the school, but no one answered.

Our parents had no idea why we hadn't come home. They didn't know it was a school problem, or a public bus problem, or something had happened...

They would have loved us to have our own mobiles that day!

My DD only takes hers to school if she's staying late... but is a 5 minute walk.

Phones solve problems as well as creating them and banning phones also creates problems

Tygertiger · 09/05/2024 08:22

“Phones off and in bags” doesn’t work. For one, they’re not off (they’re on silent) and for two, the kids check them in the toilets. Then schools have the knock-on problem of kids asking to go to the toilet in lessons (to check their phones), so they ban in-lesson toilet visits, so parents complain about that….

The only way is for schools to take them in and return at the end of the day (not always practical/creates secure storage issues), or for them to be in the lockable pouches. I think the pouches are the best bet, form tutors could supervise locking them at the start of the day and they could be unlocked at the end of their last lesson.

WhiteLily1 · 09/05/2024 08:21

Hereyoume · 09/05/2024 08:18

Why can't children just remember their parents phone numbers?

Phones have no place in a school environment.

What good is remembering the phone number if you have no phone to call on if there is an issue?
Bizarre.

MissingMoominMamma · 09/05/2024 08:21

VestibuleVirgin · 09/05/2024 07:44

Some of us lived in a pre-mobile phone world. We survived

I always had money for a phone box though- my parents made sure. There isn’t one on most streets now, as there was then.

usernother · 09/05/2024 08:21

There is a reason they have been banned. And it's a good thing in imo.

midgetastic · 09/05/2024 08:21

I think the analogy to car seats is disingenuous - car seats save lives , it's much less clear cut with mobile phones and teenagers - deaths are linked to their use , they enable things that used to be public - bullying - to hide -lots of bad things

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 09/05/2024 08:21

Phones cause nothing but disruption in schools and clubs. The bullying done by them is so detrimental to the children.

It's a good thing they are banned.

We never had phones and walked to school or got public transport without issues.

If there was a problem then 🤷‍♀️ if they have your number written down, I'm sure the bus driver would let them use their phone to notify you.

WhiteLily1 · 09/05/2024 08:20

VestibuleVirgin · 09/05/2024 07:49

It isn't a lazy argument, don't be so bitchy and dismissive. It is a fact, not a viewpoint.
Of course the world changes, but not to the extent that children are in mortal danger if they don't have access to a mobile.
What a generation of needy kids you will be raising

It is a completely lazy arguement. I am also from a time well before mobile phones.
Its a bit like saying ‘well we all put babies to sleep on their fronts and they were perfectly fine’
or
Well we never had seatbelts in the back and all my kids grew up without a scratch
Good for you but many many did come to harm. A mobile for travel is a safety net - it solves a lot of problems if there are issues on the journey.
Life was simpler and smaller with generally ‘less’ all round years ago. People stayed more local, walked to secondary school in many cases. If they had further to go then you always had change for a phone box if there was a problem. People were generally less suspicious and community was far more valued.
It was a very different time

Hereyoume · 09/05/2024 08:18

Why can't children just remember their parents phone numbers?

Phones have no place in a school environment.

Hereyoume · 09/05/2024 08:16

MissyB1 · 09/05/2024 07:36

Why can’t the school just collect them in at morning registration and the kids get them back at home time? That’s what ds school does.

That will end very quickly when one goes missing.

stayathomer · 09/05/2024 08:15

People always say "well we didn't have phones and all day and we got home fine" but they were phone boxes. You could stop somebody and asked to use the phone you could go to shop asked to use the phone or sorts of things you could do any of those things really now.
I had a night where I’d travelled to get to a concert and my phone broke. I had to call into hotels en route and ask could I use their phone. Everyone let me but you could see them wondering was it a scam or something!!! Definitely could have done with a phone box!!!

IsGoodIsDon · 09/05/2024 08:14

I wish our school was more strict with phones. I was watching bbc breakfast yesterday and they had a whole segment about online safety. Some schools make kids put them into a locker and collect at end of the day and I’ve heard some have magnetic pouches they lock their phone in which then gets unlocked at end of school day.

My DDs school don’t allow phones to be used during school day but they all still do it. They just go to the toilets or hide it in their bag. If they are sick the school tells them to use their own phone to call us.

I don’t think phone off and out of site works it needs to be locked away by to school or banned all together .

VestibuleVirgin · 09/05/2024 08:14

Fulshaw · 09/05/2024 07:53

It’s progress isn’t it? A device that allows people to contact other people instantly, and also source any information you might need. I’m sure everyone from the Neanderthals to the Tudors to Victorians would bite your hand off to have that. Technology should be embraced, not shunned.

Nowhere have I said it should be banned, fgs.
I pointed out, in response to the OP being 'out of contact' that generations survived without such contact
And given the influence of sm in children murdering children, and tje othrr assosciated dangers, it ain't a that

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 09/05/2024 08:08

Something like the yondr pouches a PP mentioned seem good. They wouldn't take long to unlock at end of day and school could get parents to cover the costs. Maybe you could take some ideas to the governing body of the school or P&C if you have those in UK schools.