To be concerned with how my boyfriend acted when I was ill?

…from a Tommee Tippee

. I never said it was rude to put it in the bag. I said that it is the type of people who say shit like that is rude who never actually recognize actually rude things and only when it is done to them. But, let me make it easier for you to understand. The same people saying that putting the glass down instead of handing it to her is not rude are the same people that will lose their fucking minds if someone puts the glass down instead of handing it to them.

@Calliecarpa …. 😐it would be exactly the same the other way round. If my husband felt shit yes I would go out of my way to get him something to feel better.

I don't think a cashier putting a receipt in the bag or someone buying me a drink and placing it on a table in front of me is remotely rude quite the opposite. If you think that's rude you must be a pretty intolerant person in my book - and probably lose your mind over a lot of silly little things.

Then your take is completely wrong @mandlerparr and several posters who disagree with OP have already explained that on here.

You've made 2+2=5 out of OP's posts and now you are doing it to posters who you happen to disagree with

Paracetamol in lemsip works just the same as paracetamol tablets - they may just take a few more minutes to work.

You sound like hard work.

He's not on holiday, he's working.

Time for you to grow up.

Thank you Italianita. 🌺

My only take away from many of the comments on here is that you either treat your partners like shit or don't expect much for yourself from your partners. Going to a few places to get the steamy drink your partner, who is rarely sick, wants is not very much to ask. You can't, once every 18 months, get up at 11pm and go to 2-3 stores to find that one thing that will make them feel better? Really? You don't think your partner should care enough about you to do it? Really?
You all are acting like she was asking him to go out at 3am in a war torn country with missiles flying overhead. It is just them, no other responsibilities, no kids to worry about, not even a pet in an english speaking country. She asked for a certain thing. He brought her everything but and made up excuses later to cover it up. Is this what you all do to your partners? Is this the level of care you expect from your partners?
Shit, strangers have shown more care for others than this.

What on earth are you talking about? Does anyone actually care if a receipt is put in the bag or handed over?

I have also fallen asleep while sick with a 39 fever. Fever's sort of do that, you know?

All the people on here saying that putting a glass on a table instead of handing it straight to the person isn't rude are the same people that lose their minds when the cashier puts the receipt in the bag instead of handing it to them. They only understand rudeness when it is done to them.

I vote YABU, I wouldn't expect my DW to go out at night for cold and flu medication for me, I'd either go myself or do what you did in the end and have a cup of tea and see how I feel in the morning. Although in saying that I understand that pain thresholds and tolerance to illness can vary between people, but for me a cold is a cold.

Did you miss the part where she fell asleep after a cup of tea?

All cold are not equal.
I have had colds whereby I simply have a runny nose, and a slight headache. I also have colds where I felt awful and couldn’t eat and had a banging headache.
I n Op’s case it is not as though she had a ‘previous’ record of falling ill , she had not fallen ill since she had been with her dp .Based on this fact alone one would think that he would be very concerned about his partner and would therefore do anything to support her . Given that they have only been together for eighteen months you would think he would make more of a bloody effort .
He doesn’t care enough

100% this! Its like when people say "a well known supermarket" just frigging say which one, no one is going to sue you.

My mum always says my dad hates her when she’s sick. He doesn’t but he’s undiagnosed autistic and he always powers through illness so he just doesn’t get it I guess?

I’m emetophobic and can’t deal with people being sick but I also get annoyed at my husband when he’s ill with other stuff and I can’t explain it. I just want him to be better- I struggle seeing people feeling unwell. I’m not proud of this, in fact, I hate it so I’ve spent years working on it but I think I would possibly have reacted how your OH was, especially on holiday.

Going by some of these posts , yes .

This. This and this.

You had all day to independently manage things, for the terrible cold that you already knew you had?!

My Husband is stupidly soft, and would have absolutely driven to the pharmacy you say was open, if i had been so daft as to be so unprepared. But there's no way i would have let him, after a day at work and work in the morning! It says more about you the fact you expected him too!

a sore throat and runny nose is usually mildly uncomfortable and I definitely wouldn’t class that as “really sick” he went to find you medicine when realistically it wouldn’t have done much for cold symptoms. couple of paracetamol should have been enough. also just because you didn’t want to eat did that mean he shouldn’t eat either? and why would he ask what you wanted when you already said you didn’t want dinner. yabu and sound high maintenance. female equivalent of man flu springs to mind.

It's utterly amazing with this thread that people can't see the difference between caring for a sick person and a thirty year old throwing a tantrum over Lemsip .Have any of you ever needed help to wash ? Can't feed yourself ? Needed your medication measured out(big responsibilities ) .Sending someone trotting off into the late night to buy medication you could have quite easily gone out and got yourself is not caring responsibilities , it's being so lazy she could have done it herself , she didn't bother . Talk about dressing gown of doom .

By an English speaking continent....christ knows why she can't just say where ...I'm guessing America which doesn't seem to have lemsip but suggests crushed up Tylenol in lemon tea with sugar.

Oh Jesus Christ! Carrying a grudge? It’s a fucking MEMORY!

I think #team OP comments are ignoring that he did help but it wasn't good enough. Along with the glaring omissions and inconsistencies in OP's story in which she isn't very kind about him. Maybe that says more about how they value their partners?