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AIBU to take DC's football coach down a peg or two?

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Footballmum24 · 08/05/2024 23:48

DD 7 has been dropped from her grassroots football team as her coach has 'advised' us she finds another team. She is not the best player on the team but is also not the weakest. DH dared to publicly challenge the coach on unfair playing minutes which resulted in DD being cut off and DD out of the team. This all feels very unfair to me to do this to a child with no real explanation. All season I have watched my daughter endure the shouting from her coach, she visibly shrinks and doesn't play to the best of her ability as she hates being shouted at. Coach only seems to care about winning and not about the children's well-being.
So do I make a formal complaint or just leave with some dignity.
YABU: dignity
YANBU: take him down, he shouldn't be coaching young kids

OP posts:
whiteboardking · 09/05/2024 00:04

I'm a very experienced coach of football.
Seriously he's not fit to coach that age. They all at that age play development league where scores aren't recorded & published as it's not allowed. National rule.
All players should get equal playing time to learn how to play football.
He's totally not getting the purpose of leagues at that age.
He's in wrong 'job'
Leave and find a club who do if the right way.
But email the club you leaving to say why

fieldwindloop · 08/05/2024 23:58

You can make a complaint but it’s honestly unlikely to make much difference. There are a lot of coaches like this unfortunately. It’s not fair that she’s been dropped at this age but your DD is not thriving there and it’s probably for the best that you find her a different/ better club. There are good, positive coaches and clubs out there you just need to find them!

skippy67 · 08/05/2024 23:57

YABU.

PuttingDownRoots · 08/05/2024 23:56

If this coah was so bad...why didn't you find a better team ages ago?

Littletreefrog · 08/05/2024 23:56

Just go. Find a nice team or something else that DD would like to take part in. Anything you say now will make you look like a crazy football mum.

JuiceBoxJuggler · 08/05/2024 23:55

YABU. Sorry.

pinkdays · 08/05/2024 23:53

Look, you must at some level see how this comes across. Sounds like the coach wants rid of you two as parents more than your DD.

OP, you're that parent!

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