To be concerned with how my boyfriend acted when I was ill?

DHs aren't slaves with no right to sleep or do anything except whatever their wife demands and do it instantly. Being a reasonable partner means asking your DH to do that running around for medication in the daytime, not leaving it until he's dropping off to sleep to yell "wah, go for a drive to fetch paracetamol, now now now, go go go!!!" when you've known you had a cold for 2 days.

Same with anything; if we need milk / a jumper / swapping who does drop-off / clean the toilet... you don't wait and demand someone bounds out of bed to do something you only just thought of, you say "at some point tomorrow please would you...". If they don't do it or get pissed off, then they're pretty shit.

You just had a cold, but were disturbing him when he was trying to sleep and had to go to work next day. If you get a fever then drink extra water, fever is your body's way of handling illness so you don't want to just leap to bringing it down prematurely. Honestly, that sounds very high maintenance to me, and I would be pissed off if DH disturbed my sleep like that. You had a cold for a few days, you should have bought medication you might need in the daytime.

I'm sure there is some huge drip feed here about his behaviour, but on the description given you were too dramatic this time.

Do you really not carry paracetamol or something similar with you when you travel? That's all you needed if you had a fever, unless it was really high in which case you needed medical attention, but that doesn't sound to be the case.

Lesson learned - when you travel take a few paracetamol/ibuprofen/your preferred pain reliever just in case you feel unwell or have a headache or whatever.

The OP explained she felt very ill, there’s absolutely no reason to dispute that. Driving 5 min! to get some medicine for your partner is something absolutely basic, and they are staying in a common wealth country where her partner is used to drive, not a war zone. Most women on this website expect absolutely nothing from men, they get married and have children and kill themselves taking care of the entire family, while having a full time job, like there’s not another full grown ass adult in the house ready to help. All of you deserve more than that, including someone who will drive 5 freaking minutes to get you medicine when you’re ill. It’s hardly knight in a shinning armour behaviours, it’s just very basic companionship and compassion.

What a load of bollocks about nothing. Girl gets a cold, girl wants lemsip at 11am at night. Girl has to deal with the fact that it ain't gonna happen. Girl has to make do with a cup of tea. Girl lived. The end.

Quite. Not sure what anyone was supposed to do.🤷‍♀️

You don't have to give backhanded compliments to posters just because you have a difference of opinion - in fact IMO it weakens your argument

And many of us on here are in strong committed relationships (longterm also in my case) &/or with lovely OHs that pull their weight, who haven't a clue what Rita Ora or equivalent is up to, and who also think OP is being a bit harsh.

She was in a hotel room she had the facilities of the room plus room service....she was also well enough to work all day.....and go out for medication but she couldn't be bothered .....she even had tea making facilities because after feeling so ill and not being able to sleep....after the incredible 15 minutes of trying.....she had a cup of tea.....she said she didnt want dinner. Jesus do you get fed when you have a sniffle?

She's got a cold she's not that ill! The vote reflects that OP isn't really 'very sick' as she describes it, and asking someone to go out at nearly 11pm at night ( in a foreign country) for a lemsip is ridiculous. Why cant she take a paracetemol and then get the lemsip the next day like the rest of us? Better still, have a basic kit of medicine readily available for such events.

What does having a full time job, raising kids and running a house have to do with this?

If it was the other way round, if the OP was on a business trip and her boyfriend accompanied her and moaned because she hadn't gone out late at night in a foreign country to get him some lemsip because he had a cold, would you be 'shocked' if people told the boyfriend he was being a bit precious? Would that make her 'a shit wife'?

Right, and not having lemsip for one night because she's got the sniffles isn't going to kill OP, is it?

@Vlop if you can’t count on your other half who can you count on? This would be a no from me. Shocked by the vote and responses but maybe they have shit husbands and think it’s normal!

Even if he needs loads of sleep one night of slightly less sleep is hardly going to kill him is it?

I don't know what time you call "really early" but me and DH are usually up at 6am but don't got to bed before 11.30pm

@Frisate amen girl 😄 I couldn't agree more and couldn't have put it better.

You do sound a bit OTT.

You've just got a cold, and unless there's some huge dripfeed that you've got something else underlying, 30yos don't die from the common cold.

You wanted him to go out, late at night, in a foreign country, on the search for some medicine. Most, if not all places, would be long since closed anyway, surely?

And the fact that you had a cup of tea, and then went to sleep, surely shows you were just being dramatic?

Yes, a bit of sympathy would have been nice, but you were being very dramatic over a cold. I'm certain, if he'd posted this situation, from his point of view, he'd have got a lot of sympathy.

Highly likely hotel keeps some paracetamols for guests and took one out of a packet in front of him - I doubt the receptionist or night manager went rooting around the drawers and cupboards and handed over a random tablet. Pretty sure her BF would have explained that to her. Surprised he only took one, but I could imagine a scenario where he may have said, "I doubt she'll take that as she's insisting on a Lemsip" and receptionist may have said "well take this one and come back for more if need be".

Depends on your circadian rhythms. I get up really early and go to bed early, so yes, for me, 11pm is really late. They're not on holiday, the boyfriend is on a business trip so has to get up early and work all day, perhaps in a different time zone. If that was me, I could really do without my partner whining about having a cold and refusing anything except lemsip at 11pm.

OP said she'd been 'really sick' for two days, so if she had any sense she'd have asked her boyfriend to get some medication during the day or at least earlier in the evening. And she did get sympathy, he went out for her twice at 11pm and texted her the next day but she still isn't happy.

I’m not shocked at the votes because this is mums net after all but you’re absolutely in the right OP. I’d obviously drive 5 min to get my DH medicine and he’d do the same for me, and it’s really sad to think that people find that to be strange! You’re feeling bad about this situation because you know the kind of caring relationship you want to have and there’s nothing wrong with that. But this website is full of women who have full time jobs, basically raise a bunch of children alone and run a house while their DHs do fuck all. But somehow the biggest problem in their lives is the fact that Rita Ora is hot, rich and famous.

You come across as hard work to be honest . He did what you asked so why are you so moody ?
can’t you take meds with you if you go abroad like most people? I think this drama about a sore throat is just that , to much drama . He probably thought the same

@Believing8nSanta

Driving for 5 minutes to get you medicine is such minimum effort. Feeding you and making sure you have tea/water is basic humanity.

OP said she wasn't feeling like dinner. They had tea/water in their room - they are staying in a hotel not miles from civilisation in the boondocks, so their "basic humanity" was pretty much covered.

OP's timings are pretty shonky, so her 5 minutes may not be the same as everyone else's, but he did go out for her twice. He didn't turn over and tell her to sort herself out and then ignore her. The outrage from some posters doesn't appear to reflect what actually happened.

She had a cup of tea and went to sleep, so wasn't seriously ill or delusional

Well for me and DH 11pm is not late even with work in the morning. Posters talk as though it was 2am!

Maybe she didn't go to a chemist during the day because she didn't feel that bad. Often you can feel ok during the day but in the evening/night you feel much much worse.

I would get as much sympathy with a cold as I do with a migraine (and my migraines are horrendous) from my DH.

I'm lucky enough to have a husband who would 100% have offered to go and get whatever I wanted/needed in this situation. More so than I would for him, to be honest. However, for the sake of a cold, I wouldn't dream of asking him. Especially when a cup of tea seemed to do the trick. And as for expecting multiple enquiries after your health today, that does sound a tiny bit precious.

If there are other instances of him being uncaring, inattentive or thoughtless then yes, I would give the relationship some serious thought. On the basis of this single event though, you might want to cut him some slack.