My partner ‘requests’ that I wear certain underwear that he likes to see me in. He also ‘requests’ me to wear certain leggings etc. I have put up with it for so long but finally snapped and told him he was being controlling, to which he took offence and got upset about. When I ask him not to tell me what to wear he justifies it by saying he is not telling me he is simply ‘requesting’ because if he didn’t ‘request’ then I would just not wear them. AIBU?