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Should I Report Him to his Employer?

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WinterLilly · 08/05/2024 18:40

I was in a hospital car park earlier today and circling around trying to find a free space. It was a one way traffic system. A car came in the opposite direction (the wrong way) and literally refused to either reverse or move to the side to allow me to pass. If I had attempted to squeeze past I would of ended up scraping paint work off both our cars. I had zero room on my side but he had room to move on his side but point black refused. It was like a Mexican stand off that lasted at least 5 minutes but felt like an eternity in reality. A security gaurd noticed what was going on and tapped on his window to tell him he had to move to the side more and he completely lost it. He started shouting out the window the most obscene expletives at me...'stupid f*king woman this...'ugly Ct' that. He was red with anger. It's like he could not handle been told to move for a woman (he was a white British male btw. I'm just stating that to avoid going down any rabbit holes). The security gaurd had to tell him to calm down and that there was not absolutely no need for it. His reaction was completely disproportionate to the event especially as he was the one that had come in the wrong direction of travel!! I was shaken but as I parked up I reasoned with myself maybe he has somebody in hospital and got bad news. How wrong I was! I went to the parking meter and noticed that the same angry man was fixing the parking machine! When he saw me he again started shouting that I am stupid C*T and I should go and 'do one' . I turned on my heels as I was so scared. I am so tempted to inform his employer of his actions? I really felt he behaved like that towards me just because I am a woman and felt that he therefore could. Am I being AIBU wanting to report him or should I just let it go?

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HospitalStayNHS · 08/05/2024 18:48

He sounds like a complete arsehole but what does that have to do with his employer?

Tel12 · 08/05/2024 18:47

Yes, definitely report him.

kayteeep · 08/05/2024 18:46

Or maybe there would be a company name on the machine that he was fixing, or a label saying 'if any issues call this number' type thing
Although I don't think who to report to is the main question, it's more whether to report at all

UnderGreenGrass · 08/05/2024 18:46

Absolutely report him. That kind of behaviour is totally unacceptable. Sorry that happened to you. That level of aggression is awful. Imagine being in a relationship with someone like that.

Hoppinggreen · 08/05/2024 18:45

Of course you should report him. Speak to the hospital and go from there

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 08/05/2024 18:45

I'd report absolutely. The car park was his place of work so report him to the hospital if you don't know who they contract to.

kayteeep · 08/05/2024 18:44

CadyEastman · 08/05/2024 18:42

How do you know who he works for?

Presumably she can report to the hospital and they will know which company they have contracted to fix the machines

BIWI · 08/05/2024 18:44

To whom would you report him?

Danioyellow · 08/05/2024 18:44

CadyEastman · 08/05/2024 18:42

How do you know who he works for?

Probably the company on his van or uniform? Or I imagine it wouldn’t be hard to find out who’s responsible for the repairs

kayteeep · 08/05/2024 18:43

100% report him, what horrific behaviour! I would have been same and maybe given benefit of doubt that maybe he had some bad news, family in hospital etc but clearly not so absolutely no excuse at all.
Imagine if you had had really bad news today and then that happened :-(

CadyEastman · 08/05/2024 18:42

How do you know who he works for?