To be concerned with how my boyfriend acted when I was ill?

When I have a cold, I wouldn't take paracetamol for a sore throat.

Saying paracetamol is exactly the same as Lemsip is disingenuous. Lemsip also has phenylephrine hydrochloride (a decongestant) to help relieve headache, fever, blocked nose, body aches and pains, and a sore throat.

And that's what OP had - a sore throat and a runny nose.

Man brings exactly the medication the OP said wouldn't work for her instead of the medication she very clearly asked for.
Paracetamol is exactly the same in lemsip or tablet form, it has the same effect. If what OP actually needed was the hot water bit, she already had a kettle.

Man apparently doesn't know that other human beings, as well as him, need to eat unless told at each meal time.
If I told DH that I didn't want to eat and he tried to force feed me, that would be a MUCH bigger problem. OP didn't want to go out to eat, her DH was still allowed to get food for himself FFS.

Ironically, I have asked DH to get me something from the pharmacy today. How I did it though was not hauling him out if bed, but saying sometime today please could he get it, and he said he'll go this afternoon. No drama, but can you spot why!?!

Man brings exactly the medication the OP said wouldn't work for her instead of the medication she very clearly asked for.

Man apparently doesn't know that other human beings, as well as him, need to eat unless told at each meal time.

Jesus wept.

Yes, of course she wasn't seriously ill but by my yard stick this man is self-involved and/or doesn't care about her very much.

That's it.

Plenty of people don't recognise this conclusion because, rightly or wrongly, their expectations of partners are considerably lower than mine and some others. Fair enough, whatever makes you happy.

Incidentally, for the very literal-minded posters, the 'feeling like I was suffocating' thing is clearly a descriptor of symptoms and her own sense of them, not a literal statement that she was actually unable to get enough oxygen into her body or was accumulating fatal levels of CO2.
See also "I thought I was going to die of embarrassment" and "it felt like my throat was on fire", amongst other turns of phrase in order to avoid future confusion.

Oh and before somebody says you said you had cancer...yes I'm in recovery for breast cancer.

Good luck for your dialysis.
Yes I am serious my sister died in January having battled lung cancer then contracted flu leading to pneumonia, being disabled we were with her since October (either me or one of my brothers) 24/7 her final admission just after Christmas meant we were back to hospital 24/7 rather than her home but still with her as she needed a lot of nursing I handed over to my brother an hour before she died as she seemed to have improved. It was like reliving my mother's death from COPD also disabled 20 years earlier with the same words slow breathe in hold it out hour after hour so someone saying they are at death's door suffocating with a cold needing urgent lemsip is bloody ridiculous .

I think its the op who needs to relax

It's bonkers isn't it @rookiemere?

I also think if OP was male and complaining about his wife not going out for a third time at nearly midnight, he would be told to go and get his own bloody lemsip!

Exactly, the absolute melodrama of some posts (and the OP) is hilarious.

Woman has a slight cold and goes to sleep, nobody was suffocating, she had a blocked nose 🤣

Man brings ‘wrong’ kind of medication late at night and isn’t mind reader that although woman says she wants no dinner she actually does want dinner, and doesn’t correct him or ask him to bring anything back.

I'm getting really confused by some of the posts on this thread and how they relate to the OPs scenario.

OP did not present as seriously ill, she was clearly conscious and able to communicate to her BF what she wanted, and indeed what she didn't want. She was also able to sit up and google directions to the nearest pharmacy.

I'm sure if she had genuinely been suffocating her BF would have called an ambulance as that would have been the appropriate action, had that been the actual scenario.

So you believe she was suffocating from something that resolved itself but wasn't a cold had no medical intervention etc and now when you go into a&E you see everyone in the resus area sat drinking tea in between slipping their O2 masks on and off? If you have real experience of relatives suffocating with asthma, COPD or Pneumonia you know they are not mid attack sipping tea. They are panicking and trying to stay alive until their O2 gets so low they can't even do that. Watching someone really struggling and talking them through breathing like a woman in labour and seeing their eyes pleading for your help because they can't speak is suffocation. They don't let you leave them to go for lemsip even letting go to find the phone for an ambulance is hard. They don't even let you go for a wee. You are what is keeping them breathing.

They can't in resus on Oxygen but yes after medical treatment which she hadn't had they could.

But with the context of her whole post after almost suffocating she sits up and makes tea then goes to sleep with no medical assistance does tell you she wasn't actually suffocating let alone the fact that she was able to speak and Google....suffocation equals ambulance inability to do anything....do you not think she's prone to exaggeration....I guess because she's not normally ill? Even her time line makes no sense.

I suppose it depends on your perception of the task and situation.

I think the situation of requiring a lemsip wasn’t serious enough to warrant your partner doing the task of running around a foreign city at night when he had work. If DH said he had a cold, I’d be pretty reluctant to go out hunting.

I guess others might think having a cold is worse than a late night scavenge around town.

All this drama...over a cold.

Everyone here needs to relax. It's nice to have someone make a faff about u and make u most comfortable when u are feeling poorly - whether that's giving space and medicating/bringing you food, or going on an errand to get your favourite comfort things!

Even though I wouldn't ask my dp to go looking for something that I know works best for me, he would do it on his own accord. THATS THE POINT. She didn't ask her dp to go grab it for her, she just wants to know if him not even considering doing this for her when she's unwell and his general lack of concern can be considered a sign for how he would treat her if she was unwell in the future.

OP I agree with you, I would not appreciate his response and irritability about u feeling unwell and expressing it.

That's just my point of you based on my relationship and how me and my partner treat each other. To each their own.

I’m imaging the receptionist pretending to pull it out of their ear with a popping sound, like a magician.