To not want DHs toys all over the fkn living room?

I'd never have that shit in my living room. Mr Pony makes very small models of WW2 tanks. Guess how many small model tanks are on display in the living room of our home? That would be none.

He needs to compromise. He can have his favourite Hulk model on a shelf in the living room, all the rest of the junk memorabilia goes in the dedicated room in binbags if necessary.

Would helping him get his room sorted out be a compromise?

I offered dh help to research and order furniture for his junk hole room, and we spent a weekend working together on the assembly (ikea).

There’s something about actual physical shelf space that focuses clutter decisions. So if you can find a way to fast forward to that point, it’s worth it.

I think you should do this fairly and equally.
If your living room has been full of bright plastic hoarded crap collectibles for the last 20 years, then it should be a minimalist non-plastic zone for the next 20 years. That's fair.

meh - i hate dried flowers, candles and nick-nacks so I'd be telling you to put your stuff elsewhere, especially if you told me i couldn't have my things on display.

the grown up thing is to compromise - maybe he could have one or two in the living room, and rotate them (as for the boxes, they help the resale value in some cases)

I find it really unattractive when people collect this amount of juvenile plastic shite. Whether that's a man and marvel figurines or a woman and Disney memorabilia.

I'm hardly stuffy. I'm in my 30s and I rollerblade and skate at skate parks and I like video games. But shelves upon shelves full of this crap really turns me off.

@BabyRaindeer he has a room - he just hasn't bothered to sort it.
@BeepBeepYh I definitely think it should be the rule of one shelf each for whatever you each want.
Plants/Candles etc belong to both of you. They stay.
Then one shelf each. If he can only fit 6 items on his shelf then he has to rotate.
Then you put whatever you want on your shelf. Same rule - if you run out of space you rotate.

I would put all 'your' stuff upstairs in your bedroom then it takes away the argument. Maybe leave the kids photos and his candles and plants. Everything else goes into his room. Maybe see if he will get some help before the hoarding gets worse.

I collect Sindy dolls, and I love lego, some are really big models. They are all displayed in my sewing room, which is also rammed with...obviously sewing machines, coverstitcher, overlocker....my new knitting machine, oh and 3 dummies. Although I love all this tut, it looks untidy and I would never display it 'publicly ' we don't have any type of ornament out downstairs, another reason is I HATE dusting.

@BeepBeepYh if he wants to act like a teenager, give him his own room and then he can have his own bits in there

Buy a few large plastic storage boxes, put all his figures and boxes in them and pop them in his hobby room. Keep doing it whenever more appear. However it's ridiculous to live with a hoarder and expect them to stop hoarding without intervention. Is he open to mental health support?

How about you RTFT?

This would give me the ick OP. Can't believe the number of mumsnetters apparently married to teenage boys.

This - upstairs or bin. No way would I tolerate this in my living room.

My beautiful hand made classical guitar is on display downstairs - it’s a thing of beauty. DH’s numerous electric guitars are in an upstairs room and that’s where they are staying.

I've got a display cabinet in my living room with all my Harry Potter, Friends, campervan, London bus, and Beatles submarine lego on display, so probably not the best person to answer.....

How about you taking all the crap out of the upstairs room and plonking it down in the living room. Then buy a daybed, armchair, TV, coffee table, etc., for the upstairs room, plus a lock for the door, and you use it as your own personal sitting room (and even as a bedroom if you feel like it). That way you can relax in peace without your surroundings getting on your nerves.

Could you put them in the spare room once he starts school? 👶

I think that ship has sailed...

I don't think the Marvel figures are the real problem Op, it,'s the hoarding that's going to be the issue unless you work this out. He's gradually taking over more room partly because he hasn't sorted upstairs, as a pp said, I'd help him sort the room then make it clear once the room's full that,'s it.

According to OP’s posts, he currently has over 90 items in the living room. She has 5.

If the figures go away he will still have 53 items in the living room because of his plant collection.

He has more than enough of his stuff everywhere.

Why should only your stuff be on display? Why should his be shut away where he can't see them?

The living room is for adult things. I'd go crazy surrounded by those.

Bloomin’ heck, I wouldn’t want all of those on display!

I agree that setting up his hobby room is the best idea, boxes everywhere is so irritating.

I’m the more messy person in our household, but I don’t have loads of boxes…I’ve got one box in the dining room that I keep meaning to sort out and too many books piled up on my side of the bed. 😂

Exactly.

I couldn't be arsed with having toys in the living room either, I don't think it's in the same ball park as ornaments.

I'd be scooping them into a box and putting them in his playroom.