To be concerned with how my boyfriend acted when I was ill?

You had from 630am onwards to get yourself whatever medication you needed but waited till bed time to ask him to go out?

he sounds like a big baby

Really,

And what exactly does someone who tries really hard to sleep for 15 minutes but can't , then complains, refuses medication because it isn't in drink form, but is miraculously soothed by a cup of tea sound like. I am reminded of my children when they were given stuff that wasn't the nice purple calpol for under 6's that always made them better and then felt much better when the ice cream van appeared

You sound hard work, take a couple of paracetamol (that’s basically what lemsip is just a quarter of the price!) and get some sleep.

That's not a cold which has been offered adequate tablets though

"It's the only thing that actually works for me.

...Made myself some hot tea and dozed off."

You're contradicting yourself here.

I think he did fine. He went to the store and couldn't find the EXACT thing which you wanted and didn't want to go off looking for something specific at bedtime, when you could have just had hot tea and dozed off.

It's only a cold for god sake most people pop a pill and carry on working with a cold. You can't compare it with real illness and if she makes that much fuss everyone should run a mile

Reminds me of my daughter telling me about a riot in class last week, as a boy wanted to see the nurse immediately due to being hit on the hand by a ruler. I thought she was joking about how terrible it was.

Feels like this.

This was a cold.

My boyfriend once tried to get my sympathy over a cold, let's say that it didn't work.
I wouldn't do a quarter of what your partner did OP. Not for a grown up with a runny nose.

Do you suffer from anxiety OP? I know someone who has quite bad health anxiety and basically has a panic attack whenever cold symptoms start as she feels like she can't breathe, and funnily enough, the only thing that helps her is the hot drink version of meds.

But convenient to find anything that OP objects to as ‘exaggerated’.

This!
I have woken up at home in the middle of the night with a temperature and blocked nose and cold swears.
I didn't even ask DH to go downstairs to the kitchen and make a lensing....I know he would have but I wouldjust wait till morning.

🙄

Five mins in a car I’d have gone. Me and my partner do these things for each other because we are a team and when one is down the other one puts a bit more effort in.

Id do the same for my child, my friend, anyone really.

5 mins in a car at 11pm is hardly an artic expedition.

I do think it shows a lack of empathy that he didn’t even offer and then he’s buggered off to dinner without you when you’re still unwell.
Then conveniently his foot is hurting.

he sounds like a big baby, I’d be seriously watching out for other red flags. If his track record has been perfect so far then maybe just a one off bad mood - but there is a real issue with men not being able to cope when their partners are unwell so it is NOT uncommon. It’s a massive gripe of a lot of women.

Here we go, it’s another “let’s pile on the OP” type post. Why do people enjoy doing this to posters who are clearly in a vulnerable state? You nasty lot!!

No, I don’t think YABU. When you’re ill and feverish it’s hard to think straight. Just maybe next time remember your medicine

He got the tablet from hotel reception. I can't imagine the hotel staff are giving out random pills to their guests.

What a load of fuss ‘only lemsip helps’. It has paracetamol I’d have took that which I’d already have with me. I’m chronically sick and wouldn’t get my DH out at 11pm at home never mind abroad. I bet he’s having second thoughts I would be……

Interest know how that came up and how the conversation went to be honest.

You sound like the sort of person who calls a cold the flu.
Lemsip is not the sort of thing that requires an emergency night time dash to the pharmacy.

My husband has been very ill with cold and flu symptoms recently to the point of needing to call an ambulance due to difficulty breathing.

if you’re feeling like he did then YANBU

however, I always take a bit of every medication just in case

nothing cures a cold an lemsip is just paractemol not a miraulous magic potion-you said you didnt feel like eating but moan about him going out to eat

jesus christ youre hard work

This is why I always take a little bag with basic medications whenever I go away - paracetamol, ibuprofen, soluble codeine, immodium, decongestants and antihistamines. Few plasters, few blister patches, little tube of germolene. Job's a good'un.

I've got the kind of husband who would drag himself out of bed in the middle of the night if I had a cold and come back with lemsip and chicken soup, but I would never want him to have to do so, nor expect him to.

I think you're both cranky and had an unexpected late night. He made an effort and tried to help, you still feel ill, you've maybe both been a bit grumpy with each other. Let it go, be better prepared next time you travel. I really don't think this is worth making a big deal over.

I agree with this actually. You had him run ragged! He went to the shop, and he asked you how you were feeling the day after. What do you actually want from him?!

You should always carry basic first aid supplies like painkillers with you. Paracetamol and a hot drink from your room will have had the same effect as cold/flu drinks that you were sending him out for.

I know it's rubbish when you're not well, but I really don't know what he could have done differently here.

I think you were probably being a bit ott.

Going out for a flu drink after hours in a foreign country doesnt seem necessary.

There’s something about your post that does come across as demanding but who knows i wasnt there. Only mentioning as you’ve come for advice and it may/ may not be something you want to reflect on.

Having said all of that, the main point is no I dont think it bodes well. First time you’ve been like that and he doesnt go out of his way to help when you’ve only been together 18 months doesnt sound good. Especially the getting angry. Thats not ok and that would be enough to seriously reconsider the relationship.

Echo what pp said about imagine if you had kids. Something to seriously factor in.

Additionally, if you are a bit ott and demanding when ill (not saying that to be snide as i can definitely be too!) its not a good dynamic. You need someone with much more patience, otherwise you’ll just get this on repeat

Maybe next time you travel take a first aid kit with paracetamol, Lemsip, etc with you. Always useful in these situations OP.

I imagine OP exaggerated this part, I'd be very surprised if hotel staff gave her DP a random unwrapped, unlabelled pill...