To not want DHs toys all over the fkn living room?

To be honest I love it when I go to someones house and they have their "stuff" out on display.
It gives them a personality I may not have been aware of.
I love being able to say "Wow you clearly love Pokémon/books/cats/plants/whatever". Fantastic conversation starters.

Thank the lord he doesn’t collect full size Daleks. I knew someone who had those in bits around the house

I'd love one! all mine are little but still in the study not the living room!

I think he’s confusing room to store with place to display. Maybe he didn’t realise that the plan was for all the little fellas to be up in the hell room. I wouldn’t like them in the lounge. My DH is naturally quite untidy but I keep the lounge quite minimalist to control any clutter (it has a tendency to escape from the hell room). He knows it overwhelms me if everywhere feels messy, so that’s my kind of calm space. I do feel for you.

I think it will have to be a compromise where you somehow incorporate a couple of less ugly faves onto a shelf somewhere. Or move the display into a no-man’s land room if you have one (our dining room works for us).

Thank the lord he doesn’t collect full size Daleks. I knew someone who had those in bits around the house 😖

Can’t you compromise? The bulk of his collection can stay in ‘his’ room, but he has a shelf or a really nice wall-mounted unit in the living room to display a selection of his favourites?

I don’t think it’s fair for anyone’s hobby or collection to completely overwhelm a shared space. Boxes lying around and every surface covered in collectibles for an interest you don’t share is out of order. But it should be perfectly OK for him to have some of his personality in the room.

DP has a framed print in our living room relating to his favourite band. I’m not a massive fan of the band but it’s a stylish print and I can live with it. Equally, I have an animal skull that I love but DP doesn’t- we have that on display because it’s a lovely example of its type and it’s connected to my interest in zoology as well as folk horror. Neither of us would fill the room with hoarded collectibles, but we do let the room reflect both our individual interests as well things we both like.

As a bit of a geek myself I see both side of this to an extent. I see the logic in partner saying “I live here too, can we both have things we like in living room?” But I do think it’s not everyone’s taste at all, a living room should in my opinion be calm and relaxing, and to you this is not. I think if I was him, I would embrace the mancave and get it all set up and in there. My whole house loves gaming, both myself and my partner have agreed on our living room being nicely decorated and furnished, and then we will at some point get a few subtle (ish) gaming items we agree on to add to the room, oh has his own man cave sort of room he can do what he likes with, I have a large area in our bedroom for my sewing machines, plus a walk in cupboard for storing sewing things

Dh has an office with two of these metal cabinets, a kallax and a guitar stand. So all asd special interests hobbies can be hidden behind a closed door when needed.

https://www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/rudsta-glass-door-cabinet-anthracite-50450137/

Is anyone else hearing the father from Diary of a Wimpy Kid?

They are not toys, they're figurines.

I have a large collection of Doctor Who stuff - models, signed pictures etc which I love - but they live in my study - I do understand OP - it's my thing but not the other 3 people I live with - so the communal spaces are TARDIS free!

I do however have my Hoptimist collection on the fire place but the kids got most of them for me so that's allowed!

I can assure you at almost 35 i'm neither child or troll. Some of us genuinely like this stuff and wouldn't have a problem with it, or even, merge our collections!

YABU to keep referring to them as toys. They are not toys, you play with toys. They are display collectibles, and in essence are no different to picture frames, candles, and other types of decorative ornaments. They are also not just for kids or people under a certain age, you are infantilising your husband and his hobby by how you keep referring to them, while thinking of yourself as "adult" and "grown up" by your decoration item choices.
My partner is a huge collector like your husband, of specific intricate lego sets you build once then display, funko pops, solid resin moulded figures, and a few action figure types. He also keeps all of the boxes, and certain limited edition releases never get unboxed, and even get special protective boxes to keep the original packaging pristine. It genuinely upsets and offends him whenever his mum comes round and berrates him for having them, or notices a new one, tells him to sell them etc. I wouldn't be surprised if you're hurting your husbands feelings too.
You're trying to restrict him and his personality to one hidden room nobody else would go in, how would you like that? He might equally dislike YOUR choices of candles, ornaments etc. You're a partnership in a jointly owned and lived in home, you have to compromise and allow both of you to have aspects of yourselves in shared rooms. He needs to find somewhere to store the boxes sure, but the figures themselves aren't unreasonable to display in the livingroom, as long as you BOTH get an equal ammount of space for your decorative choices.

This would be 100% no for me. Those figurines are hideous. I would give him one warning and then throw them all in a box (and in the bin).

YANBU OP. I’d hate this. Every time he puts something up in a communal room, can you take it down and put it in his hobby room? Take them all down, put them in a box and put the box in there! Then keep adding to it if he adds any more. It’s okay for him to collect them but they’re not decor.

I would not tolerate this. Pack them up in boxes and shove them in his office room.

If he moves them back, I second the PP who suggested getting a really snotty friend round to help you 😆

Chuck them all out and tell him there was a massive battle and sadly no one survived. Actually maybe you could leave one giant Orc or something and declare him the victor.

Mmm...

He is being a dick not sorting out his room. Yes.

However I think you are also being a dick by deciding that your decor tastes/style trumps all.

Why not tell him he can have ONE area in the living room to display his current favourite pieces, and the rest have to go in their own room. He can then cycle through them as he chooses.

It would absolutely piss me off if to look at my lovely lovely things, I had to go and sit in another private room to do so. It would also piss me off if the whole house were cluttered in stuff I don't like.

Excellent idea.

I agree with you. My husband has similar collections and we have things displayed on rotation. The difference is he would never expect to just clutter the surfaces with his stuff. It would look shit.

I would put them in a box and place it in his room that he needs to do up. Ask him to pick just one or two for the mantelpiece or something.

l think it’s alright for him to put the figurines on display in the living room but not a whole shelf. You wouldn’t load up the mantelpiece with 30 scented candles.

ToysRUs 😂😭

I think he's being very selfish.

Do not give in.

If I collected teddies (which I don't), I wouldn't expect other people to have to suffer them.

Sounds like he's being lazy. He can't be bothered to sort the room out so he's started to put stuff back in the lounge. I'd be fuming with his attitude. I'd give him 3 months to sort the room or you're taking it back as a room for you. Put his boxes up in the loft and change the purpose of the room.

He can't have it all ways. He either uses it or loses it. Man child.

Just stick them in a box and put them in his room when he’s out. When he brings it up remind him that he agreed to this when you moved house.

Of course you’re not being unreasonable. You’re adults, of course its inappropriate for toys to be on display in a grown up space. Normal home decor like candles is not the same as comic book figures and anyone who thinks it is is a child or a troll. Toys - for any age group - don’t belong in a communal living space.

Why? He has an entire room that's an OP-free zone. It's a binary thing - there's no 50%, as they're either in there or they're not.

Doll room - husband 1, OP 0
Shared Bedroom with dolls - husband 1, OP 0
Shared Living room with dolls - husband 1, OP and DC 0

THIS
(My dh is the same - though we've sold them now -)

You have my sympathy. That is truly hideous.

OP just box up all the crap he considers "yours". Get a plug in air freshener or something for the dogs and remove the candles and ornaments and picture frames etc. Then put all his toys in his toyroom. Show him you're serious.

Have the living room bare until you can agree on a set number of items that give you both joy. So buy 6 ornaments together that you both love, or display 6 plants you both love, don't compromise on one joyless decorative piece of tat for you and one toy for him because your living space will still look like a child decorated it.