To be annoyed at being constantly interrupted?

@ApocalypseNowt - ha ha we need to start another thread now...😜

I have a problem with interrupting people sometimes. I also talk a lot, and very fast. I've got Inattentive ADHD, OCD and anxiety generally; and sincerely can't help it. I REALLY REALLY try. It's so hard to explain how much of an uncontrollable compulsion it is. I feel extremely guilty about it, and am aware it must be very annoying for people I'm talking with.
I reckon a lot of interrupters are ND in some way, rather than rude. But, of course, I can't speak for everyone.

I thought we might have the same colleague till you said 'him'.

Honestly if I hadn't interrupted my colleague she'd still be talking now without actually managing to say anything.
It's almost impressive.

It happens to me by DM. She actually doesn't listen to me most of the time. I'm too long-winded for her & she gets frustrated with people who don't get to the point quickly.

I think that so many people don't actually want your input, they just want to talk and be heard above everyone else.

My friend just this and recently I have decided to actually just stop talking and let her keep going in order to see if she'd realised what she was doing. However she didn't stop talking and at the last count she was still talking 45 minutes later. I've given up on the friendship.

Some people just love the sound of their own voice and speak super slowly. The only way to keep the conversation moving is to interrupt th when they 'pause' for thought. Happens with 1 particular colleague (and no one else) so I'm assuming the fault lies with them not me. I've also noticed others interrupting him - possibly for the same reason?

If its only certain people it could be they have a problem but if you are getting interrupted a lot by multiple people it may be the way you talk. Do you talk slowly, leave long pauses or similar?

I think its important to ask people lots of questions if you interrupt though. So they know you are interested in them and what they say. I also only interrupt at the end of sentences, not mid way through a story (if that makes it any better) 🫣

Yes @Bunnyhair I find some people don't stop, so you have to interrupt? Also its hard to have a fully formed thought before speaking. That sounds weird, but my thoughts are quite fragmented and disjointed and I just think out loud really.

I have literally 3 people in my life who don’t interrupt me when I talk. I cherish them.
i always assume I must be very boring but sometimes I’ve only been talking for a matter of seconds before I’m interrupted so it isn’t that I’m droning on and on.

It’s very annoying when people do this.

However. I have 1 colleague and 2 family members who will go on at such length that the only way for anyone to get a word in (or to put an end to an unbearably tedious 3-hour soliloquy) is to interrupt. At which point they invariably get arsey about having been interrupted and how nobody ever listens to them, etc.

I think some people have an extreme need to talk - either by interrupting everyone else, or by holding forth interminably any chance they get.

And if it helps, I interrupt everyone. Nobody is safe 🤦‍♀️

Oh no, I do this. I'm quite anxious and feel like conversations without interruptions are very stop, starty, so I think I just like to make sure the gap is filled because I don't like the silence. I must be more mindful of it... 👀 I also have 5 siblings so really we just all spoke at once and I didn't/don't find it rude. It's just how I grew up communicating and I never mean for it to be rude. I say 'sorry what were you saying' afterwards. Its bloody hard on Teams though because of the mute/unmute and it is difficult to anticipate someone speaking and sometimes there is a delay, interruptions just happen on there.

What I find interesting is WHO they interrupt.

Literally everyone, including their boss / their clients / friends who they respect a lot?

Or just a selection of people (the ones who they clearly see as less important than them)?

Because if it's that second one then actually they can fuck off even more.

I have a son who has ADHD and interrupts a lot. It drives you up the wall. Obviously we have strategies to try to reduce the interrupting but nothing works 💯 of the time.

Many of my family do it to greater or lesser extent - my parents are both quite bad for it, my dad is worse. I suspect a lot of us have undiagnosed ND, but my dad has this tendency to argue he is objectively right when he’s being ND, which is annoying. So “I never get to speak” when actually he does most of the speaking - he’s only 74… It would be much more understandable if he got a diagnosis (I think he has ASD, he has a lot of traits).

Just reading all these examples is winding me up.

I am unfortunately married to a bulldozer.

I find it INCREDIBLY rude. Hopefully i can teach my girls not to do it.

As someone who has been known to interrupt and also dislikes when it’s done to me, I would laugh if somebody said this to me, as in I would find it actually funny, and it would remind me I was being rude. I do try not to do it though, as I know how bad it is

Or, "I am sorry, did the middle of my sentence get in the way of the beginning of yours?"

Some people are just outright rude cheeky fuckers though. I remember having a conversation with workmate, and someone just came up, butted in and asked him about his holiday plans. Like I was not even there. This happens to me a lot.

Love this

“I’m so sorry, was I talking while you were interrupting?”

When does it happen? With family? At work?

My mum is a terrible one for this. She is a bulldozer. In my family you have to talk over each other to be heard.

My husband and I both interrupt each other a small amount, but equally, so it doesn’t bother us/ we are lighthearted about it.

At work, people do tend to interrupt each other as it’s a lot of fast paced discussion, but people are very polite and sportsmanlike, lots of “sorry I shouldn’t have interrupted, what were you going to say?” etc and mutual respect.

What I’m trying to say is, sometimes it’s just a communication style between equals and that’s fine. Is the issue that you don’t have the confidence to bring things back around to what you were going to say? Like it throws you off?

Yup, it's real

I am so sick of it. It's the worst in online Teams meetings... Makes me want to throttle people

For some people, this is the issue...

I do this all the time. I have ADHD and really cannot help it. If it’s a consolation I feel bad for it when I leave meeting/at home. I try so hard not to do it but have a thought and have to express it :(