To be concerned with how my boyfriend acted when I was ill?

Hope that’s sarcasm .

Lighten up ! My post was in reference to lemsip in general and how enlightened we have become to know it’s effectiveness is not that good . I never mentioned ops bf in what he did or didn’t do!

You have a cold 😂

But you weren’t really ‘ill’ were you? You just wanted a lemsip and to test your poor sod of a not to be long boyfriend

You're nuts for trying to rewrite history and clearly have a vendetta against the ops bf, and possibly all men. How is going out to a pharmacy and down to reception to try to get the lempsip not what she asked and not helpful? She had a cold, her legs weren't broken, she had the ability and opportunity to go to the other pharmacy herself. How many times is it you expect someone to source a powdered drink, where the only known medication is paracetamol, which she didn't want, at God knows what time?

You were being quite high maintenance. At nearly 11pm, if you can wait until the morning for medication, you should just wait. I wouldn’t be asking DH to go here there any everywhere looking for Lemsip at bedtime.

no it is not. This happens all the time. You ask someone to take out the trash and they go and clean the garage instead. They really should study what causes people to be like this. My guess is ego. They want to be able to say they did something for you, but something in them has to make it be something that doesn't actually help. I guess because they always know there will be somebody around who will go, "but he did do something!" The easiest and most helpful thing would have been to go and get the exact medicine she needed from the open pharmacy a few minutes away. He instead did 3 unhelpful things. Expending effort to do things you know aren't helpful just so you can later claim you tried is toddler level behavior.

Do you really think food poisoning and a cold are on the same level?

They weren't on holiday and how is going out twice not lifting a finger??

Didnt give enough of a shit about her, but went out late at night twice to try to source the magical potion that is lempsip. Contradictory.

A cold is not really sick

But he DID lift a finger-did you read the OP?

It’s difficult to be subjective, she wakes suddenly from 15 mins sleep suddenly unwell demanding a specific medication, if he came back with an unknown powdered drink would he be receiving the same vitriol? She settles with tea so it feels like a lot of drama and post to mumsnet for symptoms that settled with tea. She asks if she is unreasonable, I feel on this account she was.

We’ve been married 46 years and a few years ago I got food poisoning on holiday. My husband went out to the Farmacia at night, having Google translated ‘food poisoning remedy and hot water bottle’.
OP If he won’t lift a finger after 18 months this does not bode well.

If someone posted “I’m on a work trip abroad and my boyfriend has come along. He came down with a cold today (sore throat, runny nose) but hasn’t taken any meds. I have an early start tomorrow but my boyfriend has just announced, at 10:45pm, that he is struggling to sleep because his nose is really bunged up so he wants me to go out and buy him a lemsip” nobody would think the boyfriend was being reasonable.

No, I think he went down and asked someone, who knows who, and they fished it out of their bottle, and he didn't give two shits enough about her to ask what it was exactly and just gave it to her. It could be anything from pain meds to cold meds to allergy meds to someone's grandmas heart meds. The point is he didn't ask and she didn't know. I wouldn't have taken it and I don't even have allergies. could have been dug out the bottom of someone's pocket or purse.

I wouldn't ask my dh to go out late at night for cold meds. And I wouldn't go if he ask me You sound like you expect a lot.

If he's generally kind, asks you if you need anything and takes care of any task that need doing I would say that's enough.

Hard to imagine how she’ll cope with child birth if she handle a sore throat-and good luck getting a partner who’ll spoon feed her

Do you really think he’s fished it out of somewhere random?

You sound like a totally entitled Princess and a pain-in-the-arse.

You have a cold? Expect to feel ill for a week.

Get guest services to sort you out with whatever meds you need - BUT YOU HAVE A COLD, so expect to feel ill.

I cannot believe you are expecting people to run all over the place at your whim to collect this or collect that.

A cold is generally not expected to kill you. And this was a business trip for him? Where was your support for him?

Same.. how longs ages and where were you?!

At one point, I was out for ages and he contacted a couple of hospitals to see if I had been taken in (I had my phone on silent so didn't hear any of his calls).

Don't you think that's a bit odd extreme?

My husband has always been super caring. When I was ill, he would make sure I stayed in bed and he would do absolutely everything. He even went out to pharmacies late night when I got really sick. At one point, I was out for ages and he contacted a couple of hospitals to see if I had been taken in (I had my phone on silent so didn't hear any of his calls). 3 kids later, he's less like this haha, but still very caring and generally likes to do things for me. I think my husband is exceptional and those most modern guys are not this caring

You would have took a random tablet that he fished out of who knows where and won't even tell you where he got it? Okay

Yes, it is a red flag. It is a huge one. Especially when he has to make up some shit about his foot hurting to try and get sympathy and understanding out of you instead of apologizing like he should have.
If you ever get seriously ill, this man will leave you. If he acts like this when you have a fever, how will he act through 40 weeks of pregnancy? Through 18+ years of child rearing? There are entire reels of videos talking about the phenomenon of men always having to get sick when their partner does and how the male illness always seems to be way worse.